I like to dip in and out of social media every now and again. I don't use it so much, Hive is the only platform that I post if on. But my eldest daughter likes to watch things on Instagram and Tiktok with her friends, so I want to know what sort of things they are being exposed to.
Also Pinterest, seems to be showing lots of Tiktok videos as well. I don't remember it always being like this, but that's how it is now. I can understand why teenagers are drawn to it, to Tiktok, that is. I just worry about the effect that all those subliminal messages will have on them.
Being a teenage is pretty confusing, within adding lots of propaganda into the mix as well.
I watched a video where a young woman, was talking about fat shaming. I have taught my girls to be accepting of everyone, but in this video, the young women was claiming, that dieting is actually a form of fat shaming. Because everyone should accept themselves for who they are and not try to change themselves.
I agree to an extend, about accepting yourself. But I do not believe we should be promoting obesity.
I never talk about weight with my girls, instead we talk about the importance of being healthy. Of being able to do all the things you want to do, without getting out of breath or getting tired. Our health is our wealth at the end of the day.
Your size, up to a point shouldn't matter as long as it is not affecting your health, saying anything otherwise is just not okay, as far as I am concerned.
When I tried to talk to my daughter about this, she straight away told me that it was not okay to call some one over weight. But surely if it is from a place of love and concern, why would it not be okay.
But already she has been conditioned to believe that there are some things that we should never talk, for fear of offending someone. Of course, I would never want her to say something that would cause someone pain or suffering. But it is really important that we be able to talk about issues that can have a huge affect on some one's well being.
I have also seen lots of videos, with adults talking about transgender children. How important it is to support your child's choice. Something I am very passionate about, but when they are being bombarded with videos about this topic, at a time when they are feeling confused, how can we be sure it is their choice.
Surely the labelling can be left off until they reach maturity and feel that this is actually how they wish to be identified and not just because they watched a few videos that made them feel accepted.
A lot of the videos begin with, "have you ever felt out of place, misunderstood, confused". To be honest that would be ever teenager I have met, including myself, that is just part of being a teenager.
If teenagers want to explore something go for it, but stop parading it in their faces. The same goes for children as well. I know that this is a hot topic, but it is an important one. Because what our children are exposed too, plays a huge part in shaping them.
I have no problems with any growth adult deciding to be be whatever they wish, that is their choice, but with the kids and young teenagers, can we please just let them be. Let them explore, make mistakes, let them discover who they are, on their own, in their own time.
Our children are our future, so I think it is important to talk about what exactly we are exposing them too. I know that in some places, it's perfectly normal now for kids to be brought along to drag shows. I personally think that is inappropriate, as the shows are highly sexualized.
I would much rather my kids, be outdoors in nature, playing, building, exploring, using their imaginations. All of which are character building, all on their own terms. It's a slippery slope .
Our children learn to be inclusive, by us being inclusive, that's all it takes, they don't need to be exposed to all of this propaganda, to be dragged into the adults world. Just let them be kids.
As always I totally agree with you!
I'm assuming that I've pretty much given up on social media since I've started writing on Hive again.
However, I believe that certain messages in certain ages such as adolescence can be misleading.
The issue of obesity, for example, is very particular and I believe that the borderline is always health; maintaining healthy lifestyles to have good health is something that should be a habit, just as it is important to accept yourself but that should not be an excuse to justify eating badly for example or leading a sedentary life.
Finally, as an all-round supporter of inclusion, I fully agree that the best message is the one sent to us by those close to us, by our family and loved ones, it is not necessary to watch videos on social networks and it is certainly much better to go out to enjoy a beautiful sunny day or even a splendid rain I love walking in the rain eh eh!).
Thank you for the beautiful thoughts you send, you always make me think a lot, I'm grateful!
Thank you @p1k4ppa10. Our health is our wealth and that should be a message that is promoted widely xxxx
I completely agree!
It should be a duty as well as a right to take care of your health 🤗
Yeah , what happened to the 90th's ?
I realize some kids i grew up with ,.. did probably not make it passed 30 .
And hell , don't even know if my own kids are still alive either ,
or happy , or still the gender they where born ?
For i was deleted and banned from their existence by woke mom .
You now teach your kids and learn them right from wrong .
But one thing ,. you can't use body overweight to joke and bully .
Only when the fat kid is the top bully ,. as then you can ,.. speak the truth .
;-)
Hey @small1axe, how are you? I checked out your blog page the other day, as It has been a long time since I connected with you. Are you still In Viking country? I hope you are keeping well xxxxx
Hanging on , as these are hard times to live stateless and free ,. especially up here where winter is freezing cold with a thick layer of snow . Still no regrets , the struggle to survive is what makes me feel alive , always better then living in a Dutch city , jobless , fully under government control .
Way out in rural nature , loving every day of it like Alexander Supertramp .
Just don't pick the wrong berry's . ;-)
But who knows ,. my longing for the sun might change my mind one day .
I moved for blogging to Blurt ,.
only on Hive to watch and read the works of the ones i followed .
Thks for the nice reply ,. stay well , stay free .
That shot is beautiful. Winter wonderland. xxxx
Damn , almost didn't see your comment there .
But no , i ain't the victim ,.. my kids are .
They where 14 and 16 , and the war brought on to me by my now ex was not answered by me .
My defense was strong while i slowly walked away from it ,.. as war is never the answer .
I was always there do , for my kids , to see me or speak to me , still silence is all i got .
I can be a bit sad over it at times ,. but then again , i never owned my kids ,
as they are sentient human beings on there own .
If they choose to live without me , even on false and incorrect info ,
then who am i to force them to do otherwise ?
So , why start a fight for a lost cause ?
In the end time will set the record straight .
As a honest man has the longest breath .
And honest i always was .
Anyways you know nothing about my history ,.
and so there is no way you can be sure like you claim .
But thks for putting down your best guess ,. ;-)