Well, after I grew up a bit (like when I was maybe 55 :)) and it got to be not so much about me. I talked to my mother about the stresses of adopting. I REALLY appreciate what you did for your son, and I can hardly express what both my mothers gave to me. There is absolutely no question that my birth mother did the very best for me she could...
Thanks Sult. I always appreciate your presence.
No problem man, glad I could offer some perspective that others might not realize, obviously you had already gained that from talking to your mother. We did like your parents and we let our boy know from day one he was loved first, and adopted second. He is half Hispanic so it wasn't like we could have pulled the wool over his eyes even if we wanted too. The wife is German heritage with blue eyes and blonde hair and I'm Irish & Ukraine with green eyes so him being darker skinned with jet black hair and brown eyes is pretty dead giveaway we aren't his birth parents.
I am just so glad for you.