I had an idea to do a little series of posts about things I've learned and applied to my personal and professional life - lately it's been successful versus unsuccessful. I'll keep these posts quite short but hope someone reads something they can fit into their own life of they can use to good effect, or which prompts a response in the comments.
Successful people and unsuccessful people
Successful: Read daily and seek continual improvement and keep a journal
Unsuccessful: Engage in unproductive entertainment and don't record their wins/losses thoughts and feelings
Successful: Talk about and share ideas openly and help others succeed and excel
Unsuccessful: Fear change and have a know-it-all mentality
Successful: Happy, friendly and have a meaningful-life-ethos with set goals and plans to reach them
Unsuccessful: Dream, hope and wish rather than setting goals and devising plans to attain them
We all define success differently and even within our own lives what we see as success at work may be different to how we perceive it in our relationships, social lives, sporting endeavours, mindset and so on.
This is the second part of nine elements that differentiate successful and unsuccessful people and I'm interested in your thoughts. What success have you personally found and how do you define success in your life? Feel free to comment below, it doesn't have to be a long comment, just one with substance if possible.
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This is a big one for me. Around 2016 is when I started taking reading more seriously and my life changed for the better in so many ways.
Reading turned into a journaling habit. Sometimes about my day, other times about things I am learning.
Reading impacts the second point of not hainv a "know-it-all" mentality. As, the more you read and learn, the more you realize how much you don't know.
So great to hear someone who has had and not had a reading habit and how it's impacted. Well done!
Thank you!
In my country there is a saying that goes: "dreaming costs nothing" and it applies to people who talk about building a paradise but do not take action towards it. We all have dreams but we must work to achieve them and set goals that help us make them a reality.
Working to achieve the goals we want make them more enjoyable I think; it makes us appreciate the result more.
I always do this at work but I never considered it successful, just normal for me
What define success... We have the world wide definition I guess? Money to be rich, power on others, perfect family however it's not very realistic for most of the people to have all of this... For me success is reach the achievements and the goals you planned to reach, and this is personal, everyone has its own goals, mine are different than yours, when reached, every of us is successful in its own way... For example I want to buy a house, I won't consider myself successful until I don't get it
I'm glad you added your own definition of success, what other people consider to be success is rarely relevant to anyone else.
I'm still working on that second one. I think as I get older I have been doing a better job of having an open mind about things.
Better is a good result to be gaining, much better than the same.
Yes it is!
Points that clearly define the difference between successful and unsuccessful people. The point about keeping a journal is interesting; it got me thinking.
My latest success, which is a big one for me even though it may not seem like it, was being able to resolve a complicated and very risky situation, where an unscrupulous person lied shamelessly and caused problems that affected my property. It was a process that took four months. That person is now out of my life.
Best to cut cancers out, well done on removing that person.
I did it! Yes!
I always have a hard time pulling this one off. When I manage to record my little wins or loses, I feel a sense of purpose and accomplishment. However, the problem with me is to consistently maintain a good record of my wins and loses.
I wouldn't say I'm successful.. I'm far from that. Though I love setting goals, I love planning and putting in efforts to achieve my goals, I lack the most important skill good record keeping.
At this stage of life, I don't think I have a suitable definition of success yet. Maybe with more experience and achievements, I'll be able to define success.
Consistency is the key to so many things but people fail miserably; doing the right things consistently can be difficult and people just want to find the easy options I think.
Facts... Its truly very difficult to maintain a good streak of doing things right. Shortcuts, most times may seem less stressful and time saving, but i think looking for easier options is not always the best way.
I think this is when determination is needed.
Well done, responsible thinking.
I think it's great you're sharing habits you see common to success. I agree with the journaling one especially- it can be so helpful to write about your wins/losses and thoughts in life, as it gives you time to stop, think and reflect.
Wonderful post.
It's an aspect that has transformed others in my life,the journalling, and I can't help but see it as a very critical factor. Stop and reflect, you said. That's exactly it.
I really liked the point about successful people sharing ideas openly and helping others succeed.
I’ve found that when I stop holding back and actually talk about my thoughts with others, I not only learn faster but also build stronger connections. Fear of change used to hold me back, but once I started to see it as a chance to grow, things felt easier.
For me, success is being able to keep learning while also making a positive impact on the people around me.
Continually learning/improvement is a great ethos, well done and good luck with your journey.
You are right, the feeling of success is closely related to the goals that each person sets for himself in his life. Whoever wants to be a famous soloist will not be satisfied with being part of the choir.
For me, success is related to the fact that my work not only serves to earn a living but also to be useful for other people, to have a family and friends with whom you can share sorrows and joys, to achieve inner peace, that which allows you to go to sleep at the end of the day without worries that keep you awake.
Having a job that positively impacts others as well as ourselves is an excellent thing.
Basically to be, success is gradual thing,
Every stage in life has it's own success. Success in my own understanding is getting to the next level, Right from High school we succeed to college, then succeed to tertiary University, then we successfully graduated then another success is getting a good job. To some people is all comes easy and they win it all at once in form of big money or big opportunit, but can life be fun if we dont pass through all this stages of success. Success to me is breaking through to Next Level stage
That's an excellent way to perceive success in respect of your own life. Well done.
I guess in my life I have a successful second marriage, successful career and I also found success in my real estate investments. I had the goals set right after college in terms of real estate and I have been slowly achieving them. It took some time but it allowed me to get the houses of my dreams and eventually debt free.
I like the balance between financial and relationship here...success is never just one thing right?
Well, all the money in the world will not make you happy. So yes, success is not just financial and career stuff...
The way I see it, success is a collective journey. True success is not achieved in isolation, but through the support and power of relationships we build with others. We need to find and maintain relationships that inspire us, challenge us, and support our growth. The relationships we build provide a unique platform to significantly shape our path to success. Success is not just about money and material resources. It is not something that can be achieved in a day. It is the result of weeks, months, and years, and it requires continuous commitment and effort.
Well said, no one is a "self made" there's always other people along the way.
Simply put, successful people develop every day while unsuccessfully people sit and dream without setting goals
Dreams rarely come true, goals with plans to acheive them are a better concept.
I agree with you
A personal success I recently discovered: I’ve learned to stay silent when I believe it’s the right thing, and that makes me feel better. Before, I would let impulsiveness take over, and many times when I felt upset or uncomfortable, I spoke too much and said hurtful things.
And all of this arises from introspection and from the goal of me feeling at peace most of the time.
Sometimes it’s better not to say anything, to a certain extent.
And, by the way, I love the photo in this post: the center of the flower looks like tiny projectiles ready to release all its fragrance.
All of those small successes add up to larger things over time and if some consistently can bring huge positive change. Well done.