@builderofcastles her point is that men need to stop dismissing and ignoring women’s experiences and perspective. Your response is to dismiss her perspective and then blame women. way to go.
As a man, I understand how frustrating and confusing it can be to feel like the rules are changing and it’s not exactly clear what they are, and you don’t really know where and how you can be without offending someone. But lashing out with the exact behavior just described as ‘what not to do’ doesn’t help anyone, except to reinforce her truth, and reinforce your justification that you can’t do anything right so you might as well keep being an ass. Don’t fall for that. Actually listen to what is said, and if the gist of the message is ‘shut up and listen’ then it’s really not that hard to just shut up and actually listen. Try it.