Maybe I'm weird too, but you don't sound like an asshole to me, at all. It's a huge issue, and it's not useful in the least, telling people they're fine as they are, and that it's somehow self-abusive (as if) to deny yourself any interest, desire, temptation.
I was just listening to a lecture around how self-restraint and regulation actually lead, in time, to us being better people all around. Obviously, it's not to say you should live as some sort of extremist or great puritan. But you know what I mean, I'm sure.
But ours is a society that's rapidly spiraling into laziness, hedonism, and radical self-indulgence, all the while selling it off as "self-love" and "positivity". As you put it, fuck that.
As for batting out of your league, I don't believe there is a single more attractive quality in either gender than the desire and will to improve and grow (as we ought to, continuously, throughout our lives). I know what you meant, but we use this expression re. a wide range of things - looks, money, skills - all transient things. If I choose to be with someone for the long-term/forever, I'm interested in how they ride the wave, not how they're balancing right now, and willingness and interest to grow (should) score very high when selecting a partner.
I think so. It makes us more compassionate of other people I believe, as well as more patient in dealing with them. Those without self-restraint, tend to treat other people very poorly.
I agree. Obviously we can grow in many ways, but I notice at the gym that the most attractive people (men or women) are those who are there putting in the work, regardless of their body.
And it can be a pretty gnarly wave to ride at times.