Receiving an answer that basically says no, but still in a good way, is hard to give and for some people also hard to get.
What I've also seen and heard few times is that people may even think alike and have the same opinions, but both of their ways to say things are so far from each other, that they don't even see how they think alike. Or it might just be the fact that you said, they like their own voices so much that they don't even listen the other one.
No one likes to feel irrelevant to the conversation, but screaming and aggression rarely leads to inclusion.
And those, who are on the receiving end of the screaming and aggression, even if they don't know why the message is delivered in that way but still decide or manage to see beyond that aggression, dig out and try to understand the real reason and answer back politely, lovingly and calmly, are the true masters of conversation and social skills. Wise people that may be educated or not, may be smart or not, but definitely are the kind of people who have my absolute admiration.
And back to the funny black and white remarks that I've decided to do here more than serious stuff, I think Finnish engineers and coders only have so much vacant slots on their skills set. They either have excellent machinery /code fixing skills that are a combination of hard work and talent, or they are good with people. And if they are good with people, they have no skills on things that doesn't have people in it. So they are humanists. Who, as we all know, have usually excellent social skills, but have no idea on how to invent, built stuff, statistics or basic calculation.
'Talking past each other' is the term often used for this.
The interesting thing is, depending on conversation, one can take the value out of the words and not answer back at all. Why engage in the lives of drama queens?
In Finland (in my experience) the engineers who take the time to learn the other side a little have a much larger advantage over the others.
This depends on their focus and intent as they are often able to see the trends in the people before the narrow technicals. They can be drivers of development.
There is so much potential in Finland but people here like to remain much too narrow in their skillsets without exploring a little wider. The quest to not be wrong but, limits the randomness of experience.
No reason. Drama queens do not deserve more attention. But some of those who answer screaming aren't necessarily drama queens. It's a tricky thing in life to know when to answer patiently, even if the other one can't talk politely, and when to just walk away. Internet trolls, as everyone who like to start a conversation with a total stranger impolitely, trolling, agressively, deserve no answer at all.
Indeed. Not only learning things that aren't that close to ones education, but also keeping ones eyes open all the time and learning something each day, is a good way to get smarter every day. And of course as we humans can never be totally alone, minding only about our own business, even if someone wanted to do that, isn't possible. It's always good for anyone to learn how to interact with people better. It makes the delivery of ones words so much easier if the receiving end is receiving, not building up their defenses, as you said.