Wow, that's great pieces of wisdom there, @damion-m. Thanks for the share.
I think your approach of understanding oneself and playing by your own strengths is the right way to go, especially for someone who may have an external frame of reference. Sure, it's good to have feedback, but truth is, we still have to make the decision at the end, and girls appreciate a man that can carry our his decisions on his own. (then again, this could be assumption too)
No, Bro. You are absolutely on the money. It is not only women that appreciate a good follow through rate on decisions. This is a leadership trait when it is taken to it's natural ends and it becomes one of the most valuable pieces of the equation once you align all the other parts of this effort together.
My reasoning for suggesting that one should vet the feedback from others is that you only surround yourself with a high quality group of advisors. This applies to everybody, but especially to a person with an external frame of reference since such a person is susceptible to harsh criticism.
While having an internal frame of reference may allow me to be nearly immune to feedback since I am my own standard I have the problem on not getting enough feedback to calibrate to what is going on around me. From what I can remember about what I was taught about frames of reference is that changing them is way too much effort, and what these frames influence is your personal style. It is better to accept it as it is and mitigate some of the obvious downsides through some practices
ps. It has been awhile since I have dived into this, and it was fun. You can hit me up on the discord server of VOTU if you want to discuss it some more. At one stage I buried myself so deep into this that I could probably speak about it non-stop for two days
Looks like you had been perfecting the craft! Yes, I will look you up at Discord. :)