That was an inspiring read but I'm not surprised!
I believe our ego is the biggest obstacle on the way towards a peaceful and harmonious coexistence with our significant others. Being at peace with ourselves by letting go of all negative feelings can be a good start. Living in resentment can literally poison your body, being able to forgive is being able to live in happiness.
Through his 40 year research on couples’ relationships in the love lab - Psychologist Dr. J.M. Gottman found that it comes to a point where a heated dialogue ought to stop, he concluded that when heart rate reaches 100bpm no one is listening to what the other is saying anymore.
Heated dialogues can only cause further problems from my humble point of view. Bringing negativity and tension into a conversation makes people uncomfortable in the presence of each other and if this keeps happening then people might decide it's time to call it a day. The point of any discussion should be to fix things and not to make them worse.
It is so fortunate that you are in a successful and happy marriage! Communication is key and sounds like you guys got this. I'm not married and I can't see that happening any time soon. There are many things that have to be dealt with first, plus I don't actually feel like I'm in the mood yet. Taking into consideration the way I feel, it would be a pretty irresponsible decision to make right now and I try to avoid such decisions in life.
Thanks for this beautiful read!
Have a nice day :)
Oh @lordneroo
This is such a wonderful comment. It looks like we share the same opinion about overall subjective well-being. This is exactly what I tell people over, and over again. Especially to those who actually consciously choose NOT to forgive (personally, I find this a very peculiar choice).
We are not happy all the time, of course; but we are most of the time. We learnt about ourselves, about each other's flaws and constantly work on making the most of our differences :)
You seem to be very aware of your inner-self. Making sensible decisions upon self-evaluation paves the way to a life of emotional stability and high levels of subjective well-being lordneroo.
You will make a great sensible husband to some lucky girl out there! 😊