Dad managed to find out the best resource before I came
This was a bit emotional so I thought I would record this on the chain. As mentioned in my earlier posts, I have come to live with my parents as they live alone. Dad is 84, and he still likes to eat non-veg in all meals, if given. I am surprised on how he still retains this liking for non-veg at this age, but that's a good sign at his age. Of course, we are not giving him non-veg in every meal, but at least 2-3 times in a week, is a must for him. Last time when I went back from here, he had a wish - Bring mutton from the OD11 Baripada Kitchen - a restaurant that is famous for mutton. Even though, I don't like mutton in the dinner, I brought it for him, specially cooked, after I told them his wish. I was a little late to reach home and by the time I came, he had locked the front gate, front door and Mom was asleep. I had to call loudly and then he came to open the door. When I entered the home, after parking the car, this was on the dining table, and I felt a pinch. We have a cook who prepared roti only, as she knew I will be coming with the curries. Dad was told about it as well, but his short term memory ( because of Dementia) did not assure him, that I will still come, even though its late. So he searched in the house, and had kept these to eat with rotis. You probably can feel the sentiments that pinched me, but I appreciated him for finding whatever best was available.
As soon as he saw me bringing the mutton, he was delighted. The happiness that reflects on his face, is quite differentiable.
He wants to eat delicious food only, with maximum of them being non-veg, but he does not want to even walk, which is a problem.
When Mom and me went for the trip, we left him at my home, with all the lovely foods as desired, served by my wife, but not walking as desired. So that left him with swollen feet, due to which I decided to come here and make him walk three times a day. I was thinking that, it will form a habit in him and he will carry on, but unfortunately, his attitude is not changing after three weeks of practice. They don't want to leave this native place and come and live with us, where I can take better care. He does not have the motivation to walk, and someone need to give company and push him. Mom is busy in all other house work and it's because of her the show is still running. We have been trying to find out some care taker, but that's also not happening. So it's kind of a helpless situation, life has put us in.
Not sure, we will even get this far, but certainly life sometimes does not give us much choices except praying God and do our best.
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It's so sad to see loved ones health decline like that, and not easy if they don't want to move closer or in with you so you can take care of them, but it's not easy moving and giving up all you're familiar with.
I do hope you find a good caregiver as it will get more difficult from here on.
Your Dad is fortunate that he has family who love and care for him!
Dad is still looking strong and healthy. He's enjoying the best of his life with you, the son. Nice to see you do care about your parents and come to stay with them for the time being.
As our parents get older it is sometimes difficult to talk some sense into them but they are fortunate to have us to take care of them. Unfortunately, not all seniors can say the same.
That is very difficult. Taking care of patients with Dementia is not only hard, but also very painful. Maybe you can try having your dad walk more even just inside the house. And slowly transition to walks outside.
I understand about him wanting his nonvegs and not wanting to walk. My mother had dementia too and did not want to walk! It can be very very frustrating so I feel your pain. Dementia is terrible , I am guessing your parents live quite some distance away from you
Not too far, still they don't want to leave the place, so I often come.
Ah okay, well it is good you do.
First of all your Dad is really blessed with good age, and his eating habits are at least not the worst 😁this is amazing and my deepest respect to him
Thank you so much.
You're most welcome my good friend... Wishing you to live even older brother..🥰🙏
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Wow
Your dad still looks good at 84
I’m amazed!
Dad is still looking so fresh and young. And that is the major reason that as our parents get older we should actually take care of them
You're doing a great job in taking care of your parents, especially as your dad has dementia. I've worked in an elderly home for people with dementia and it's definitely not easy. Although whenever you manage to get a smile on their faces, it makes my heart glow of warmth.
I think it's great that you're able to 'force' your dad to walk a couple of times a day. Some movement is always healthy, especially for these people!
Keep up the great work you do and if you would need any tips, feel free to reach out!
Oh wow, I don't think I could survive without some kind of meat at least once a day. I'd probably just stop eating anything without it.
Wow, your engine is strong then, like him.
Namaste 🙏 @sanjeevm Sir, it's great that you are loving your father so much. God bless him for long life.
Thank you so much.
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I like mutton too but find it light. Mutton with bread is quite fun. What will happen if he eats in old age? No problem, let him eat
Wow! he doesn't look 84 at all!
It is said to be a good habit to eat and mango is a very tasty fruit and currently seasonal fruit. Best wishes to you and your father.
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Yes, older people generally do not want to leave their home, and it is largely difficult for them to go out for a walk and exercise their body.
You have to encourage him to walk with non-vegetable food rewards.
I have no doubt that he would love to eat lamb, since its meat is delicious.
Congratulations on having your father. Have a great day
love to eat in all meals :)
I really hope he starts walking regularly 🙏
😊😉✌️ yes, my friend,
indeed that is an awesome reminder of how he loves u..
i also try my best to care for an aging mother.. yes, she tries everything i 'force' her to do.. swimming, walking, even treadmill! but i finally realize she is just old now, and deserves to rest if she so chooses..
we can just love and enjoy them now.. let life go on.. :)
Your dad is blessed with good age and good appearance and I must really say that is good. It is helping his health
I really love the stature of your dad, at 84 years age isn't telling on him and he is still active.
It's like he enjoy eating mutton?
Just keep on encouraging him, he may change. You and your mom are already doing very great 👍
I've heard there are ways to sneak in vegetables so they don't know they're eating them.
Vaah bhai garmi mein fresh mango ...