RE: The Unlearning...

Now this is what I wanted, thank you @caesar816. There are so many beautiful nuggets of wisdom here!

First, having to transcend the unconsciousness and become aware of your own thought patterns is what separates the asleep and the awake. Then facing them in a way that creates positive change instead of guilt, fear, and self-loathing takes true courage. You are absolutely right spot on and I love it.

Second, what you said about seeing your new model through the old lens is awesome and tells me a lot about your journey. This is one of my favorite topics to speak about the lens through which we see the world.

Third, falling back to the old patterns, in my humble opinion, happens quite often but if you are aware that this is a possibility you can be viligant in keeping an eye out for it. Oh and those triggers, they do fire. For me and in my experience it has been about noticing the triggers and not using them to beat myself up but just saying thank you and appreciating the awareness.

If I had to add anything to this great follow up post of yours it would be that after those 3 steps you might come to the conclusion that the new model doesn't work as well as you thought it might and have to change it again. Or in the same vain of thought, you will eventually see that this new model will also become outdated and need to be replaced. Thus it becomes obvious that we need to be flexible and comfortable with change, essentially creating the habit of conscious evolution of our beliefs while gently and lovingly letting go of the outdated as stepping stones that took us as far as they could.