Oh yes....I'm guessing Mom will go. Ugh !
A week ago, my sister was out at Mom's for her birthday. I took lunch out for us (all three vaxed). Later my unvaxed sis-in-law came and did offer to put a mask on, not knowing how I'd react. My understanding is that it is ok for a group if only 1 unvaxed person is there, so I didn't fuss, but for real, my Mom's house ! I didn't hug her though....LOL I totally love her and I totally know it's everyone's choice, but they are making a choice to possibly kill someone they love too. Anyway... my brother and other sis and hubs came later, all vaxed except the one. We talked about Thankgiving evening with that same set of folks, but plus inviting my other brother's widow.... also unvaxed. I never wanted it to be the haves and have nots, truly that is not in my heart.... but my 87 year old Mom I feel defensive about. Of course... I don't want it either !
Since the crowd was going to be nearly the same, I was fairly ok with the Thanksgiving thing, but my bro totally surprised me inviting much more of the family for the Christmas thing. I am pretty torn about it, not in a frantic way, but still.....
Last Christmas was the worst ever with NO gatherings, but this one is filled with more delimas to me. Last year Mom wouldn't have any part in gatherings, but after she got vaxed, she has done more than I think she should. For some reason she doesn't let me tell her how to live...LOLOLOLOL ! For real again, I don't try.
There you go! The entire Crooks of things. Your mother wants to go and have things normal, before her life became complicated. She has given up so much for so many for so long. The only thing I can say is that she has no fear and she is 87 years old. If anything happens to her oh, I can guarantee you but it won't be a heck of a lot better then what happened to your stepfather. This is her time, Ellen oh, and as much as we want to protect them and keep them for our own selfish reasons and believe me, I'm with you on that, we cannot rule the world. Heck, we can't even rule our Mama's. Mine would never let me tell her what to do oh, and I can understand that because I looked at my kids with a stink eye if they let me know that I'm doing something wrong.
Your mother's not stupid and I would put it out there that you are not happy for this reason and if she still wants to go then you just need to be happy and let her go. If you choose not to go, I think that you will be happy but regrettably so. By no means am I saying to go because I'm really torn with the family gathering with the holidays. We might be the last to on that train, but for reasons I'd rather keep to myself, I'm okay with that because I have lived with enough covid to last me a lifetime. My prayers go out to you and to her to make the right decisions for yourselves but darn covid you are messing up my life.
** I can understand that because I looked at my kids with a stink eye if they let me know that I'm doing something wrong.**..... THAT made me LAUGH !!!
I totally hate it, but I want us all to be here NEXT Christmas with the hopes that someone somewhere comes up with a solution or cure ! It's a terrible sacrifice, but not nearly as bad as if we lose one.... or more.
Yeah, well, they are brats some days, you know? :)
So, that leaves you out in the cold, or wear your armor! Ugh. Not worth it.
I'm sorry. I'm an avid masker when I go out other places, but I am not going to visit family for hours with a mask on. It exhausts me and I don't want to be THAT kind of the center of attention. I told my brother I'd have to think on it. I told him it might be too peopley for me....LOL... and he said he would respect whatever I decided. How nice... right ?... but that still doesn't help.....!!!
I am an avid masker too, and I even wore one when I went to see my brother and his wife. They were traveling all over and they are not mask wearers and declined the vax.
He said he would respect whatever you decided? My brother did too, but, I kind of felt weird sitting in their RV with my mask while they had none on. But, I won't do it again for now. She went home and came down with COVID.
She picked it up from here to there. :( My brother never got it, but, she was one breath from going to the hospital. Now she says she doesn't need the vax.
That's right, if you get it and don't die, you're covered !!! 🙄
OMGoodness !
I have a set of cousins that get together with my older sister from time to time. Since they are older (than me).... they are all vaxed, however, a sister to one of them is younger (than me) and she and her hubby are adamant that they will not be TOLD what to do. It has nothing to do with being afraid of the vaccine (supposedly) .... or really ANYTHING about the vaccine, it is all about not not letting anyone tell them what they are going to do. At least if you are not going to protect yourself or your loved ones from any unintended mistake you might make that leaves you with covid, shouldn't the reason be something less idiotic than that ?
For reals !