Tips for E.Q.

in #writing7 years ago

Relationships seem harder now than ever to navigate and experience positively with longevity. Despite the obvious macro factors (career, stability) to micro factors (trust issues, insecurities) Men & Women cannot seem to make it fit tightly in today's generation. As mentioned there are many moving factors to consider but one important aspect that should not be overlooked is E.Q or Emotional Intelligence. Put simply according to Wikipedia E.Q. is the capability of individuals to recognize their own and other people's emotion, discern between different feelings and label them appropriately. Now while we all have the capacity for E.Q. it is more than likely people do not practice it in use or refine it i.e. MEN.

Lacking emotional intelligence was a biological necessity throughout Men's existence. Men had to carry a one-track instinct whether it be hunting, sex, or for battle. This has been a useful trait for survival but what was lost in the modern age was E.Q. Women crave emotional intelligence just about more than anything else, this is the road that leads to Rome. Possessing E.Q. for women leads to love, lust, intimacy, connection, and feeling valued. None of this can be attained first without a spark like a key to an ignition. It's the base understanding of knowing when a woman wants to be heard, when a woman wants to be seen, when a woman wants to be tasted.

Tips for E.Q.

-Feel the mood. This is where men struggle the most. Believe me from my own experiences I know this. We don’t want to ask women what's wrong just to be told nothing when we clearly know it's something. Nothing can be more agitating in a relationship. After a while men don't care much to ask about most things because woman for whatever reason cannot communicate on response. Women please to care of this ASAP. Nonetheless men feel the mood.

-Women don’t know everything but they FEEL EVERYTHING. At times they want to receive a compassionate look or receive affection. Again, women find it hard to communicate what they want but if a man develops E.Q. he can supply her with what she wants and needs at the right time no questions asked. After, it is like they hit an emotional reset and are good to go.

-Innerstand not just understand. Woman want to be heard, of course they do but more so woman want to be felt. Women want to feel what they are saying is being embodied by another person on an emotional level. Give them that and they will give themselves to you.

These are some emotional aspects men can do to show & prove the emotional intelligence women long for. It is important to know some of these skills would have to be executed in a moments notice. A glance, a look, a gesture of understanding needs to be displayed in the present moment. This can be tricky if someone is not in the moment. This is why women consider mindfulness to be essential to making any relationship work because it gauges a man's emotional intelligence based upon circumstances of the present moment. There is no way to plan or rehearse for it but by constantly developing E.Q. awareness becomes natural and effortless. Trust me she will take notice of you. Through these techniques it will allow you to prepare to be emotionally aware at any given moment. This is why women practice techniques such as yoga &
meditation. Women do these activities to be centered and mindful. All they want is the same in their partner.