I like to think, that I am a pretty chilled person. I find it easy to sit with people and listen to them, as they share their opinions, whether they are the same as mine or not. I guess you could call me a good listener. I have often, had complete strangers share their whole life story with me, people who I have met randomly on public transport or at parties etc.
I just listen, it's important that everyone feels heard and I enjoy doing that for folk to be honest. Plus, I find us human beings fascinating.
If if something is shared that I have strong feelings about, or disagree with, I can still respect that person and the story they are sharing with me. I just choose then, that this person is not someone I want to have in my life. But for that time I can be present for them.
There have been a few occasions where I have gotten angry, with another person and it's either to do with Animal Welfare ( which I wrote about recently), or about the way in which I raise my children.
Some people believe that I am neglecting them, because of the way in which I have chosen to raise them. They do not understand that the reason that I am doing this, is for them. That I want my children to know who they are and to be critical thinkers, so that they can make informed decisions for themselves.
So that they, are ready to take full responsibility for their lives, when the time comes. In this way, they can live as free, as is possible.
Of course, I also love my way of life. Being co connected to nature and in tune with the cycles.
My girls have never attended school, they have very much led their own education. They have blown me away by how resourceful and intelligent that they are. Each of them very different in how they learn.
Which just goes to show, how important it is to let kids decide for themselves how they wish to learn, education is definitely, not, one boot fits all, kind of thing. Kids need to explore, so that they find the best way for them.
At the end of the day, it should be each child's decision where and how they learn.
But there are some people, who really disagree with the way in which I see things.
The last time, I got really angry, was with my girls father. He accused me of ruining their lives, that they were living in a bubble and had no idea what the real world is.
But what exactly is the 'real world', because to me the real world is one where we are very much connected with ourselves and with nature. A world where we get to create, the life that we wish to lead.
To him, it was the complete opposite. (which really baffled me, because at one time, he acted like we were on the same page, both wanting our children, to be raised outside of the system.) This coming from someone, who is no longer physically present in their lives, who chooses to live in another country and only contact them every now and again.
I was so angry, with him. How he accused me of neglecting them, when I am with them 24/7 and he has not even seen them, in over a year.
But more so, because he could not see how amazing his children are. Instead of focusing on that, he chose to attack me about the way in which I am raising them.
It's not easy being a solo mama, I give so much of myself and that's fine, because I want to. But where is the gratitude even, for being there for them, day in day out. For trying my best, to fulfil two roles.
Why is their happiness not important, why didn't he ask them that question and respect their response. I really felt like, he just wanted to attack me and in doing so, was missing out on how amazing his girls are.
So yes, I was really angry, I screamed at him, because he just could not listen to me, and he knows exactly how to get to me. (Something I am working on.)I was literally boiling inside.
When he left after that argument, I went for a walk up the mountain. It's where I always went, when I needed to clear my head. Just the feeling of walking upwards, of leaving all of that drama behind, felt so good.
I really felt like I could breathe.
Then when I reached the top, I would find my Witchy/Magical spot, where I would scream and then sing. Two wonderful ways, in which I can release any anger.
Screaming is so therapeutic, it has helped me to move forward so many times in my life. There have been times, where I have screamed into a cushion, because I lived in areas that were highly populated. But the best, is to scream out into the world.
This is my response to the latest Ladies Of Hive Community Contest, which included the following question ......
We all have a different boiling point, some of us are easily angered, others are really cool tempered. Kindly share one thing that makes you angry, how long do you stay mad, and what or who can pacify you.
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Thanks for the support xxx
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Thanks @goodforkids xxx
There's just something about this bit that speaks to me. As does the whole post. Raised by a single mother myself (who came into conflict with our father for our outside the system upbringing), I totally relate to this. Some people can't. Can't understand. Can't go beyond their own warped ways. Some people can't be fathers. And that says things about them, I think.
I'm glad you found the place where you can scream, then sing <3
Thank you @honeydue, your words mean a lot to me. It is crazy, how some people see the world. Thanks so much for sharing with me xxxx
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Thanks for all the support you give me xxxx
Thank you xxx
Being a parent in today's world is tough; being a single mom is much tougher. I'm sorry he doesn't understand and it's a bit presumptuous of him especially given that he's not seen or been with them in over a year. I am also glad you have a way to vent; by going out into nature and letting it loose. Thanks for sharing and have a lovely day!
Thanks @elizabethbit. It is what it is and as long as my girls are happy, so too am I. xxxx
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You are a brave, independent woman who fights despite of being a solo parent. Each parent have their own way of parenting and there's nothing wrong to have a unique one.
Yeah, I think real world is something we feel connected to ourselves and to our environment. Relationships are important as well.
Nice entry for the challenge.
Thank you @dennnmarc xxx
That's a lot to take in, accusing you of something when he himself is not present in their lives. It's great that you have 2 amazing ways to clear your anger away - singing and screaming and the spot where you do them is so beautiful.
Thanks for sharing your story and I wish you a fabulous day.
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Yes it is really, isn't it. Thank you for the support @ifarmgirl xxxx
You're very welcome and many thanks too, sis!
The mountains scream help
When you scream you let out all anger and get calm in return..
It one way to clear anger.
Have a wonderful day ahead.
Thank you @ijohnsen xxxx
Oh, I think I just saw two of those raccoons just jump out of their skin and that bear ran the other way when you let out that last scream hahahahaha, it's so awesome to have a place to release that negative emotion out knowing that all of the life around will absorb it and destroy it. I can't say much about a father who had any children and then bails on them, it's like they are in their own world, and there is no room for anyone in their world.
Good composition on your frustrations and release, well written!
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Thank you @jamerussell, yes I can't say I have any respect left for him. xxx
I am vibrating because I know exactly what you are saying and how annoying it can be... Sending you loads of hugs and light! 💚
I am also glad that you have established a healthy way of releasing what you must to enable your blinded resilience to glimpse at the magic of you finding control in letting go.
The wind from the north and south listens
To the voices
Of fierce warriors wielding their throats
Like sharpened blades
Ripping through
The pain of yesterday
While the sun raced from east to west.
You got this!
Thank you beautiful, for your words and poetry, it means a lot to me. Sending hugs and light right back at you xxxxx
From one strong woman to another... You got this 💕
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Dang it! I couldn't even begin to really think as I read this because as you say, everyone is different. It's a shame that your husband couldn't see reason with you. But as you said, screaming is therapeutic. We all have a boiling point but it's the way we handle it that matters.
Yes exactly, emotions are important ad even more important is how we deal with them. thanks @deraaa xxxx