Coffee and I are old friends (coffee is older than me of course) and I do a lot of thinking over coffee. With this in mind I decided to start a little concept called thoughts over coffee which I'll be doing from time to time.
I don't like laziness or reward it and while I don't have anything against down-time, relaxation, doing nothing and such other legitimate activities being lazy grinds my gears. There's many different forms of laziness including below.
Laziness - Self perception
Have you ever said, "I'm lazy," or heard someone else say it?
They're probably right in some aspects because saying things like that to excuse the fact they (or you) haven't acted is a lazy way to think. Here's an interesting thing about a poor self-perception or identity crisis though, it's a habit, a pattern of thought, that was created somehow and if it was created it can be uncreated and a better attitude put in its place.
We are all awesomely skilled when it comes to being ourselves.
Think about it...all the things you've achieved in your life. You learned how to walk and talk, use your hands, mathematics, how to put on your makeup or shave, how to drive, ride a bike...how to masturbate...You get the idea. So why be a wanker and go around trying to convince yourself you're lazy? He's a little tip, it's an excuse and the only person who believes your excuses is you!
Habits can be good or bad and a poor self-perception is a learned habit...as is ownership. The latter will work better for you though.
What you think will affect your attitude and it's your attitude that inspires need and want (I mean the need and want to do things) and it's those things that will move you through life in more productive, enjoyable and fulfilling ways. You'll be happier, trust me.
You are what you think so find out how to think differently, how to think positively about yourself and your abilities.
Want to be happy? No one can do it for you. Want to be successful in your job, schoolwork, relationships, sport, health...no one can do it for you. How you think about yourself will help you find what you want in life so discard the excuses.
What do you reckon? If you want to comment below then go ahead, I'm interested in your thoughts and experiences.
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In my experience most do not know it or refuse to acknowledge it.
I have a relative that has retired early on way too little of a nestegg to survive. Mooches off others (freeloader) who will tell you how hard he worked for years. When in fact after his day job he would game for another 8-10 hours. All weekend just a crazy amount of game time. He tried to get me to join him online years ago. He never lifted a finger to do anything constructive or offered to help me or others do anything out here in the real 3D world...
Yep, clueless or delusional mostly.
"The mooch", loads of them out there, mostly entitled assholes as well. The talk a big game whilst not playing one and generally whine and bitch like whiney fuckers when other people achieve and find success, all the while bragging about how much they have.
Most of the time I am alone or with a very few people who align with my lifestyle so laziness isn't present, for the most part, I should add. When I was still in the workforce, laziness was rampant and it sickened me. To see two people work the same hours for the same pay, yet one shoulders much more of the work load pissed me off so bad. I have never wanted anyone to take on any of my own work, though I did it for many, until I got tired of it.
I don't like inequality like you mention, I think maybe because of how much I greatly I find laziness to be abhorrent. Not going to hold myself up to be a paragon of industriousness but I'm not lazy, never was, and always get things done. I have a "lift heavy shit" ethos. It means to do what's required, when required and to look for more. This is especially so in my professional career where doing that really mattered. It matters still, just differently, so I'm that guy.
Your last line...that's the "lift heavy shit" ethos as well. I wouldn't have expected any less from you.
I'm allergic to laziness. If there’s a job to be done, I can’t rest until it’s finished. My daily to-do list is my bible, and it's pure joy crossing off the each task. Come to think of it, I'm the most industrious person I know!:)
Lists are amazing! Especially when they're written in very small letters, kind of scribbly, that no-one else would ever be able to decipher. In my case, not even me, way too many times.
Lists are a great way to stay motivated and on-point in respect of efficiency and productivity, you have always seemed like a list-gal; now it's confirmed.
Also, your industriousness is rivalled only by your general magnificence which is quite...umm...magnificent.
I agree entirely!
As any magnificent person would.
You have no idea how much I believe in what you said. We are what we think, and what we think can be a habit, like believing that we are this or that, like lazy.
Habits can be difficult to break if they are deeply ingrained, but if we think positively, we will fill the void created by breaking them with something better.
I don't think I'm a lazy person, but sometimes I lack motivation or encouragement for some reason or because of some negative circumstance I'm going through. In those cases, what I do is engage in an activity that clears my mind, something I really enjoy, such as crafts, walking, painting, or even chatting with my best friend. That gives me a spark of motivation and I continue on my way, as if it were an impulse. But I seek that impulse, I generate it.
I don't like to be idle.
Habits can be hard to break, but the only habits that need breaking are the bad habits; make good ones and one is on the right path to have a great life.
It seems you have a good understanding that makes you motivated, well done.
It always depends on us. Yes, I know what encourages me and motivates me to do things, and that means that the word boredom does not exist in my life. Thank you.
I think laziness is a perfect excuse for not keeping commitments and waiting for someone else to do it. It's very convenient to leave our responsibilities to others. I like to be active. I usually make a list of my to-dos and prioritize the most pressing ones. Now that my son is on school break, my sewing projects are focused on making his backpack, lunchbox, and everything else he needs for back to school.
Greetings!
A to-do list is a very good idea, I work off one almost daily and rarely do I not complete the days tasks. Good luck with the sewing projects. (I didn't know you have a son actually).
Thank you very much, I've already made progress with some, the list is long, my son is my number one client and often the most demanding hehe 😂
There is a big difference between being lazy and acting lazy in my opinion.
You can perfectly act lazy every now and then. I even think it is good when you do. I'm back from a three week holiday where I acted lazy quite a lot. It made me recharge my battery and come up with some creative ideas.
But saying you are lazy isn't a good thing I think. I also never told my kids they were bad, but that they acted bad. It's a complete other thing.
Yep, that's the down time and relaxation I mentioned; nothing wrong with that, infact it's a necessity.
This reflection is closely related to one of the topics from week 269 about being optimistic or pessimistic.
I think thinking about yourself and your capabilities can make the difference between doing something productive or not.
Often, the impossible lies in the brain, and we put the brakes on ourselves: we can't, even without trying.
It's better to forge your own future than to wait for someone else to do it.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day.
Cheers and greetings.
How do you ensure that you forge your own future?
I have tried to save some money, although it has been difficult due to the situation of the country and I have been thinking about opening a small business with my sister.
The thing that bugs me the most is when those lazy people call lazy to others, in complete denial of what they are, cause that's one thing I've noticed living with someone as lazy as it can be. I mean, I had to quit a job i adored cause my mental health was on the line, dealing with the weight of those who wanted to chat all day and do no work at all, but work needed to be done. Trying to talk some sense into someone in denial if both physical and psychological exhausting
Denial is in itself laziness; it's a person refusing to take the responsibility for the reality of a situation, failing to show discipline, ownership or making the effort required to move the situation forward. It's easy to deny it exists. Laziness.
I never said it referred to me, because I just hate staying there doing nothing, it's a waste of time... But I know people who say "I'm lazy" and with that excuse they sit on the sofa doing nothing but watching videos on the phone for hours, it's sick... Just stand up and do something
Yep, I get what you're saying...getting up and doing something positive is harder than being a lazy fucker and therefore many people choose laziness. It rarely gets them anywhere positive though.
I love the 'thoughts over coffee' concept. ☕💭 You’re right: we often label ourselves as “lazy” as an excuse, when in fact we’ve proven at so many stages in life that we can learn, adapt, and achieve far more than we think. The way we think about ourselves can be our greatest driving force or our biggest obstacle, and the choice is in our hands.
Choice.
We all have the power to choose, no matter the circumstances. The options available might all be bad ones but the power of choice always exists. Making choices has the ability to move one forward or hold one back, but choosing inactivity is often only going to hold one back.
Yes, indeed, we become what we think about. But changing ourselves is not easy..
I wonder if you have any personal techniques or practical methods that help you notice and change thoughts like “I'm lazy” into more decisive and effective ones?
I'm not lazy generally but if I find myself to be somewhat unmotivated I tend to find very small tasks that are easily achieved to tick off as i complete them. Because they're easy it's a small effort but I gain the benefit of actually completing each one and ticking it off which then helps to build momentum I carry forward into larger and more important tasks and then, before long, I'm back on track.
Having clearly defined, measurable, achievable and written goals is a big motivator though, and reviewing those should provide the required impetus to get the fuck up and on with things. Knowing WHY a goal is important helps also.
Noticing the need for change is as simple as taking time to self-reflect on a daily basis, or to review thoughts, attitudes or actions I've taken and rating them out of ten. Anything less than an eight is something I'll work on.
There's a few concepts for you.
Thank you very much, I will definitely try to apply this in my life.
Excellent, that's the way to take control and move life forward the right way.
People act lazy because they are unwilling to give up their habits. They hardly make any effort to leave their usual comfort zone. No one can force us to make our habits positive or negative. It is created within our inner mind. In changing our self-thinking pattern, try to change a negative habit into a good habit for a few days. Usually, after practicing that habit with dedication for three weeks continuously, it will happen automatically. It happens in the same way that bad habits happen naturally. The way we see ourselves tomorrow, the way we see ourselves in 5 years, is created by the subconscious mind. There are many mental imagery exercises to change the way we think. But it is also possible to change the way we think simply without going into too much depth. The most important thing for that is to try to control the way we think.
How about you list some below?
I don't have much to add for once. Very well said!
Fair enough, it's good to know when not to say anything.
I'm still learning!
We all are, or should be.
Its really hard to break the habits.But I think if we just have the self discipline Im sure we could overcome it.Laziness is one of my problems hahahaha.
I was hit by your words in the last part hahaha" How you think about yourself will help you find what you want in life so discard the excuses"this is a reminder.
How do you find self discipline?
You must have really enjoyed drinking that coffee
The bird flew under the mountain and found a cloudy fish.
İntriguing
It so happened that I was a very lazy child since childhood. Or rather, it was not laziness - I hated monotonous routine work. I developed the ability to be lazy to incredible limits. I did a lot in my life being lazy, I quit smoking without making almost any effort (after reading the words of Don Juan), I easily made money playing on the stock exchange, etc.
It seems you're an expert at being lazy; a dubious honour I'd say.
14 comments and everyone hates laziness, let there be at least 1 comment from a person who doesn't mind being lazy :)
Sometimes we are sitting in a gathering where there are many people but we are feeling very lonely inside because we know the truth about those people that these people are not sincere with us and sometimes we are sitting with a friend in a common tea place and sitting there we discuss all the problems of our life with each other. So that place gives us a lot of relaxation and then we forget the problems of our life once again and start anew from the next day and then we work hard to make our life perfect and forget the words of people and start enjoying life once again.
I tried being lazy. I really did. Experiences of different kinds are important to me, so I tried, but I completely failed at gaining this one. Being lazy is hard work for someone that wasn't born like that.
I don't think I ever heard someone saying "I'm lazy" in the context you mention. I heard many things like "I'm stupid, I'm slow, I'm useless" and other self-demotions, but "I'm lazy" - I don't recall that one. Sometimes as a synonym to resting, "I'm being lazy today" as a needed, yet timely strictly limited, break from being active and productive. But then again, I wouldn't want to hang around really lazy people, either. And I somehow doubt that they have the self-reflection to say "I'm lazy", anyway.
Paul Lafargue wrote an interesting treatise called "The right to be lazy". It's often misunderstood as him being in favor of laziness, which is not the case at all. It's one of those writings that, though very marxist, was forbidden in the Soviet Republic. I read it 20 years ago, but it didn't impress me too much. Just remembered it due to the title.
Powerful reflection