So, to break it down nice and simply: rational communication is always the better choice.
Well, I can definitely agree on that.
the woman releases her frustrations through tears and the man through anger.
I almost never get angry, even when frustrated. Does that mean I'm special?! ◕_◕
But pleeease spouse, when your wife/husband turns to you; turn the TV off, put the phone away.
Is there experience speaking? :P
Hence, avoiding cynicism, sarcasm, disrespectful remarks and tuning out is a smart move.
WHAT?!?!
But...but...that's all I'm capable of (╥﹏╥)
They often reside in a world of bitterness, deception and arrogance.
Sounds like the world I'm living in, but I constantly reflect upon myself. Maybe I'm just weird ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Anyway. I think your points are not only valid for marriages (you know my stand on that), but for all kinds of social interactions. Most of the problems between people can easily be avoided/solved by choosing to engage with each other mostly in rational arguments.
I tend to end/avoid debates whenever I feel the other party is emotionally involved too deeply - there is just not any point in discussing things further.
Whenever others start to scream and insult, I just sit there smiling and laughing - I refuse to take people serious who need to resort to emotions and offenses during a debate.
People need to learn how to communicate without too much emotional interference - otherwise their problems will be unnecessary hard to solve.
I would love to be able to check your heart rate and stress hormone levels in a moment of distress and frustration. This is what Dr. Gottman did in his love lab. He monitored couples'biological indicators of stress during discussions. Some people were extremely calm; yet, their stress levels were incredibly high. If you are one of those people that would make you special in the way that you have an incredible level of self-control and composure. 😊
It would be unfair to say my husband doesn't give me attention when I approach him. But ... oh yeah ... he loves his devices! 🙃
That is not true! I have seen how you conduct yourself in heated discussions and those were not the options you resorted to. Actually, It was through following a particular discussion you had with someone I started to really like you, and pay attention to you 😉
ok, so now you will have to explain to me how you consciously choose to live in such world. These sort of feeling are highly associated with low levels of subjective well being Ego, I am sure you know this. When you chronically nurture these sort of emotions you keep the sympathetic branch of your ANS going, which in turn trigger processes associated with hormones that can be detrimental to your health.
This is actually creepy! 😛 But, I do like your overall view of how to deal with people who are unable to control their emotions.
Thank you for this amazing comment!
Lots of love to you 😘
Maybe there will be an opportunity for that at some point :)
But yeah, a friend of mine once told me, I was the most self-controlled person she has ever met. There is probably some truth to that.
Well, I can absolutely understand him. So, let him know that he's not alone :P
Ok, NOW I am really curious which discussion you are referring to :)
Nah, I was just messing with you, so no worries. I'm acutally too cynical to be drowned in bitterness. I think, my state of mind can be summed up like this:
If there will ever be the last big war in which everybody is going to die - I will sit on a rooftop, a bottle of champagne in my hand and I will give a cheer to the nuclear explosions at the horizon. It's important to die with style after all :)
I actually thought about getting a white cat which I can pet while laughing. Because reasons (｡◝‿◜｡)
NEVER 🙊 😏
😂 😂
No words ...
Have a good weekend Ego & take care of yourself 😘