Thanks for your time and this great comment...
I strongly believe that (and this is what I thought my kids as well) you can only help someone who wants to be helped.
This is on spot! There are people that don't know what they want... which is the next level of all this + the thing that they want help, but actually don't, as you said... It's confusing, but I get what you wanted to say...
Doing it for them is a guarantee that they will be back with the same problem soon.
This is something that I TRY to do as much possible... I have learnt this on hard way, but I'm glad that I did... The perfect example is money... If you just give people money (loan), they will not respect it... If you show them the way HOW TO earn money, they will, if they really earn money by doing it...
It looks like a different thing, but it's just like DOING things for others... If you DO that once, you will be "that person that knows to do it", and you will HAVE TO do it every time... Regardless of the fact that that is maybe some trivial thing... It's just another easy button for time-wasters...
Have a great weekend!