A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”
He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”
I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.
I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.
I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.
I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.
I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.
I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.
I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you
But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!
Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?
Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.
Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.
The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! “
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Great post. Everything starts in the home. I always believe that one job that I can never truly complete or be a master at is that Of husband and father. Always learning new things and always making mistakes. Have a great day.
Thank you!
Your beliefs are powerful Justin, if you already said to me 'everything starts in the home" you have a solid mindset foundation and it is a journey and all that requires is awareness, compromise and flexibility in your mindset to be the best version you can be of yourself as a husband and father and you will do just fine....and absolutely make mistakes, as we all do, buy you said it, always learning. Hope you have an awesome day too!
@wolf77: welcome to steemit my friend, rock the place.
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I was having a similar conversation relating to shopping with the significant other. My friend said, "why would you?" to which I replied, "why wouldn't I?". She's my best friend, I love doing stuff with her, even shopping.
Exactly mate, exactly. The greatest team you will ever be a part of, yet so many let it dissolve.
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