The human being is a strong and persevering species, since remote times he has demonstrated his inclination to repeat the same forms under the same circumstances, sometimes these forms are brilliant and it solves the situation efficiently. But what happens when instead of progressing you keep on hitting your forehead against the same wall? Are you the owner of the circumstances? Do these circumstances only depend on you? Of course not, there is an external world and natural agents, which are part of the circumstances and are out of your reach.
You can go as far as you can go, and you must think you can do it, that's good, however, if no matter how hard you try on your own, if no matter how hard you try with the help of others, you don't succeed in solving the situation, give in; just give in.
"If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen." former U.S. president Harry Truman.
If you are living in a situation that you cannot bear, and have tried everything, to continue to suffer because of it is irrational, if irrational, because you continue to stumble upon the same stone, and this stone has perhaps already made of you a wounded man, who suffers thinking that he must solve everything in life. Sincerely no, we are human and little by little we are learning the lessons of life and an important lesson is that sometimes you win when you give in, you win when you recognize that you can't take it anymore, it is valuable to think that we can do everything, but life doesn't always paint a rosy color, and if you give in?, and if you are sincere with yourself?, it is possible that you stop to the idea of giving in, maybe you feel committed with what others will say.
Do not think that by giving in to a situation you are a weak person, without character, on the contrary, it requires will, decision and courage to respond in that way when there is no more to do, do not be stubborn, follow the intelligent and healthy path, your health is at stake, the discomforts that seem not to end, slowly affect your body and your mind.
Renew your thoughts, supply your subconscious with new information: that you have given in to achieve your peace, to achieve harmony in your life, to continue and not get stuck in the same situation. As Buddha taught: "All that we are is the result of what we have thought" do not become a martyr, a victim, stop banging your head against the same wall, you have already been able to prove that that particular wall is unbreakable, your new thought must see the situation under another perspective, you are an intelligent being who knows how to yield when the circumstances are really intolerable.
Allow the universe do its part
Sometimes you set your mind to something and you go after it with eagerness, thinking that this is what suits you, what will make you happy, what you lack, and you try to achieve it and in that journey you get hurt, and your stubbornness sometimes explodes in the face of others, in the feelings of others. When you can not with what is happening let it go, let it go, give in, simply abandon yourself to the phrase that says "Lord, may your will be done but not mine", we are tiny beings before the grace of divinity, before the wisdom of the universe, you just have to let the burden of your heavy situation flow and trust that what will come will be better for you, this doesn't mean in any way that you have left that circumstance in the hands of "others", not at all, you have tried everything, you looked for support and you didn't manage to solve it, you have simply left the door of faith wide open, so that the water flows that does not have to be drunk.
In the face of adverse situations that escape your hands, let yourself fall into the hands of the divinity, or as you prefer to call it, do not fight unnecessarily a battle that has already defeated you, sometimes we have wanted certain things that were not achieved no matter how much we insisted on obtaining them, with time, and only with time you have realized that it was not convenient for you, that the path you have traveled has been the best; this attitude does not make you a loser; on the contrary, Giving in on time is another way to win.
"What you deny submits you, what you resist persists, what you accept transforms you, what you thank frees you." Carl Jung
When you stop fighting and stop to accept and recognize the seriousness of the problem, your life begins to transform and activate the dimension of miracles; like the alcoholic, the drug addict or any person negatively addicted to something, they should not deny or resist reality, which pitifully affects not only them but also their loved ones. When you confess with your mouth and your heart that you can't handle it, ... it's giving in and winning.
Thank you dear friends for the support, any suggestion will be received with much affection
Hmmm, I agree and disagree with Harry Truman.
You go into the kitchen because you need food, not necessarily because you enjoy cooking - or are qualified to be a chef. We all have opinions, but that doesn't mean we always need to be ready to defend them. :)
But that's only a very small part of your post. Always good to think about how we live.
When a person cannot stand a situation because it simply makes him unhappy, because it simply affects his health, and this person has tried everything, without being able to improve his feeling about it, it is better to give in.
In the case of the comment made by Harry Truman is a similarity for such cases, in the sense that if you can not stand a situation, look for a solution perhaps external, but do not get sick for that, or mortify others for that, is not to stop eating, or stop entering the site to find food, simply is not to stay there if you do not like cooking ... o Find someone else to prepare your food, not all of us are born to cook.
Yes. I agree with you. I had to face the facts at one point when I had to realize that my ex-husband was abusive and that nothing I could do was going to fix it. I hated giving in to that because it was a failure on my part (or so it felt.) But I had to take actions that would make a healthier me - and hopefully healthier children.
Nothing wrong with having someone else prepare your food - but you have to be able to pay for it. Speaking of which... I need to get off the machine for a bit and make breakfast!