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Marriage is not a company. You can't find a director or an editor in it. Actually, this is the best for the sake of marriage. It should be shared and practiced equally. If i must compare it, it's a community but a dictatorship. Especially happy marriages. So, if you want to have a happy marriage, sympathy, equality and jobsharing are musts.
All of those three are a different blog subjects. I want to share one of them today: Jobsharing. For me, it's the essential part for tranquility in a marriage.
My married friends have a different lifstyle then us. Me and Ece's life dissimilar of theirs. I.e. one of my friend since primary school have married last year. And her wife gave birth to their little boy last month. Woman in this coupldom has no work but home. Man is the only one working. Their jobsharing is simple: man looks outside, woman looks inside. Man does shopping, make money from job, woman cooks, look after their boy and keep the house clean.
You may argue the equality in this marriage. But can't argue the perfectness of jobsharing. Everybody knows its duty.
My other married friends also walking in the way of of above mentioned lifestyle. Almost all of them thinking about making a child and keep their wife in home. As a guardian of their children. Well, i can't argue if their wives already accepted it.
As you can see, they all gonna have a perfect jobsharing. But what about both working couples like us? What are we doing exactly?
First of all, everyone should choose most hated houseworks. For me, iron and cleaning the bathroom. And for Ece, preparing breakfasts and cleaning dishes. That means Ece going to make iron and clean the bathroom, and i will prepare breakfasts and clean the dishes.
This is a good start for a jobsharing. But not enough. Ther will be still lots of things to do. Laundry, general cleaning, cooking etc. In short, there is a lot of burden for already working people to do. So, second thing of jobsharing is once one of you started to make housework, other one should hep him/her. Otherwise working spouse could feel insulted and let it go. And that means a dirty, smelly and messy house. Nobody wants that.
And third part of jobsharing is being flexible. Yes, i hate from iron but i should do it if Ece feels bad. And Ece should prepare the breakfast if i'm not in the mood. This can be counted on sympathy part of marriage as well. They all connetcted to each other anyway.
As you can see, if you both working, then you should divide your labor and undertake houseworks together. This is not the path my friends gonna take. But i want to walk that way and respect my wife's past efforts. She tried really hard to be that good in her job.
-Ece, i wouldn't do such a thing to you.
-You wouldn't do what?
-After you studied hard and become a skilled teacher, i can't make you stay at home and look after our future children rather than work.
-Why not?
-What do you mean?
-Have you asked me if i want to stay at home or go to work? I prefer stay at home.
-But what about your past efforts to finish university and the difficulties you have already faced on your business life?
-Fuck them. I'm only working to close our debts and the fucking mortgage. After these, you can't make me work.
Sometimes i can't understand her...
