Yesterday, I took my daughter out to the field to kick a ball for the first time. We are pretty lucky that that last year they put in a fake grass top on it as it used to be bare earth and when it rained, was just mud. My daughter really loved it out there and we spent about an hour running and kicking and passing it to each other. She isn't so fast on her feet luckily, I can still keep up a little while longer although I think she has caught me on the intelligence side already.
Today I posted about parenting which is of course driven by my hope to raise this little one well. It is not that I think I am incapable it is just that things are moving so fast in this world that for her to have the best chance of reaching her own potentials, I am going o have to keep learning myself. What I should learn is the question.
Over the last year I have been learning a lot about a lot of things through Steemit and Steem which has been great considering I have also been earning while doing it. I think if there is ever a great model for education it is, Earn while you learn. Not that money should be the goal of education itself but, a world that actually supports personal development is one that is likely going to maximize flourishing.
Too many miss out on education because they can't afford the time away for it, I know it has been a problem for me. I don't just mean school here of course and for the most part, I am very critical of the current schooling systems but in time and with pressure applied, there is hope that they could one day actually be educational rather than mildly oppressive at best.
My Steemit journey started because of my daughter and the costs involved with her care. In the end we managed through and I never had to cash anything out. My wife wanted me to take some but I kept saying 'we will make it, we will make it.' If I really had to cash out though, I would have. My wife still wants me to and I think if there is ever a significant price rise, I will take a little and give us some breathing room.
But still, my daughter is the goal here and the goal is to help be part of making the world a somewhat better place for her and her generation. If I want the best for her, it is not going to be able to be limited to just her as to do so, wouldn't bring out her best. In my view we are at our best when we are supporting others to be their best and, vice versa. This can be within a relationship, family unit or much larger community.
This is my overall arch with Steem too, to help people be there best. It might be only a little help here or there but perhaps it is enough of a nudge that creates a new ripple or, opens up a doorway to a new opportunity that didn't exist prior. Who knows if it will work out but, it is going to take a lot of additional learning and work also.
People look at the income received and potential here and think that is where the value lies but that is actually secondary to the true value although, very important to the process. The earnings n the cryptospace at the moment really only by a better life or more opportunity in fiat for the most part and that is going to need to change as relying on fiat is to tie ourselves to the desires of the very authorities we are trying to break away from and as long as we must continue this way, they can hold it over us.
Perhaps there will come a time where the schools are decentralized and free and not limited by a program that creates workers but instead a space where people can study, learn and practice to be their best in whatever way that means for them. This is part of my experience and journey here, I feel that through my writing, I am slowly becoming a better version of myself. This doesn't mean what I write is necessarily getting better but, how I think and act in the real world is changing also.
This place is not actually separate from the real world, it is a facet of it. Who people are and how they act here is a reflection of them as people in that real world. People like to pretend that this is a fantasy world and the masks protect them but, it is still them who are acting, even if anonymously. Being unknown doesn't mean one can do as one pleases and if someone thinks it does and behaves as if it does, it tells about that person in reality.
I find the contrasts and conflicts interesting as people speak of freedom yet act like dictators, talk of charity while behaving miserly. It seems that finding the line of best fit between what is best now and what is best in the future is difficult. Perhaps it shouldn't be difficult at all, perhaps the pathway forward should actually be straight unconflicted. I didn't say easy.
Maybe if we actually spend some time working out possibilities, potentials, skills and requirements of where we want to aim for in the future, we would have a pretty clear path to take. most of the time though we confuse what feels good now as being a road to a healthy future. In my experience, rarely is that the case. Generally what is good for the future takes time, investment and work now.
When it comes to my daughter, I have to find the balance between growing as an individual, and investing into her future. Steem is a large part of my financial investment, Steemit is a large part of my time investment but, I still have to spend time running around on the field with her, taking with her, joking with her, playing games with her and being a father.
In my view, I am a large part of her education and it isn't good enough to just teach her stuff, she needs to see and experience what life has to offer so she can work out what kind of human she is going to be and what position on the field she will choose to play.
I feel like slowly, slowly, I am finding my own position too.
Taraz
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I am son. I am still young of 19 years old but I know my father has gone through a lot bring me to this point he helped me alot.
My father was and is my best teacher, and you are too.
The way you care about your daughter is marvelous it not like its just a compliment I truly believe so, because the way you explained you concerns I know very very few peoples you have this kind of vision.
You daughter is lucky to have a father like you I wish everyone be like that
You simply love your daughter too much.
Its how every parent should be.
Its hard to point out one thing out of all what you said because eveything is of prime importance. When I am going to be a parent I am going to let my child be the best as you said above too.
you are doing a great job taking care of her future most of people I know dont care much about the future of kids, or may be its the difference where I live.
You did well for her I want to do atleast near to what you did if not equal to you - when I am going to be a parent!
Thanks for sharing @tarazkp
Something good you can do for your daughter is to teach or instruct her in some kind of skill, whether writing, drawing, sports; some skill that you her could develop and exploit.
because these skills keep people busy and teach good values: perseverance, discipline, honesty, respect while having funn and doing something you love.
This has started very early in our house. She is the spongiest of sponges.
Now you are learning to be a father. As parents, we want the best for our children. Lots of sacrifices for them in order for them to be safe, be a strong person whenever they grow older and live their lives. We play a major role in their growth and development.
I believe she would like learning to play the drums!
I read this and it make sense so I must agree with you on getting a Drum set for the child
Fun With Drumming - Child Development Center - The Learning Experience
Or... the trumpet!
Her Aunty will actually give her piano lessons when she is a little older. She really enjoys the instruments she has but thankfully, the recorder stays at the grandparent's.
Oh she would make a fine footballer, scoring goals for papa and for country.
I think the best thing you have done is balancing the time you invest on creating a better future for your family and being there with your daughter as she experiences life at her own pace.
Lots of parents spend so much time trying to get as much money as they can so that their children's future will be secure, that they miss the beauty of the present. By the time the future comes, in some cases, the children leave them with all the wealth. I think prioritizing time is a good idea that all parents should emulate.
When she kicked the ball into the goals, she would look at it and nonchalantly say, "There it goes."
It is hard to balance every moment so I have to look big picture, some days I hardly see her, some days it is only her.
Women are less likely than men to consider the long-term potential of anything. Sorry ladies, but that's the way it is. If you are a woman and a long-term thinker, you are in an even smaller minority among women than similar men are among men.
I would see those things as investments, too. The better your relationship with her is now, the better chances you have to be able to relate to her when she's older.
You are right, generally speaking, women are less risk-seeking than men. It has affects on investments and, length of life.
I am hoping that in the future I am patient enough and wise enough to learn all the new things from her.
I always tell young guys they shouldn't get seriously involved with women before they are established. For a man trying to achieve success a woman in his life can be such a drag. It takes a lot of time, energy and appetite for risk to be able to succeed in life. When you're struggling it does not help if you have a girlfriend or a wife complaining about never having time for them, or no money to get them the things they want, telling you to cash out, not to take any risks or telling you they won't relocate because of the exceptional job offer you had in another locality. Besides, if your success is your schtick and not your great looks or supremely cool personality, you'll be in much more demand after you've made it with the added benefit of it being put into clear focus what women are really after from you. Also, those other things tend not to last as a man ages but money and status never get old.
There is one thing I want to tell you. It is a danger for parents who love their children very much and want to do everything as well as possible. That is the removal of every stone for their feet. Children must learn from their own mistakes and experience what they can and can not do. In our generation, people only have one, two or maybe three children and they want to help them as well as possible, because they think that if I praise them for everything they do, and remove anything that is difficult or a bit dangerous, they will be great adults. In my experience as a teacher, this behavior is dangerous. Then you nurture little princes and princesses who think the world revolves around them instead of being part of that world.
I do not want to suggest that you are such a parent. On the contrary, I think you are very well aware of this danger. It is more of a comment in general, 'to whom it concerns'.
I was hoping to be good cop - I am not. =)
Here it is about fail often and well. Fall and pick yourself up. She has never been in any danger but, we haven't padded our home or wrapped her in cotton wool. One thing that I have noticed is she repeats something I say to her when she feels she has done well, 'Good work.' She doesn't misuse it either as she knows when what she has done is worthy of the phrase and when it isn't. All in all, she is quite self sufficient for a 21 month baby.
This is the reason why teachers keep learning more, proactively. Back in college, i used to help anchor a tutorial class, not that i was smart ass or anything like that, but nobody else will do it, and i really needed to pass the course than anybody else, so i had to pay more attention, then i realised that the more i could explain to a colleague, the more i understood the matter, and the better i could explain
This is particularly true, infact for me,visualizing steemit and relating it to real life helped me understand the system more
Your daughter has got an awesome father i can trust that
It does and it also helps understand our place here and what we want to be and how to be to get there.
The very fact that you care is quite significant when it comes to judging you as a parent, @tarazkp. You notice the concern you have for your baby's future, and it's normal for parents to expect their children to have more than they could achieve; but you also express your concern for others, not so common these days when individualities are the order of the day. You know that if you fight for a better society, it's that society that your daughter is going to have. I subscribe to every word you have to say about education: it is education that can change the world and make it better. I wish there were more people who cared not only for themselves, but also for those around them. Thank you for sharing.
This is a point of society isn't it? To make it better for the next generation and so on.
you are not going to be able to keep up with her in the long term. what she needs is a rock . a shoulder to cry on and to give her a kiss on her forehead saying I'm proud of you . She will remember the little things like playing ball with Dad . Be there just be there and all will work out .
Ripples are good they go on and on . and you really don't see them until they reach the shore
My worry is that my body won't make it until a point where she will be able to remember me kicking a ball with her =)
You are going to be a exceptional father, your daughter is a very lucky person to have you.
Wow..she is adorable.
I think - you should keep cashing out some money from time to time.
Not huge amounts - just little to do the extra stuff. For example, if you go on vacation every six months then go with the Steem cash. It will help you in ways. And if anything goes out of hand in futute then at least you cashed in on something.
Anyway, I wish you all the best. You will be a good parent - I believe you.
At some point I will. Not yet.
Reading this almost brought me to tears , this has brought the inspiration to write a letter to my unborn child of how I’m working to make life worth living for him/her. You’re such a wonderful father and you’d continue to do better until you become her hero. You’re an inspiration my friend
She could make a good footballer, taking good care of our God's giving children is the best thing that could ever happen in our lives as parents
Nicely said and reading through your work I think you are a good dad. She is precious and looks happy. Good job. As for making a difference in other people's lives, I find a lot I can use in the pieces you write so here you are contributing to someone's life, thank you. I got onto Steemit to start saving towards some extra money toward retirement. I have a retirement fund, but the economy and political situation in South Africa looks grim forward and saving is becoming harder and harder and jobs more scares almost every six months. Keep writing mate
Your daughter is lucky she has parents who have her best interests at heart.
Education costs are astronomical these days especially when one gets to university. It is not free where I am like some other countries.
You are right to keep your earnings in Steem until you don't have a choice. Why all the hard work and time if you aren't going to enjoy it somewhere. Maybe not even enjoy but use it to pay a bill. I have looked at where I want to be in 6 months and then a year. I have a hugely ambitious growth period and know it is possible due to the likes of yourself and a few others. I have noticed you reach a tipping point, mainly with the value of your vote and the growth from that point would be noticeable every week thereafter. i understand when you say stick with it and give it time. I will also have to at some stage take some funds when needed. In order to do it you need a substantial amount otherwise you go backwards.