Ah, the good old pain of loss. I'm not a fan of it. It helps me to assume that I'll lose everything and everyone eventually, but it still hurts when it happens. That's a great description you wrote up there.
About the communities - I think I see that differently. Especially when it comes to quality content. If one wants a community that only offers the best content (by one's standards), it makes sense to select. Like sport teams. Now, that obviously doesn't apply to you in this case as you are a great writer and probably more than worthy of writing there. But not everyone is that good.
Though I generally support the openness you describe, a certain restriction of content does help, especially on social media. It can help me personally getting the most out of my time here on Hive, when I know a group as certain standards. Or that a certain curator is more or less in line with my preferences of content.
It's fickle, too. Too many rules damage the diversity and challenge by the other, you're absolutely right about that. If every community starts doing that, it would be a problem. But then again, others can create open communities. That, too, is diversity.
Anyway, I'm sorry that you had to go through that drama. It's never fun. As I might have mentioned once or twice, I personally enjoy your content very, very much, no matter in which community you post :-)
Aw, thankyou..
I think it's just not iny nature to exclude people for any reason. Sure, mute or block people if they're being asshats - I've had to do that as a community leader time to time.
I'm pretty sure it stems from being bullied at high school. All those rules about being cool I me er understood. So I never appreciate secret clubs and exclusively. But then I'm never impressed by fame, class, riches either - I really despise any arbitrary factors that separate us.
It wS really no big deal, I mean I wasn't morally wounded or anything to be muted, but felt it was worth talking about.
It is worth talking about. Especially since it comes from a deeper part of the self. The world is so full of superficial noise, it sometimes feels overwhelming to me, making my own issues and things I'd like to talk about feel obsolete. But that's just noise.