Love is a verb that is not promised, it is only demonstrated... What's the point of saying "I love you” a thousand times, if they never show it?
Love is kept alive through actions, and it is not measured by speeches, nor with phrases of happy little box. I mean how that other person, shows you and makes you feel that he is present, in what you do every day.
I have always said and maintain that words are carried away by the wind. It's about how you take care of yourself, how you accompany yourself, and how you choose to be. Because if you can't say "I love you" and you show it in the way you look, the respect for your limits, in how they stay by our side, when things get complicated, in illness, and that's the complicated thing, because true love is not a game of tricks of words.
I assure you that good love is always present in the constancy of gestures, of that coffee that they prepare for you without asking for it, I don't know it's about great demonstrations, it's that message that comes to us in the middle of a rough day, it's that presence when we need it most and the most important thing at least it is for me it's about coherence, that what I say and do, are aligned because when they are not aligned love begins to be a kind of empty story.
You have heard many I love you,... But have you felt little?
That's why my parents always say that love is "actions that make hearts", this means that we can always review not only how they are loving us, but how we are exercising love. Or if what you're feeling has some relation to something you've already experienced, but you really don't know what it is.
Many times we connect with the other, but we go from problem to problem, from conflict to conflict and this happens because we make an emotional short circuit, damaging our relationships, spoiling our bonds, but, above all, we get into a spiral, or loops of attitudes and behaviors that take us away from happiness. What do I call an "emotional short circuit".
That of assuming impossible relationships, fighting until you leave the skin just for that "not to fail in your relationship", is an absurdity.
We deserve happiness and we should always look for the relationships that best suit us. None is perfect, none will give you "total" happiness, but when you understand that a relationship where there is more crying than laughing or more fights than caresses must be ended, you get closer faster to the one that gives you much more growth, more happiness.
It's about thinking, feeling, doing and expressing, but not everything stays, just in words. We must keep this message current.
With love,
Janitze. 🌹
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Translation with |DeepL
I love how you talk about this topic. Consistency between words and actions is also fundamental for me. ✨
That's right, sometimes relationships don't end they just turn off