I had an idea to do a little series of posts about things I've learned and applied to my personal and professional life. I'll keep these posts quite short but hope someone reads something they can fit into their own life of they can use to good effect.
Successful people and unsuccessful people
Successful: Compliment others
Unsuccessful: Criticise others
Successful: Grateful and forgiving
Unsuccessful: Entitled and hold grudges
Successful: Give other people credit for their success and accept responsibility for their own failure
Unsuccessful: Take other people's credit and lay blame for their own failures
This is the first part of nine elements that differentiate successful and unsuccessful people and I'm interested in your thoughts. What elements make a successful or unsuccessful person - I'm not talking about what success looks like, but what a person does that makes them successful or not.
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Success means different things to different people, but you've hit upon things that are 100% applicable to every person. Not only will it help to make a person successful, but it will make them a decent human being.
Yep, and the world needs decent human beings because they are few and far between these days.
It really does feel like the decent human beings are far outnumbered now by those that aren't so decent. The assholes are louder, more belligerent so the attention focuses on them. It makes me wonder if the balance is actually that skewed.
More population = more belligerent assholes.
Yep, I want to know....what are these parents teaching their offspring, and how many generations ago did it all start?? 😆
Good questions, no answer. I think things started going well off the rails in the mid 80's though. Thanks internet phones and social media although it's not the tools themselves, just the fucken assholes using them.
Agreed, though I seriously doubt that those same fucken assholes would have brains enough to have thought up all the stupid shit that they're doing on their own. Enter the tools and they had an endless supply of stupid stunts to copy. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Mid 80's sounds right.
Successful people take initiative, unsuccessful wait for orders.
Successful people take criticism to improve, unsuccessful people can't handle it.
Successful people find solutions for problems, unsuccessful people wait for others to solve them.
I feel a little bit like a content creator for motivational posters with this 🤣 But it's true. Success usually comes from attitude. Also depends on how one defines success, but in general, there are those key parts to it.
Well said!
I've seen apparently successful people with those unsuccessful traits, maybe they have a lot of the other ones you're going to talk about later. They're kind of exhausting to be around. Fortunately I don't usually have to deal too much x_x
Maybe.
I gotta say I'm always grateful when the others deserve it but I'm unforgiving, if you do a wrong it is marked for good on me, even tough depends on the action and who does it
I would add humility for successful and arrogance for unsuccessful
Unforgiving...I like it. Shows character.
One thing I need to work on is eliminate criticism of others. I noticed that I tend to do that, but it is counter productive even when deserved.
Yep, that's one for sure...letting go of that will be of benefit, no point tonit, just sort of tethers one back rather than letting one accelerate.
I go out of my way to try and ask for feedback (different from criticism) - because I always want to be improving. Sometimes, I think the feedback I provide to others might be interpreted as criticism - in your experience, what is the difference? I feel it is a fine line.
I think the difference is in the context and delivery, (words, tone, body language). It also depends if the criticism is constructive or destructive and solicited or unsolicited.
As for people who take credit for others, it's happened to me several times at my workplace. Especially because there are "bosses" from departments other than mine who frequently come to ask for help, especially with project development. After I offer my help, they claim they developed the project themselves and that no one helped them, taking all the credit and leaving me aside as if I didn't exist.
Assholes.
I feel like a successful person who has learned to praise others when they deserve it, to be grateful for every good thing that comes my way, and to take advantage of opportunities. I am always trying to improve along the way. Thank you!
You seem polite too.
I like being one, it's good for me.
I believe gratitude is an important element in achieving success. Instead of criticizing and blaming others for our failures, seeing things from a place of gratitude means seeking different options for moving forward.
Best regards!
That's quite well said, and I agree.
This is so true - words of wisdom indeed. Totally agree!
Yep, it's undeniable.
Interesting approach. I like that you define success and failure through habits and attitudes rather than material achievements. I believe a successful person is also characterized by their ability to learn from mistakes and adapt, while an unsuccessful one tends to remain stuck in complaints or resentment. Looking forward to reading the rest of the series.
Indeed, well said; learning from mistakes is a valuable skill.
I think unsuccessful people criticise, hold grudges and lay blams because they are bitter.
Sure, one way to look at it I guess.
Interesting points of analysis that make us reflect.
Big hugs!
Yep.
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