Talking about break-ups is a no no for me. Maybe it's because I feel like it is in the past and there is no need to revisit the issue.
I am a woman who loves hard. I would go above and beyond to make my partner happy, and I expect that loyalty as well. Looking back at this experience, I understand that the relationship was doomed from the start and there was no need crying over spilled milk.
I want to make it clear that I am not perfect but in my quest to become perfect for him, I lost myself, had self esteem issues and got myself involved in some shitty things.
Like I said in a previous post, I was an awkward teenager, tall, straight with no self confidence what so ever.
I have always had a thing for well built men, he was so handsome, perfect body and all. We started off well, went through patches and came out. On their third year was when all the drama started.
The first issue was when we both found out that we had the AS genotype. I had known mine all the while but he told me that he was AA. When he fell sick he went to do a blood test and found out he was AS. Bear in mind that we had already spent 2 years together. It was shocking for me! All that I thought of was where would I start from. We made a joint decision to end it amicably and just be exclusive.
Due to certain issues about schooling, I graduated before him and headed for NYSC. We were still dating. We spoke on the phone but he seemed distant, he never called always complaining of money etc
Well, my birthday was coming up and I begged him to come, he complained of money but I was ready to foot the bill all I wanted was for him to come. I had been to his apartment so many times and I wanted him to see mine.
After much persuasion, he agreed to come. I was expectant, made so many arrangements but in the eve of my birthday he cancelled. I was so sad.
Since he couldn't make it, I planned to see him during the short holidays. He knew I was coming but there was no excitement. Lol. He didn't even call to know when I was leaving. So I left very early and went to his place.
In two hours, I was there. He didn't spend the night at home. When he came home he was shocked but I acted cool.
Later that night, I went through his phone and saw a message where he professed undying love for this girl. Ha! Bingo! I thought as much. I couldn't bear it. It would have been easier if he just broke it off with me. He was busy with another woman. The most painful part was that this girl knew me. Maybe he had even told her that I was no longer his girlfriend.
Anyway, I cried so much that he left the room for me and slept in his friends place. The following day, I went to my friend's place to spend the day. I only did that because he went down stairs to call his 'love'. I was so mad I left and didn't tell him where I went. That made him worried.
I came back. Yeah stupid me! The next day, he stepped out, he called and said to send him some info and that was it, he didn't come back to the house, he went and spent the night with her. I felt like a fool. Early the next morning, I packed my bags and spent the remaining holiday with my friend. His younger brother was worried bit I did not give any info about where I was.
I lost weight in two days. Lol. Looking back it seems so stupid.
Well, Karma is a Bitch!!!!!
The girl left him.
We met by accident some years later and thank God I was looking drop dead gorgeous! He couldn't believe his eyes.
I was more articulate, confident and of course beautiful. Hahaha
He tried his luck but he was already dead to me!
That's all in the past.
I am in a loving relationship now. It is give and take. I understand what a relationship should be like. I am much older. I advice my little cousins to stay away from meaningless relationships because the would only end in heart break.
Woo, this is so touching and a life experience. I do wish other younger ones will learn from your story so that they too will be very careful in their relationship... Thanks for sharing....upvoted and resteemed.
thank you very much. I hope they will o.
Wow! This is some deep stuff. Nothing hurts more than feeling used and unwanted. It is always better to go where you are celebrated rather than where you are tolerated. It wasn't an easy decision for you but with courage you broke free. Most people go in search of stones when they have diamond. You never really know what you have until you loose it. This is a valuable lesson he can chew on. Some guys are a disgrace to the X and Y chromosome. I am glad you learned and you are better for it. Yes, you are not only gorgeous, you are absolutely stunning. I could stare at you all day. What a blessed guy you have now.
Thanks for opening up and sharing. The tears were never in vain. You are better for it and led you right into the arms of this new adorable soul. Regards to him.
thank you for your kind words. Experience is the best teacher, i learnt a lot from that episode in my life.
I am glad you are better for it. Thanks dear for sharing this. We keep learning in life. hugs