Around where? And yes, it is kinda sad. It's sort of a paradox, really. A lot of dudes THINK they want a submissive, doting, subservient woman to do their sexual bidding. But this actually provides no real stimulation when it is played out in real life.
What they REALLY want (and I am happy to be proven wrong), is a very self assured, strong, sexually comfortable woman who KNOWS her body, how to let her guard down, how to pleasure, and how to be vulnerable, who can easily BECOME submissive, sweet, doting, and subservient in the bedroom (and otherwise), for his pleasure, at his will, and with enthusiasm, but on purpose. And as a result of having a level of trust.
My experience tells me that this is a far more compelling experience than the fantasy of poor witless girl getting used at leisure.