I am not sure if the balloon is for a sixth birthday, or for a birthday celebration that is six months late, but here we are, having family over in the middle of winter, when our daughter was born at the end of summer.
Originally, we had postponed the "party" (a few family over for coffee and cake) due tot he kitchen renovation, but then every time we have tried to organize it since, there have always been too many people ill with one thing or another. I think this is the fifth attempt at holding over the last three months and with less than an hour to go until guests arrive, I am going to go out on a limb and say that it might be the "lucky one" that slips through a healthy gap.
Smallsteps has been pretty good at all the cancellations even though she has had a lot of expectation on having people here. While it is good to have disappointments in life, I wonder if this is a response to the last couple years of pandemic behavior, where people have become quite happy to cancel on short notice, without actually thinking about the people they are cancelling on.
After the party here, Smallsteps will go to her grandparents and my wife and I were meant to go and have an evening with friends for a few drinks and conversation, but as of this morning, that has been cancelled also, again for risk of illness. People have become so scared of getting ill, that even though they aren't going to face any issues and will just have a flu, they will avoid people. It seems the plan worked, we have become even more isolated and fearful of each other, and I believe weaker as both individuals and a community, as a result.
This week was meant to be one of social connection and so far, nearly everything has been cancelled and we aren't seeing anyone other than family. I am pretty disappointed, as I feel that I need some external contact and discussion with the world, as I feel the walls of life closing in and cutting off my will for social interaction. Being with family is good, but a little psychological distance is also needed sometimes.
One of the "lead by example" things parents need to consider with children, is how parents interact with others. I hear about all of these people worrying about how their kids are get along with others at school, but what example is being set in the home and what effect is this social disconnection going to have on children, as they start to "mimic" their parent's increasingly reclusive lives. In my opinion, all of these various "small issues" are going to compound against each other in ways that are unlikely to make society better in the future, and people will ask, "how did we get here?" and the answer is simple,
Because we chose to disengage from society out of fear of each other.
The negative effects of the last few years that are going to affect all of us are going to be long-ranging, with some being quite blatant, and many being far more subtle, but just as damaging. So many of these things will never be attributed to the actual causes and catalysts, and instead will likely just be brushed aside with those who remember lamenting, that things used to be better in the past - and while every generation might think this, this time, they are probably right.
But, since there is nothing I can do to force people to get together, my wife and I will have a night to ourselves and can perhaps have a nap and, perhaps have a sleep in and catch a movie tomorrow. It isn't what we had planned, but it is still a little different than what we normally have available to do on the table, and that is something to be grateful for.
Party time.
*Better late than never - just like changes for the better.
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Probably a lot of people are now canceling appointments to save money. This year the financial burden is greater than last year.
That might be part of it for some, but this group it isn't an issue, at least in the case of this particular event.
I got mixed feelings. I like social events but not in excessive. Sometimes with work and family it could be a weekly thing.
The past few years taught people how to actually say no.
We will find a new equilibrium.
I am not so sure - I think it is more that it gave them another excuse to stay home. What if the reason many are not socializing is because they are experiencing increased depression (which is happening) and the avoiding the thing that will actually help them (time with people that care about them)?
Definitely, Mr. Taraz, I believe that almost all human beings are living a deep year-end.
We have to live these dates, trying to adapt to the changes, with our hearts divided between what we have and what we would like to have and do. To be thankful is undoubtedly the best of gifts.
I wish that this new year health, love, and good things are always present in your home.
As they say, "gotta do, what you gotta do"
Have a great end of the year!
Exactly, to be kept as a priority.
Thank you very much.
Big parties are sorely missed, instead of having everyone around the table this year it has been on-going week of small gatherings. We need to mobilize out of this crazy idea that no one will catch a cold or flu if avoiding others.
Well a quiet night at home, hope things change to wish the New Year in and people do gather and rejoice as we did a couple of years ago!
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Especially since most people have had it multiple times without issue.
Yeah, we are at home this year again, which is the same as it has been for the last several years. Might have a couple over to have a drink with, but it is "touch and go" still.
Have a great NY!
Domino affect this will have on the children is scary, not being with cousins, friends their age is not a bright idea.
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For sure. Smallsteps has already mentioned some issues about it, as she "doesn't know" members of her family well enough.
Children are seeing and feeling the side affects, having a late birthday party already shows how much this is spreading. Smallsteps mentioning this shows children are very aware of loss of contact in their own age group.
Speak to the adults they are the ones hindering lifestyle of the young.
My birthday was december 10 but our neighbor greeted me today.
Sometimes I still see people with masks and think ,,Not this again''. I wonder if they are gonna wear masks until the end of their days...
People seem to have attached the pandemic and things like masks as part of their identity. Sad.
But happy belated birthday!
thank you.
Since the pandemic, it's been easier for people to accept various cancellations. It is a form of caution for everyone to limit their interactions.
but circumstances have changed and the pattern of cancellations still hopes to be understood. This becomes unnatural for some people we know well, such as our family or close friends. We need interaction and to adapt to new post-pandemic patterns, right?
What do you mean by psychological distance, sir?
I think we need interaction and if we keep avoiding it, we will destroy the last fabric of "society" we have holding us together.
Mental space away. When two people spend too much time together, they start to get frustrated. As they say, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" - in my opinion, it is also good for the head.
Your pull quote is perfect, This one too:
I hope it's not inevitable. The trend since PCs were introduced seems to have been leading us in this direction, and it's not hard to see a logical leap to where we never leave our house and just stare at the screen all the time. Well, not us. I'm go crazy. But mankind in general, or at least our current "developed" society. It's also not hard to see how AI might contribute to this trend.
Ah... but I hope I'm wrong.
Anyway, enjoy your night out. Hope your daughter enjoys her delayed birthday party too.
Nothing is, but the chances of changing course seems to be incredibly difficult. It is åpossible to change en masse, but it is nearly always a large negative event and for the negative. What event drives us to change globally for the better?
Yes and as you mentioned, AI will increase its effect. It already is, since most of what we do is at its core, algorithm driven.
I think that being alone with your partner is better than other things to do during the winter ;)
There are +200 days of winter here ;D
Everyday another movie 😁
It sounds like you and your family have had a difficult time trying to plan and hold social events with friends and extended family due to illness and pandemic-related concerns. It can be frustrating and disappointing when plans get canceled, especially when it seems to happen frequently. It's understandable that you might feel lonely and want to spend more time with other people and connect with them. It's important to prioritize self-care and find ways to connect with loved ones, even if it's not in the way you had originally planned. I like your emphasis on socialization, which for many seems old-fashioned.
However, since it is hard to get it the ideal way, it is good that you are still spending quality time with your family, making the most of the situation, and finding things to be grateful for.
How sad is it in a society when people think socialization is oldfashioned?
Sadly I think that there’s going to be a lot of psychological damage with this nonsense. It’s the long game, where people are slowly relinquishing their bodies best defenses against sickness to pills and injections. All in the name of money and control. Some fucked up shit.
We’ve had some cancellations for sickness too which I don’t mind if they’re actually sick but the fear of sickness and cancelling is stupid as hell. Cancel if you’re sick but don’t cancel with the fear of getting sick.
Hopefully you can get out for some socialization with people besides your family!
And their minds to the constant stream of useless crap that encourages them to stay the same, consume, don't do or create.
I might end up just going to the local bar and chatting to randoms. I am sure my wife will be impressed!
Happy (belated) Birthday!
It takes everyone to make things go back (close) to normal!
Yes. But I think most people won't even acknowledge there is a problem until it is too late.
That so kind of her to accept delays but even if its late, happy birthday still.. Better late I deed
Yeah, it was nice to have some people here for a change. At least there was some movement.
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Laughs I see a lot of people referenced that part.. But fuck can it be more on spot? Can it??
As to people canceling, that's life I suppose you're right. And for smallsteps experiencing dissapointment is probably better than it appears.
Enjoy the time alone it might not happen again soon.
In times of great need, while wars lasted or prohibitions, while one could hardly buy anything material, it was always the human gatherings that could counteract the hardship. Those who had nothing still had each other. We know that in times of great depression, parties were still celebrated, that dance and music is something that costs nothing and that being together could replace what was missing - a richly laid table. Somehow, somewhere, you procured the things you needed for the common ritual of dancing and enjoying yourself. Today, people have cosy homes, stocked supermarket shelves, cars, gadgets, but the streets are deserted, the windows dark and hardly any mood for celebration.
After more than two years of isolation, it seems, people feel too weak and unmotivated to muster the energy for get-togethers, people have become accustomed to distance and are replacing the need for closeness with the internet. The division that runs through many personal and family relationships has contributed to this.
But what you say is true. I grew up in a home that regularly received guests. We had a full house on Sundays, relatives came in and out regularly. My parents also left the house - almost every evening - to visit friends or relatives.
Since we became parents ourselves, but did not continue this tradition as we moved to the big city, this proximity to relatives no longer existed and we preferred quiet evenings. Before becoming parents we had many parties, hosted countless get-togethers, but with the onset of starting a family this stopped and never returned to the previous level. My son never experienced us as revellers. I never would have thought that we might have been some bad role models and thought of getting into puberty will naturally set the course.
So far, it didn't. We don't see young people in our home, no one comes and he doesn't go anywhere, with one exception: the scouts. At least that has remained, but it only insufficiently replaces diversity.
I find it sad. But I hope, this will change again. I just cannot imagine that a life without social contact can be lived happily in the long run. I hope that biology kicks in eventually and the need for closeness will defeat the avoidance to meet other humans.
I wish you a happy New Year, no matter what.
Party time is always my favorite. Make it count!
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