I believe that being adaptable is one of the best skills a person can have in order to live the happiest life possible.
I've lived long enough to know that no matter what we plan, life will always throw in twists and turns that we can't foresee. I believe learning to float over them is essential, otherwise we will get stuck on them and drown... or at least the bad ones.
Not all of the twists and turns are bad. Sometimes something unplanned or imagined can be good and bring extra happiness our way.
But for the ones that turn out to be negative, well, how they affect us in the end depends on how we learn to cope with them.
I realize we are all born different. Our brains are wired different, our environments and circumstances are different. We can believe that what we believe is good and right, but we have to accept that just because things seem common sense to us, other poeple's journeys may not have led them to the same conclusions... .or not yet. So we live in a world of differences.
Sometimes we have opinions about certain things that we see from the outside, but also, sometimes we go through experiences later that cause us to be able to see another point of view on it and we find that what we believed for so long may not have been just exactly right. I know I've had those experiences through my life. I believed one way and I was firm on it in my mind, then I lived through something similar and wow !.... I totally could not see there was much more too it than I could originally see. Instant opinion change !
But that is life..... learning and growing. Living through more and more experiences and finding the lessons in each. Sometimes just the lesson of learning to hone our coping skills for living with those things that happen that we have no control over and that we cannot change.
I think one key is learning to let go of those things we didn't ask for and cannot change. I learned a long time ago when something comes up, after my first initial exposure, I ask myself "Is there anything I can do about it? If there is, then I take that action and if the answer is no, then I acknowledge it..... and let it go.
I think forgiveness is kind of like that, letting go of the hurt or offense. Refusing to pack it in your imaginary backpack and dragging that emotional baggage around for the rest of your life.
I'm sure there is not a one-size-fits-all way to learn to adjust to these things in life, but I believe being determined to find that ability for yourself will be key to keeping as much of that happiness factor going throughout our lives.
Ok... it's time to call Mom and see what she is up too and maybe grab up some goodies and go out for a visit.
Hope you all have a fabulous day.
Love you ! Mean it !
Jacey
**As a note on these photos, Once I took my colorful old clothes, loungers and blouses that were basically trash and could no longer be worn. I ripped them into strips and added them to the decorative birdhouse and another wire basket ball (two wire baskets hooked together to create a sphere)... .and I made wind sock type things with them. It was fun and they were fun to watch when there was a nice breeze coming through. I hung an old CD in the birdhouse that also moved in the breeze and it would reflect the sunlight and shoot out a few sparkles here and there. Upcycling fun !
I think learning to cope is 80% of knowing if you can make a change. There is little we can do about the sun coining up every day. If the morning light does bother someone they can always get curtains. If there is still one annoying spot the sun can shine through and hit our eyes and wake us before we are ready we can always move the bed.
I like the little bird house with the streamers and the cd. Those cd's can reflect a lot of light and colors.
It sure makes life easier and more pleasant if you don't keep fighting what you can't change. It's a mental battle you can't win and it can tear you down from the inside.
The CD's make great outdoor things. Last year I hung several from the tree in my front yard on long cords so they could swing and twirl in the sunlight. They did great for a very long time, until the cords dry rotted and a very windy storm, whipped them to the ground. I have more though !
Don't we all have a ton of c that are no longer useful. I could not believe how many I had from magazines and AOL, CompuServe mailings. Recycled most of them when in California,(took em to the dump). I still have a lot though.
I threw a lot away over time, but once I saw all the neat things people did with them outside, I quit throwing them away.
Shinyyyyyyyyyyyy 😄
Everyone likes shiny things. The world is just to dull with out the shine of shiny things.
And I like shiny things.
Me too !
I have tried not to judge a book by its cover. It rarely reads like I thnk it will.
I've learned that people believe they know everything, at one or other, myself included, however, they are not always aware of new facts, situations or the like.
I try to give everyone a chance, I'd want the same for me.
I have always liked people that i know exactly where I stand with them.
Life is short! Smile. Live. Love and breathe in its beauty
If you can't be besties, try for polite ans kind. Nobody has ever died from it.
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It comes more natural to some than others I understand, but it doesn't hurt to ponder on it a while and try.
The world definitely needs more kindness and like the oldies say, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all ! Wouldn't THAT be nice ???
Some folks seem to think being upfront and honest means you have to say everything you think, even if it is negative or totally tactless. Hurting others just so you can have a say, is not always the right thing.
Thanks for stopping over. Let's be beasties... .I mean besties. 😄
It never hurt to try. Besides, you might like it. If the world doesn't start using kindness soon, she may commit hari-kari. Noooo. Upfront and honest mean you don't lie....
Okay! Disclaimer!!! "Does my butt look big in this?" No is always the correct answer. Yes, besties. I agree.
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When things, good or bad happen to us, if it's not to our liking, we need to see if we can change it. However, getting so worked up about it if there isn't and easy answer or if it's impossible to change, is not worth the heartache. Some things even what seems bad at the time, can work out for the better; we just might not see it right away.
I like the yard art; a nice way to recycle things. Take care @jacye.boldart and have a lovely day!💜
Thank you !
It is true that some things that don't seem great at first, can turn out to be part of something good later.
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So true, it took me so long before I could really do that. My boyfriend told me a few years before I start acting on it, now I'm actually the one that masters this the best of the two of us lol. I sometimes have to remind him about this thing he taught ME years ago :)
And yeah, upcycling is so much fun, loving them! Reminds me that I have a few upcycle projects laying around as well and I should probably finish them :) thanks for the reminder!
Sometimes we have to learn the same lesson more than once before it sticks !😄
so true!
If i can't manage a problem I can always ask for help or advice and hope he's good looking 😘
If someone else can help, that certainly IS taking action towards a solution.
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I have never been one who judges someone.
I don't try to guess what they are up to.
At times I'd try to understand the person better, ask for advice...
But I always choose to just follow my instinct.
I find that some people are just the way they are.
Some will good friends, some will not be.
That's really good, because honestly, if you haven't lived their life, you probably really can't imagine why they see things they way they do or are the way they are.
Good to see you back. 💜
I am so glad to be back!
We all adapt and make a life we love , thanks for being part of ladies of hive and have a great weekend
Hi !
It would be nice if we all could accept and adapt, but I do see people who mentally fight things that cannot be changed, or can't be changed by them and they let it drag them down and make their lives miserable. So sad !
I'm enjoying being a part of LOH..... and I hope you have a nice weekend too !
We sure have seen that this week also in discord, so yes it would be ice if we all could accept and adapt but also love ourselves
Oh ! Thank you !
Wow @jacey.boldart, that is such a brilliant idea!
Those birdcages are soo gorgeous and I am sooo happy to see that there are no caged birds in them! Are the wild birds able to get in and out freely to have a drink and a nibble on some seeds?
It's so lovely to see you here in this wonderful community and I can't wait to see more of your upcycling too!
In fact, you may already know of them, but a few years ago I discovered these guys...
they might give you some more good ideas- or you might give them some even better ideas!!!And you are absolutely right too. Some things- many things- the old, the bad, the negatives you need to get rid of, but many things you keep- and upcycle into positives!!!
Great post and I look forward to more.
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The outside cages were purely decorative and there was no way for the wild birds to go in. These were for summer time fun. On a normal basis I only put out bird feeders in late fall through early spring and don't feed the birds in the warmer weather when other food is bountiful. In winter these hooks do hold other feeders.
I know we learn a lot from the good lessons and the bad lessons, that is how we grow and get first hand understanding on things sometimes. That still doesn't make it fun while you are going through the bad lessons though.... right ? ... ugh ! 🙃
Thanks for stopping by my post !
Oh.... and I will check out your link.
Oh yeah that's such a great way to do it! So they can still remain independent in Summer and you just give them a hand in winter so they don't get too used to it and forget how to find their own...
Love it!
And no it doesn't make it fun, but it certainly motivates you to get through the light at the end of the tunnel quicker doesn't it!
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Well Thank you ! That is very kind of ya !