Perhaps that would have been a more acceptable path, than trying to improve.
I’d say this one feels lighter.
Today I realized that each of us has some kind of expectations from one another — and we have absolutely no idea what they are. Yesterday, someone very close to me — someone I talk to for at least two hours every day about all sorts of things — got upset with me over something that meant absolutely nothing to me.
After thinking it through today, I understood that I was wrong. Because in her world, it really mattered. What’s important to me is different, but that’s okay — I made a mental note for the future, and we move on.
I think expectations are something we should work on too — but only if both sides want to. If there’s no willingness, then maybe the connection was never really there to begin with?
For sure it does and likely is. Which is why so many say "I was born this way" rather than I can change my future self by doing different now.
Yeah - this is the thing. Disagreements and even upsets are fine. Learn and move on. But avoidance of conversations "just in case" doesn't make sense, because it becomes tiptoeing around a minefield.
Likely. Why try to force a situation that someone doesn't want. It is like chasing a partner who has no interest in you.