I find it interesting pathetic to hear people complaining about what they do not have instead of focusing on the thoughts, attitudes and actions that will get them those things. Of course, everyone does "life" their own way and that's acceptable however I do not believe that the short span of human life leaves much time to mess around on negative and unproductive thoughts and actions.
I was recently at an industry thing where a collective group of people who operate in, or on the periphery of, my sector gathered to discover changes to legislation that will extend our reach and limit it in some aspects as well; changes that need to be strictly adhered to considering the nature of what we do. It was an excellent two-day seminar and I caught up with others I know well and met some new folks whose company I enjoyed.
At one of the breaks I was talking to a chap who is excellent at what he does and is someone I value and we were joined by a fellow I didn't know until the day prior; we chatted about the industry, state of affairs around the globe and other work-related things until we drifted on to personal matters, our respective lives.
I'll not go into it but the second guy, the one I didn't know well, was annoying as hell and I could almost feel the negativity weighing on me minute by minute the more he talked. For a smart chap (he's super smart at his job) he was a dumb fuck; his thoughts and subsequent behaviours were incredibly limiting factors on his life and the more we talked the more my mate and I exchanged we have to get the fuck out of this situation looks shuffling around and trying to extricate ourselves from the shit-show in a way that didn't seem rude.
I've not lived my life perfectly - no one has, and if they indicate otherwise they're lying or delusional - and I've made mistakes. I've been in tough situations and failed, sought to win but lost, been the best version of myself and the worst...the dichotomy of life right?
Along the way the wins and losses - and more importantly the effort and focus I've put in - have always worked to my benefit, yep even when I failed miserably.
Having focus applies pressure (good pressure), as does failure, and pressure creates diamonds. Now, I'm not that into diamonds it's just a metaphor for the great value or benefit that comes from tough situations and failure that I'm choosing to use. Focus and effort in the right areas, at the right time and in the right amount will always trump focusing on the wrong aspects like the fellow above.
I'm not saying a measure of success can't be found by those who consistently complain about what they don't have just that greater success is possible if energy is exerted and deployed correctly.
My friend and I were saved by the seminar reconvening and escaped the unfortunate chap who is certainly not living his best life; I feel a little sorry for him but also because I am a man of ownership and discipline feel strongly that we're each responsible for ourselves, especially people who hold positions like us and that chap...negativity isn't something that works at all well.
What pressures have you faced that caused diamonds to form in your life?
Feel free to choose one that you'd say stands out in your life as one of the most valuable and tell me about it or maybe you'd like to tell me why you whine and complain about what you don't have rather than focusing on what you want to attain.
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Complaining is something you do to an authority figure. If you're the highest authority in your own life you have nobody to complain to. You make your choices and own the results.
Yep, you are correct! True Story. I am my own Boss. So I complain all day to myself mostly in my own head. Hey I gotta do something to stay awake/alert to keep on truckin' 👍😉👍
Haha!
You see this..?
These Sub Human Fuckers just won't go away will they. Do they think Hive and it's supporters owe them something?
Idiots...
Yeah, I gave it what it deserved.
A virtual bitch slap. If that place is so great why are they trolling over here. Just fucking go away already right?!?
Yep, they go up not down.
My Neighbors from hell...
Pretty proud to say I am still not a mass murderer. But there were a few times. Ok a shit ton of times they put me to the test.
Karma has inflicted much pain and heartbreak in their lives. So I celebrate that. Those fuckers are the worst. 20+ years we have had to tolerate them.
When consulting a lawyer we asked what can we do about them and their behaviors. The lawyer said unfortunately there is no law against being assholes, so just document everything, times and dates with photos and videos. We have a folder full.
The animal neglect was the thing that almost drove me over the edge...
Major fucking Diamonds right there.
Haha, they're pushing your buttons huh? If only they knew they're messing with the wrong krazzy person. Lol.
Seriously though, that sort of thing, for that length of time, must be pretty difficult to deal with. I actually know people who have moved away from a house and location they like for the very same reason.
We would have moved on also if not for the love of our property.
I have talked to law enforcement several times lately about the current drug traffic in and out at all times of the day/night. Called police several times over the years on them. Called animal control several times. Trapped one of their neglected dogs and took him to the rescue shelter claiming he was a stray.
We have won the long game tho. Their mongrel kids have grown and finally moved away. More like The Slut Whore drug addicted psycho bitch from hell mother of theirs drove them away. There have been many "wellness checks" by the sheriff's office on this drug skank as she has seen several DUI's. Yes I reported her for still driving under suspension. Her X husband found a younger Slut Whore and divorced this Slut Whore Bitch and moved on. This floozy bitch neighbor that used to weigh in at +300# that now looks like a 90 pound crack whore with rotten teeth and sores and hair falling out. That horrible Cunt is death waiting to happen.
C'mon Grimm Reaper. Do your thing man.!!!
So yeah, they have pushed my buttons too many times to count.😳
Some people really are garbage humans...a lot of them.
Having to provide - I came to EC with around 10k in savings. My ex-wife had a lot of illnesses and though she was working when I arrived, it seemed like the more money I made, the less she made. I worked my ass off for $300 a week, started baking as a side job and shouldered it all. 16h shifts, sometimes day after day, were no exception. But I provided. And thought that focus on work was one of the bigger parts that broke the marriage, I'm still happy with it - the bakery is quite the diamond.
Having a kid - refocusing on what is important. I never wanted children, but was careless and paid the price for it - not the child, lily is awesome, she's the diamond. But the pressures I had to get through to play a relevant role in her life were even more than the business had ever caused me. One is money, livelihood, comfort, self-realization. The other is being responsible for the well-being of an innocent, for their capacity to live a happy life. Nobody put pressure on me there but myself. I think most people expected me to just drop it, considering the mom's behavior, the hoops she had me jump through, the psychological violence, the threats and black mailing. I'm glad I put that pressure on me. It's worth it.
That's the two main parts I'd say. There was always some pressure, but I grew up with that, so I'm mostly resilient to it, and don't break easily.
Difficulties in life are often unwelcome and cause pressure to rise; it breaks some and others find a way to work through and take that pressure and use it to grow and develop. Seems you did that. Good work.
Haha I can already imagine your face with the dude whining, he found the right one to complain with 😂 I don't doubt he's smart though, attitude and intelligence and not directly related, so he was lacking good attitude even if smart... I don't know his case, I could understand a bit of rant if one constantly puts efforts and keeps failing miserably, but usually you manage to achieve something if you put effort
I remember a lot of pressure before university exams, that helped to managed well the time, the focus on what needed to be done in short time, one after the other
Yeah, I'm not a fan of whining so I'm not the best person to whine to.
Rants are something else again, we all do it as a way to vent although there's bad ranting as well of course.
When I was a small child, I cried because of the things that were not mine due to ignorance. But from the stage of being able to understand, it is necessary to pay attention to find things that have not been done, and prepare plans. I have seen elderly people in my neighborhood still complaining about what they lost. This wastes valuable time that could have been spent collecting something. I definitely pay attention to the questions of whether there is something that I want to acquire, whether it will be of more value that I should own it in the future, and whether I can own it, and I plan my future activities according to the answers I get.
Are those things you want to acquire all material things or are they also things like knowledge, understanding, self-improvement and development? If so which of them and why?
It should be mentioned that there were some physical things, and now I own some of them. In addition to this, I am working to develop my knowledge of various languages, and I am acquiring Japanese language knowledge first. Focusing on one language at a time, I will consider the next one once it is complete.
It's interesting that you chose Japanese; any particular reason?
No any special reason for learn Japanese language. But I love to learn traditional languages.
There was one particular situation in which I was responsible for providing a better life for my family. I was under a lot of pressure and had limited time, but that brought out a strength in me that I didn't know I had to find a suitable way to achieve that goal. Those were intense days, but I succeeded. It involved changing jobs, looking for housing, and everything else related to that, and I did it in a short time. That pressure was my driving force and a diamond in the rough.
I think it's good to feel and have an intensity to life, helps get things done.
And often very good, significant things. That fact changed me a lot for the better.
I definitely think ownership is a big part of it. I know several people like that where they are pretty down on life, and yes, maybe life hasn't been the "fairest" to them, but there is a difference between wallowing in it and owning it and moving on despite the setbacks. It's easier to be pathetic these days I guess.
Life is unfair to all of us at some stage, whining about it doesn't make it fair, or any better. Positive action does. But yeah, like you say, being pathetic comes easy to many people.
To me I see failures as a great and important lesson to mark out towards achieving that great success @galenkp we fall, we rise, we fall again this time we rise higher not from the ground but from experience. I really enjoyed your writings sir. Thanks
You say it well and I agree, keep up that level of ownership; it'll help you achieve more.
That mudassarfoladi Guy is a trash blogger... "literally"
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Yeah, indeed.