I was just listening to a lecture around how self-restraint and regulation actually lead, in time, to us being better people all around.
I think so. It makes us more compassionate of other people I believe, as well as more patient in dealing with them. Those without self-restraint, tend to treat other people very poorly.
As for batting out of your league, I don't believe there is a single more attractive quality in either gender than the desire and will to improve and grow
I agree. Obviously we can grow in many ways, but I notice at the gym that the most attractive people (men or women) are those who are there putting in the work, regardless of their body.
I'm interested in how they ride the wave, not how they're balancing right now, and willingness and interest to grow (should) score very high when selecting a partner.
And it can be a pretty gnarly wave to ride at times.