Can I just say I found it hard to focus throughout because of the sheer awesomeness of your bedroom decor? Seriously, it's gorgeous. I love the walls, they bring so much life into the room (and I love the minimalist, yet full of character arrangement).
sorry. obsessiveness over :))
I agree, it's important for kids to be able to talk to their parents. I've always thought that stems from a certain degree of friendship between parent/child. I always say, if you're gonna be this super-strict, super rigid parent up until their 16th or 18th birthday, you can't really expect them to come to you with their dating problems the day they turn "grown-up", right?
I think modern dating's hellish, tbh. Online dating creates this illusion of endless choice. There's always something better for you out there, you know? I also feel it's affecting our IRL interaction. Nowadays, it's quite rare for people to actually approach you on the street, from what I've observed/heard. I've also noticed online interaction has become so prevalent as to steal focus from in-person interaction, in some relationships, at least. There's definitely a bad side to being constantly available to someone via smartphone :)
I proved myself right, and I dropped that habit addiction, like a hot potato, and I no longer browse or find any satisfaction in viewing porn.
Honestly, it's admirable that you are so determined, and managed to drop it like that. And it's pretty cool that you feel confident enough to talk about that, I know it's particularly weird for women to talk about pornography, for some reason.
From what I've heard from partners and podcasts and so on, porn addiction apparently a big issue for young men over the last few years. Probably due to the increased social isolation, both due to Covid, and this whole online dating, remote working, etc. It's so rare to actually need to leave your house, and so convenient to be able to satisfy every desire right in the comfort of your home...
Okay wow, I've talked for quite a bit, so I'll stop. really cool topic, though. Namaste <3
I wish it was my bedroom. It's the bedroom my 17-year-old friend designed. I remember when she was selecting the colour scheme and I finally got to see it. It's now the guest room because she moved into the attic and has designed that beautifully too. She's such a creative.
That's so fucking true. That bonding, trust, and openness have to start from they are young.
It's the first time that I'm looking at it from a woman's perspective. I have many male friends who do internet dating. They're either going through a mid-life crisis or losing their wives. They are open about what they do, and yes, it's endless options, and it's just a different kettle of fish.
I won't lie, I find the dating world intimidating and somewhat daunting in terms of finding a life partner.
Yeah, I'm very aware of that. My girlfriends detested my habit, yet admired me for being true to myself.
I speak openly about it because watching porn lead to my abstinence from sex and being cautious (scared) to date (for the very reason that Taraz highlighted in the comment).
So, to me the timing of my "addiction" was perfect.
Really? Wow, she's super talented! <3
Me too. I remember someone telling me well obviously these online dating apps aren't great for meeting a consistent partner, because they're not designed with that in mind. As an app designer, my interest is to keep you engaged into the app, not deleting it after a week or two, right?
So they engineer the apps and subtly influence the culture and conversation around them to something more cold and superficial, which keeps you coming back. Obviously, app design alone can't change how people are, and what they're looking for and all that. But pair an endless amount of options with an ever more superficial hedonistic society, it's an ideal combination (for the apps, not so much for the people looking for long-term stability).
went back to see what he'd said: D Yeah, completely. It definitely creates this impression that that is what's gonna be expected of you, when you go to bed with someone, which can be frightening, especially since everyone's recovering from (or not so much) abuse or trauma of some kind. The possibility of being hurt and exposed to brutality becomes too much, and people shut in.
we learn what we need to, when we need to, right? I'm glad it worked out like that :) And I'm glad it didn't influence you negatively forever. There's people for whom that happens. I think it's when you're immersed in that long enough, it comes to affect how you view the world. They mistake what's on screen for how all reality out there must be and end up paralyzed, too scared to even go out for coffee with someone. That's a shame.
Sorry again for rambling. It's just a subject that's very interesting to me, how we interact and why and all. :)
I've come to realise and believe so ✊