After so long without posting in this beautiful community of my beautiful girls, today I decided to make a stop in my activities and join this great proposal that @emilyra333 brings us where she invites us to make a deep reflection that basically has to do with our purpose in life.
Of course, as soon as I read it, I decided to join immediately because I have always been passionate about these topics. Anything that invites reflection, that's where I am.
Before I dive right into this cool initiative, I want to invite @zhanavic69, @sacra97, @belkisa758 and @syllem to join this initiative and share with the whole community their expectations regarding the questions that are on the table today.
Without further ado, here is my participation:
1️⃣ If you were to die tomorrow, what would you wish you had done in life?
At this moment and according to so many experiences that have marked me in these last months, in which I have been able to make a complete scan of my life, of my feelings, of my emotions, months in which I have physically lost some loved ones, in which I have thought about my work on Earth, in every sense of the word, because I have shed many tears, in which the idea of ending everything has crossed again and again through my head, because I have come to think that I am not giving a quality life to my son, in which I have even planned with whom I am going to leave him so that he can be happy and have the life he deserves, it is when cowardice overwhelms me and I do not have the courage to do any of that and I see his innocent eyes, it is then that I react and think how selfish my thoughts are.
But sometimes preventing depression is not an easy task, there are many battles that without fighting them, we take them for lost, there are tears that do not stop falling, there are hugs that remain without giving, there are many buts and thousands of unanswered questions.
Then I think that what I would like to do with my life before leaving, is to leave a legacy of love, constancy, respect and values to my son. I don't want him to remember me as a coward who gave up, as a person who never stopped crying, as a martyr, a victim or a sufferer. No. I don't want that for him. I want him to remember me with pride, with love, that when he thinks of me, a smile flows spontaneously on his lips and he thinks: "Mom never gave up and one day, she achieved what she set out to do, my mom succeeded in life".
It's simple, if I were to die tomorrow, I just want him to be happy, I just want him to be proud of his mommy, I want him to have a good example to follow.
2️⃣ What is the biggest dream of your life? If money was not a problem and you could do with your time what you wanted, what would you do with it? What would you create?
A big dream of my life has always been to be able to found an old people's home.
In my country the mistreatment of the elderly in these establishments is worrisome. I have been donating blankets, adult diapers, clothes, coats and everything that my neighbors can give me every December to collaborate, and I have seen firsthand the poor condition of many of these establishments. In addition to this, I once lodged my mother in one of these centers, at her request, and I was able to see how a nurse even hit a patient because she had senile dementia and the patient had hit her first.
The common denominator in my country is this. In nursing homes there are a variety of patients mixed together. Those with senile dementia, those who are mentally healthy, those with Alzheimer's and those suffering from some psychological condition are all together and that should not be.
My mom told me that night they didn't even give her food, they left it on her bedside table, my mother being a woman who could not fend for herself. And in the morning, at six o'clock, they got her out of bed, undressed her and took her to a bathroom along with other patients and bathed them with a hose with cold water. She told me this much later because she didn't want me to retaliate.
If I had a lot of money, I would buy a mansion, I would adapt it with beautiful gardens, waterfalls and beautiful walkways surrounded by colorful flowers, large dining rooms, comfortable rooms and recreation rooms (movie theater, games, dance therapy, yoga, etc.).
It would have a cadre of medical specialists who would be on call once a week: cardiologists, nutritionists, internists, geriatricians, psychologists, pulmonologists, physiatrists, psychotherapists, etc....
Patients would have their own space, according to their medical condition and would be attended to according to their needs.
Every week they would have fun activities such as bingo, cards, karaoke, manicure, hairdresser and the guys from Doctor Smile (for those who don't know, they are Hospital Clowns, like Patch Adam) would come once a month. I had the opportunity to work with them for some time and it is really rewarding to see the joy of the patients when we would come into a room).
My goal is to give them quality of life, to draw smiles where there have been tears, that their last years are really golden, that they are happy and have motivation to wake up every day, because they know they will not be alone or mistreated, that they feel loved, important even when they have been abandoned to their fate by children who have no time for them. With my nice mansion that would be called Happy Moments Delivery, they would have that and more.
I already created the page on Instagram to at least offer it in a personalized way, going to the homes of these abuelitos to provide support, company, v affection, but it's a pretty slow process because I don't have the capital for that. But it is a goal that I have, it is a dream that I know that someday I will be able to make it come true.
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Después de tanto tiempo sin publicar en esta preciosa comunidad de mis bellas chicas, hoy decidí hacer un stop en mis actividades y sumarme a esta genial propuesta que nos trae @emilyra333 donde nos invita a hacer una reflexión profunda que básicamente tiene que ver con nuestro propósito de vida.
Por supuesto, apenas la leí, decidí unirme de inmediato porque siempre han sido temas que me apasionan. Todo aquello que invite a la reflexión, ahí estoy yo.
Antes de sumergirme de lleno en esta genial iniciativa, quiero invitar a @zhanavic69, @sacra97, @belkisa758 y a @syllem a unirse a esta iniciativa y compartir con toda la comunidad sus expectativas en cuanto a las preguntas que hoy, están puestas sobre el tapete.
Sin más preámbulo, aquí mi participación:
1️⃣Si fueras a morir mañana, ¿Qué desearías haber hecho en vida?
En este momento y de acuerdo a tantas experiencias que me han marcado en estos últimos meses, en los que he podido hacer un escaneo completo de mi vida, de mis sentimientos, de mis emociones, meses en los que he perdido físicamente a algunos seres queridos, en los que he pensado en mi labor en la Tierra, en todo el sentido de la palabra, porque he derramado muchas lágrimas, en los que la idea de acabar con todo ha cruzado una y otra vez por mi cabeza, porque he llegado a pensar que no le estoy dando una vida de calidad a mi hijo, en las que hasta he planificado con quién lo voy a dejar para que sea feliz y tenga la vida que merece, es cuando la cobardía me arropa y no tengo el valor para hacer nada de eso y veo sus ojitos inocentes, es entonces que reacciono y pienso lo egoísta de mis pensamientos.
Pero a veces prevenir la depresión no es una tarea fácil, son muchas batallas que sin pelearlas, las damos por perdidas, son lágrimas que no dejan de caer, son abrazos que se quedan sin dar, son muchos peros y miles de preguntas sin respuesta.
Entonces pienso que lo que me gustaría hacer con mi vida antes de partir, es dejar un legado de amor, de constancia, de respeto y de valores a mi hijo. No quiero que cuando me recuerde, piense que fui una cobarde que se rindió, en una persona que no cesaba de llorar, en una mártir, una víctima o una sufrida. No. No quiero eso para él. Quiero que me recuerde con orgullo, con amor, que cuando piense en mí, una sonrisa fluya de manera espontánea en sus labios y piense: "mamá jamás se rindió y un día, logró lo que se proponía, mi mamá logró triunfar en la vida".
Es simple, si me fuese a morir mañana, solo quiero que él sea feliz, solo quiero que él se sienta orgulloso de su mami, quiero que él tenga un buen ejemplo a seguir.
2️⃣ ¿Cuál es el gran sueño de tu vida? Si el dinero no fuera un problema y pudieras hacer con tu tiempo lo que quisieras, ¿Qué harías con él? ¿Qué crearías?
Un gran sueño de mi vida siempre ha sido poder fundar un ancianato.
En mi país el maltrato al adulto mayor en estos establecimientos es preocupante. Yo que desde muchos años he estado donando cada diciembre cobijas, pañales de adultos, ropa, abrigos y todo lo que mis vecinos me puedan dar para colaborar, he podido ver de cerca el mal estado de muchos de estos establecimientos. Aunado a esto, una vez alojé a mi mamá en uno de estos centros, a petición de ella misma y pude ver como, incluso, una enfermera golpeó a una paciente porque tenía demencia senil y la paciente, la había golpeado a ella primero.
El común denominador en mi país es este. En los ancianatos hay variedad de pacientes mezclados. Los que tienen demencia senil, los que están mentalmente sanos, los que tienen Alzheimer y los que sufren de alguna condición psicológica están todos juntos y eso no debería ser.
Mi mamá me comentó que esa noche ni siquiera le dieron la comida, sino que se la dejaron en la mesita de noche, siendo mi madre una mujer que no podía valerse por sí misma. Y en la mañana, a las seis, la levantaron de la cama, la desnudaron y la llevaron a un baño junto con otras pacientes y las bañaron con una manguera con agua fría. Eso me lo contó mucho después porque no quería que yo tomase represalias.
Si yo tuviese mucho dinero, compraría una mansión, la adecuaría con hermosos jardines, cascadas y bonitas caminerías rodeadas de flores de alegres colores, amplios comedores, habitaciones confortables y salas de esparcimiento (salas de cine, de juegos, de bailoterapia, de yoga, etcétera)
Tendría un cuadro de médicos especialistas que cumplirían guardia una vez por semana: cardiólogos, nutricionistas, internistas, geriatras, psicólogos, neumólogos, fisiatras, psicoterapeutas, en fin...
Los pacientes tendrían su espacio, según su condición médica y serían atendidos de acuerdo a sus necesidades.
Cada semana tendrían divertidas actividades como bingo, cartas, karaoke, manicure, peluquería y los chicos de Doctor Sonrisa (para quienes no lo saben, son Payasos de Hospital, como Patch Adam) vendrían una vez al mes. Yo tuve la oportunidad de trabajar con ellos durante algún tiempo y es realmente gratificante ver la alegría de los pacientes cuando entrábamos a un recinto).
Mi meta es regalarles calidad de vida, dibujar sonrisas donde ha habido lágrimas, que sus últimos años, sean realmente dorados, que sean felices y tengan motivaciones de despertar cada día, porque saben que no estarán solos ni serán maltratados, que se sientan amados, importantes aún cuando hayan sido abandonados a su suerte por hijos que no tienen tiempo para ellos. Con mi linda casa que se llamaría Happy Moments Delivery, tendrían eso y más.
Ya creé la página en Instagram para al menos ofrecerlo de manera personalizada, yendo a las casas de estos abuelitos para brindar apoyo, compañía, v cariño, pero es un proceso bastante lento porque no cuento con el capital para eso. Pero es una meta que tengo, es un sueño que sé que algún día podré hacer realidad.
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@purrix, these are such wonderful things! I am sure your son will always love you and be proud of you!
The old folks home would not be easy, but I suspect you could do that with your determination. I admire your spunk! Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day! !LADY
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Thanks honey, it's the spiritual lows I get sometimes because of so many problems, but I know I can handle this and more!
Yes, with this asylum thing, I think it's complicated, but the sky is the limit, one step at a time, without haste, but without pause I think I'll make it!
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Unfortunately, your country is not alone in this. Not long ago there was a huge campaign in my country and many homes have been closed as the condition these people were kept in was inhuman.
Founding a nursing home is the best you can do. I hope it's going to become reality soon.
Wow, I don't understand why, these little old men educated us, gave us everything and we are what we are, thanks to them. Their last years should be filled with happiness!
I hope I will make it someday. I don't lose hope. Thank you so much! 🌼
Saludos @purrix, me encanta tú post y me identifico cuando hacen años visitaba una tía en un hogar geriátrico, ellos se alegraban mucho con las visitas y en verdad otra cosa sería si se les prestara la debida atención, son muchos los que tienen esas deficiencias, en cuanto al espacio por cada situación médica que presentan y brindarles toda esa calidad de vida que merecen. Un abrazo.
Si porque siento que los dueños de estos asilos, lo hacen más por el beneficio económico, que por la calidad de vida que les puedan brindar a estos abuelitos durante sus últimos años de vida. Y como solo les interesa el lucro, no se dan cuenta o no les importa las condiciones a veces infrahumanas que les están dando. Es triste. Gracias por tu apoyo! ✨🌼
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This is so beautiful. We all think of leaving money for our children, but I love your thoughts and feelings for your child. You must have gone through a lot in life and that shows in your words, the pain that you feel towards life. But remember one thing, we are all going through different types of tests in our life and we have chosen to go through it by ourselves at a higher level to progress in our soul journey. It's easy to say, but yet, next time when you have a difficult condition, feel and know that this test is going to progress your soul at higher levels.
Another thing is that nothing is permanent in life, so if good days are not forever, so are the bad days. So always move ahead with a positive mindset and feelings for life.
Good luck with your old-age home dream, I wish it comes true
What a beautiful and hopeful message, you have recharged the batteries of my soul! You don't know how much I appreciate your words. And yes, you are right in what you say, but sometimes I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and I just hope that these hard times will come to an end.
Thank you again for such beautiful words! God bless you and a big hug for you 💖🌼💖.
Excelente escrito nos presentas.
Formidable tus ideas para el cuido de los ancianos. Es preocupante la atención en esos sitios.
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Hola belleza, gracias. Es un sueño que tengo desde hace muchos años, pero el factor dinero es el limitante por ahora. Son muchos los permisos legales, la documentación y los honorarios profesionales. Pero sé que algún día lo voy a lograr 😊
Por supuesto, es la meta.
Saludos
Hola querida amiga, que lindo el sueño que tienes con la casa para abuelitos, Deseo que Dios te de los recursos necesarios para que puedas regalarle calidad de vida a esas personas que tanto lo necesitan. En realidad mientras leía lo que tienes en mente, podía imaginar todo esos espacios tan bonitos para ellos y a la vez, estoy segura que tu espíritu estaría tan llenito, que te sentirías muy feliz. He escuchado que hay más felicidad en dar que en recibir y creo que es cierto.
Dios cobije tu alma y te de la luz necesaria siempre para seguir adelante.
Un gran abrazo.
Wow, qué bellas palabras me has regalado! En verdad que es un sueño que nunca muere, quiero hacer algo por esos seres tan lindos que una vez hicieron tanto por nosotros.
Gracias una vez más por tan lindas palabras!
Te abrazo con el alma 🎈🌼🎈
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