"Depression is like drowning... Except you can see everyone else around you breathing completely fine." -Unknown
In our society, people don’t take mental health in general as seriously as it should be. Fortunately, there aren’t a lot of people who suffer from severe depression but that means that those who suffer from it are in the minority. And this makes it very hard for you to find someone who understands what you're going through when you tell them you have severe depression.
Usually when you try to explain to depression to others or tell them that you have it, you'll get friends and family who tell you to get over it, to not think about it too much or you'll feel better if you smile. So I try to smile and be positive but I keep getting sucked into despair by stupid triggers in my environment and myself, like when I think about all the popular girls who bullied me or when I look at my naked body in the mirror. When I'm triggered I have to struggle for about the next hour to get out of the pit of despair I fall into. That shows you that depression is more than just a mood to just get over. Depression and other mental disorders like anxiety and bipolar are disorders which little is known about and no one will talk about. I want this to change. I want to have an open discussion about how society sees mental illness. So today I decided to tell you my story about how I overcame my depression and how I achieved my weight loss.
I took a lot of weight since I was 15 (age when I was 52 kilos) when I stopped swimming. From 8 to 15, I was a high-level sports, I train for 3 hours everyday, the weekend I have competition and during the holiday I go to training school.
This daily charge of intense sport had become too stressful for me, and inconsistent with my studies. The problem is that when I was still sporty, I ate a lot ... And once stopped the sport, I continued to eat the same way (as I have had to adjust calorie intake by eating less after stopping because my level of physical activity had greatly lowered).
In addition, once entered high school, I discovered new things: fast food I was eating regularly, the buffets, etc. All this of course could not fix things or help me eat healthy. Instead of eating at the university canteen, I went to Kebab for lunch not far from the High school. The result is inevitable in the absence of sport: I took 19 kg in 3 years (it could have been worse you might say).
The fact of finding myself on the verge of being obese made me realize that I had gone too far in my eating habits. The word "obesity" frightened so I decided to seriously lose weight. There are lots of factors that led me to take this approach, I used to be bullied a lot during high school because of my weight, The girls/popular group were mean and made fun of me because I was different than them. , my parents used to always fat shaming me, and I started to hate how I look more and more. All these things let me into depression. "Tell your friends about your depression" they said and I did. But they don't care. No one cares. My best friends ignored my messages all day. They read it but they don’t reply or forget to reply, they never messaged me spontaneously. But depression isn't like a broken leg. Depression is more like cancer. It can be fatal and there is nothing any one can do to just fix it. I have to fix it myself, I am the only one who can do it.
I am overweight since I was the age of 17, but it was not until my 18 years that I actually realized what I was doing to my body suffer. Perhaps too young or too lazy to do this before, but it is better late than never, I am proud to announce to everyone that I lost 10 kilos and having achieved this weight loss means a lot to me.
What are the consequences of this thinning? The benefits of weight lost are not only visible on my body but they are also visible on my mind. Of course I love the benefits of my weight loss on my body. My face is not bloated, my legs are lighter and breathlessness is much rarer. My big belly is now a lot smaller and allows me to wear jeans and other clothing accessories closer to the body. But my mind also became stronger, and I appreciate this improvement as much as the virtues visible on my body. I became more confident of my body image, more sociable, happier, less sad, and less whiny. What's great is that I fulfilled both physically and mentally in just five months to plan. And this is how I overcame my depression.
My tips for all the steemians who want to lose 10 kilos in 5 months like me
•Be determined to lose weight mentally. If you are not strong enough in your head or motivated, you will NOT (and I've seen in many, many people) lose weight over a period exceeding 7 days.
• Start a fasting if only for 2 days, eating only at a time that will seem most appropriate. The goal will not only cleanse your body but also your stomach condition to "absorb" less foods.
• Eat in small plates (put your dishes in the dessert plates for example).
• Cooking a fair portion to avoid finishing the rest.
• Drink regularly during the meal (for me between 1 glass and a half and two glasses of water).
• regularly note the dates and weight loss.
• Do not hesitate to take a picture from all angles before you start your "diet" to report to you on developments.
Cheers,
Layla
The real problems in life are those that one can't do much about. Weight isn't one of them because weight can be adjusted. Of course now that you lost 10kg after consciously deciding to do just that, you know that ;)
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Awesome post! Everyone has body issues and there is a lot of people who shame people beause they are not confident in themselves. YOu can't worry about them. You look great! I just posted Steemit's first pool meeting where I talk about my initial through of the platform....etc. I upvoted you! Check out my post. https://steemit.com/steem/@brianphobos/first-pool-meeting-on-steemit-initial-thoughts-and-advice-from-someone-who-has-made-money-online-since-2008
I've seen you post that on like 8 other posts. A little spammy, don't you think?
(see https://steemd.com/@brianphobos) - all you're doing is posting spammy comments linking to your post over and over again
Life is Beautiful ! do not forget about it!
🙏
Hi ricegum
Please stay positive
I know how you feel, as I also suffer from Depression with multiple Trigger.
I have been going counselling that have been a great help.
My suffering have cause me to stop working for over a year now.
Luckily I have a few friends that have been helping me,
to get out of me shitty hole.
Best if you feel down , get out from where you are and go to your friends that have been supporting you.
Talk about it.
For Everyone ,
If you know your friend suffer from Depression , please help your friends & your close one.
They will need your support. Help them to get over this as soon as possible.
Take Cares
Ricegum
Such inspirations ! Keep it up .
Feel free to visit my blog :)
Truly inspiring story. I will be featuring your post today
Thank you for sharing so honestly - it's a shame that depression remains a fairly taboo subject, but the solutions will only be found when it is discussed openly.
https://steemit.com/life/@gavvet/daily-pick-of-hidden-gems-7-featuring-dragonslayer109-as-author link to where im featuring your post
What's with all these names of all these whales in the post? Just for that you get a free down vote!
The weight matters,but most importantly the soul
Thank you so much for sharing this story :)
It is really helpful for people to know that they are not alone.
Hi, I want to tell you that I understand what bullying made you do, I'm Venezuelan and bullying is a way of life, in my case I'm imune to mess with me. He was a fat boy, weighed 110 kilograms and one day my girlfriend left me for another man, I lived a depression such that in just one month I got to weigh 70 kilograms. My family helped me out of my problem. It was terrible that experience, I hope no one ever suffer.
You must be strong against the bullying, more and better you are. Never have recesses and your life is worth gold.
You look great and i hope you feel even better! Love and support flooding from my heart to yours. Brisbane Australia. Keep up the fight for those who can't see a way out of the hole.
can you prove your identity?