My landlord increased the rent of my apartment earlier in the year, and I was very sad. I was in the middle of many financial responsibilities and debt, but did I predict it'd happen? Yes, did I prepare for it?
I knew that if I had to pay for another house, I'd pay more, and it might take me a long time to get a new house, and I was exactly in the state of mind and health to begin house hunting. I believe she knew that I had no option but to pay.
Some tenant in the house also got an increment and decided it was too expensive and that he was going to leave. Unfortunately, he didn't think ahead or spend time in introspection.
After he finally saw that it'll cost him more to leave, he decided to pay the rent, but the landlord had already gotten angry and said she wasn't going to accept his money. This tenant reminded me of myself when I was younger: rash, full of enthusiasm, acting more, and thinking less. This was why I didn't blame him and instead chose to beg the landlord on his behalf.
Experience is underrated in life; if everyone was born with experience, life would be perfect. No mistakes, no pain, no problems. Unfortunately, experiences are a very expensive commodity, but with the price of pain, tears, regrets, and suffering.
The most experienced people in life do not talk too much; that is because they're always spending time thinking. Sometimes there is no time to talk. Being an experience "veteran" is like serving three or four tours in Afghanistan in the US Army.
You are a veteran; you live with so many PTSD symptoms, and you're constantly replaying the image of the decisions that you made wrongly.
The sound of the gun and the images of lifeless bodies and blood, the injured comrades, and the logical decisions you had to make because of war zone situations, at the expense of the lives of others. Sure, you shoot a 50 CAL with pinpoint accuracy, you have mastered the acts of combat, and you probably got a medal too, but to what end? Deep down inside you are wounded; the price of your experience is to live with guilt and regrets.
While experience is overly good and helps you become a better man over time, you could have been broken internally before you get to this ultimate sensei level. On the other hand, people without experience will probably suffer a lot, but this suffering is how they actually become experienced.
Not everybody eventually becomes a master; some people lose their lives in the process, and there are people who actually get the second chance to realign their lives, but some people never get the second chance even though they have not learned the hard way.
Never getting a second chance in life is one of the biggest lessons that you can learn from being experienced; that is because you have learned but you cannot apply this lesson to better your life. It's a two-edged sword scenario.
The only way experience becomes 100% good is when you are born with it or you get to download and upload it immediately after you're born. A lot of depressed people are experienced people. They are broken and appear sick, but deep down you wouldn't know that they have a lot of experience inside of them.
Ah! Life would have been much easier and better if this was possible. 😅
Unfortunately, reality can be harsher
Sadly it is.
thankGod from the tone in your writing i sense a comeback.....
glory to God...
some landlords too are wickedness personalised they know all of these and that's you're at the loosing ends without options that's why they do all that they do without fairness of heart
To live is to learn. Experience doesn't come easy and those who are young and impulsive will make many follies of youth along the way. The mastery of concepts in life can be crippling, that is the rub. Life is full of trauma, physical, emotional, financial... The list goes on and on. And no one escapes without demons and deep set scars that define how they will react and behave in the future. Having been in those before discussed war zones those things you see never go away and they do haunt you for the rest of your life. Just as bad or toxic relationships can to the same, just not to the same extent.
The human mind can handle a lot and help us through much of life's challenges, but in some the mind isn't able to cope and can "break" leaving PTSD. I have some, it's a fact of life I deal with daily. You do your best to move on and keep your mind busy on other items rather than delving deep into the past. The nightmares will still come, but hopefully not as often as time moves on...
Sorry to hear about you getting gauged on the rent, it's funny how greedy landlords can be when they know you don't have any other good options. People really have just become too greedy in this world...
Our landlord increased the rent here too, but what can you do? Everything else is too much expensive so there is no other choice...
Experience on your skin, you hardly learn from others... I recognize myself in thinking rather than speaking, I constantly think 100 steps ahead
Everything is a learning experience, and I don't blame anyone for increasing rent. Everything is getting more expensive, and it's too bad that the other tenant wasn't thinking before acting. It will be something he learns from, and I hope he doesn't make the same mistake in the future.
Unfortunately , no one was born with an experience, life teaches us as some point.
The tenant was lucky to have you plead on his behalf and I hope the landlady agreed ?
Moving in to a new house attracts bigger fees and that's why some landlord come around to increase rents unnecessarily
Your reflection is powerful and sincere, and it makes us think about how often we only learn when there is no turning back.
!ALIVE