Commitment is something that contains cognitive element. Commitment is a decision to love someone and maintain that love. That is, commitment is not related to "can" or "cannot". Commitment is not related to "there" or "no". Commitment is related to "want" or "don't want". Commitment in a love relationship is a process. We cannot build commitments too quickly. We can build commitment when we get to know our loved one closely.
There is a case example of building commitment too quickly. It is a student who asks his girlfriend to be involved in a graduation photo. The student asks his girlfriend to take a picture with the student's family. It shows that a commitment made by the student and his lover is too fast. On the other hand, there is a case example regarding commitment building that take too long. It is a couple who has been dating for a long time. However, one of the two is not ready to get married. Finally, one of them cheats. He cheats because he doesn't have a commitment to get married.
There is person who is vulnerable to lose his commitment to his partner. He is a person who regards his lover as the one. He considers his girlfriend as the most appropriate person to accompany his life. When his girlfriend is no longer in accordance with his wishes, he will lose his commitment to his partner. Besides that, there is person who is selfish. He will remain committed if his girlfriend can give happiness to him. However, he will break his commitment if his girlfriend can no longer provide happiness to him.
Besides that, there is person who has a strong commitment. He makes a commitment as dedication. He also makes a commitment as a service. He also prioritizes interests of his partner. In addition, he considers marriage a priority. He is a person who builds commitment in his love relationship. If we want to have a strong commitment, we must imitate what he does. If our spouse is like that person, we must take care of our spouse. We must defend our partner.