Lily was somewhat entitled in the sense that she was used to being able to do what she wanted, when she wanted. It takes a lot of energy to work on that, and the Waldorf school system is more individualistic in the sense that they grant each kid their space and speed in learning and such. Sometimes a little too much. But between the teacher and I, we got it quite good under control. I wonder how it will be when Lily comes back from her mom.
The good thing is that by putting in some extra work at home, with games that make learning the numbers and such more fun, she got really interested in maths and reading, and finds every new equation and word fun, though the process is the same.
I guess the most important thing is what you write in the end - as parents, we have to reflect. We have to see our kids as how they really are, not make excuses for them, but see where the problem (or future problem) is and what it's based on, and then work the bases. But taking the time and energy to do that, to think further than the surface, is not easy, and many parents prefer to see their kids as perfect and the other people as flawed.