Hola amigas y amigos de Holos & Lotus. Por estos días hacia un ejercicio introspectivo relacionado a situaciones en las que últimamente he comenzado a cuestionar mi capacidad para el autocontrol emocional.
No creo que sea para formar una tormenta en un vaso de agua, pero si tengo la sensación de que debo mirar un poco hacia adentro para ver como estoy reaccionando ante las situaciones de mi vida diaria, porque siento que a esta altura de mi vida, a veces tengo menos control sobre mis actos que digamos... una década atrás.
Tendrá algo que ver la agitada vida adulta? o tal vez el uso cada vez mas creciente de la tecnología? Aclaro, estas preguntas son dirigidas hacia mi mismo, no tienen la intención de generalizar.
El caso es que, recordando episodios de mi adolescencia con uno de mis tíos, le contaba como estuve casi un año llenando una alcancía ( una botella plástica de eses en la que se comercializa el aceite de girasol) con monedas de un peso.
Eran tiempos difíciles. mis padres me daban el dinero justo para el transporte en que iba a la escuela. No debía preocuparme por la comida, pues la llevaba desde la casa, pero dinero... había poco, una pequeña cuota de cinco pesos para toda la semana.
El ómnibus costaba 40 centavos, y aun así, recuerdo que en la mayoría de las veces no lo tomaba. Vivía a una distancia considerable de la escuela, por lo que debía tomar algún transporte, si o si. Que hacia entonces? te preguntaras.
Bueno, trataba de "engancharme" en lo primero que pasaba: camiones (de todo tipo), tractores con carreta, carretones de caballo, etc. Todo con tal de llegar con un peso "sano y salvo" a viernes.
Imagina el subidon de dopamina al llegar con dos pesos al ultimo día de clases de la semana! No era fácil, andaba en grupo y aunque la verdad el alimento no me faltaba, tenia que hacer un ejercicio de voluntad fuerte para no comprar los dulces que compraban mis amigos.
Todo con tal de ahorrar para cumplir mi meta!
Como esas anécdotas, tengo varias y cada vez que las recuerdo, no puedo evitar sonreír con una mezcla de entre lastima y condescendencia al adulto que hoy apenas puede aguantarse para no correr hacia el teléfono cuando suena una notificación.
Ahora bien, el autocontrol no es algo fácil de lograr, lo se. También se que lleva entrenamiento, poner en practica nuestra fuerza de voluntad, una motivación bien fuerte, incluso nuestra identidad.
Entrenamiento? Si, requiere ponerlo en practica en diversas situaciones, cada vez mas difíciles, para lograr fortalecerlo, como si fuese un musculo. Por supuesto, cuando nos hemos... flexibilizado por llamarle de algún modo, nos cuesta no reaccionar de modo impulsivo. En fin, debemos auto disciplinarnos para ello.
Fuerza de voluntad? Claro que si! Lo he comprobado en mi día a día. Se requiere poner en practica nuestra actividad volitiva para renunciar a lo mas fácil, a lo que podemos obtener de forma rápida.
En ocasiones me cuesta resistir la incomodidad de aguantarme, cuando el cuerpo y la mente me gritan: Hazlo ya! o Reacciona del modo en que siempre lo haces! Y es mas difícil, mientras mas lejos se esta la ultima vez que intentamos auto controlarnos.
Motivación? si, es esencial, en especial en los primeros momentos en que uno decide emprender acciones sostenidas en el tiempo para auto controlarse. Tener un por que, un que es lo que quiero.
En el ejemplo de mi adolescencia que te conté hace un par de párrafos, mi motivo inicial fue ahorrar dinero, pero en un punto del trayecto me di cuenta (con las limitaciones de la edad) de que algo estaba cambiando.
Llego un momento en el que me auto controlaba no ya por ahorrar, sino por que me gustaba resistirme a la tentación de romper la alcancía y coger el dinero para el capricho de modo que tuviera en aquella etapa.
Incluso, llegue al punto de que cuando me regalaban un billete de mucho mas valor, también lo guardaba rápidamente en la alcancía. no me daba tiempo de pensar como la cucaracha Martina: "Que me comprare?"
Esa es una muestra de como, con la motivación adecuada pueden incorporarse características a nuestra personalidad, cuando se realiza una practica sostenida de trabajo interno.
sin embargo, vuelvo al principio. a veces a este adulto le cuesta mucho autocontrolarse al sonido de una notificación del WhatsApp. Habra que pedir consejo a aquel adolescente obstinado que se aferraba a llenar su alcancía con monedas de un peso.
Agradecido por tu compañía hasta el final, te dejo un abrazo de amigo.
Texto traducido con Google Traductor.
Foto tomada con mi teléfono Xiaomi Redmi.
ENGLISH VERSION
Hello friends of Holos & Lotus. These days I've been doing some introspection related to situations where I've recently begun to question my capacity for emotional self-control.
I don't think it's a big deal, but I do feel I need to look inward a bit to see how I'm reacting to situations in my daily life, because I feel that at this point in my life, I sometimes have less control over my actions than, say, a decade ago.
Could it have something to do with the hectic pace of adult life? Or perhaps the ever-increasing use of technology? To be clear, these questions are directed at myself; they're not meant to be generalized.
The thing is, remembering episodes from my adolescence with one of my uncles, I was telling him how I spent almost a year filling a piggy bank (one of those plastic bottles that sunflower oil comes in) with one-peso coins.
Those were difficult times. My parents gave me just enough money for transportation to school. I didn't have to worry about food, since I brought it from home, but money... there was little, a small allowance of five pesos for the whole week.
The bus cost 40 cents, and even so, I remember that most of the time I didn't take it. I lived a considerable distance from school, so I had to take some kind of transportation, no matter what. What did I do then? you might ask.
Well, I tried to hitch a ride on the first thing that came by: trucks (of all kinds), tractors with carts, horse-drawn wagons, etc. Anything to make it to Friday with a peso "safe and sound."
Imagine the dopamine rush when I arrived with two pesos on the last day of classes of the week! It wasn't easy; I was in a group, and although I didn't really lack food, I had to exercise strong willpower not to buy the candy my friends were buying.
Anything to save up and reach my goal!
I have several anecdotes like these, and every time I remember them, I can't help but smile with a mixture of pity and condescension at the adult who can barely restrain themselves from rushing to their phone when a notification pops up.
Now, self-control isn't easy to achieve, I know. I also know it takes training, putting our willpower into practice, a strong motivation, even our identity.
Training? Yes, it requires putting it into practice in various, increasingly difficult situations to strengthen it, like a muscle. Of course, when we've... loosened up, so to speak, it's hard not to react impulsively. In short, we must discipline ourselves for that.
Willpower? Absolutely! I've seen it firsthand every day. It requires putting our willpower into practice to give up what's easiest, what we can get quickly.
Sometimes I struggle to resist the discomfort of holding back when my body and mind scream at me: "Do it now!" or "React the way you always do!" And it's even harder the longer it's been since we last tried to control ourselves.
Motivation? Yes, it's essential, especially in the early stages when you decide to take sustained action to control yourself. Having a "why," a "what is it that I want?" is crucial.
In the example from my teenage years that I shared a couple of paragraphs ago, my initial motivation was to save money, but at some point along the way I realized (with the limitations of youth) that something was changing.
There came a point when I controlled myself not so much to save money, but because I liked resisting the temptation to break open the piggy bank and take the money for whatever treat I had at that stage of life.
I even got to the point where, when I received a much larger bill as a gift, I would quickly put it in the piggy bank too. I didn't have time to think like Martina the cockroach: "What will I buy?"
This is an example of how, with the right motivation, characteristics can be incorporated into our personality when we practice consistent inner work.
However, I return to the beginning. Sometimes this adult finds it very difficult to control themselves at the sound of a WhatsApp notification. Perhaps we should ask for advice from that stubborn teenager who clung to filling his piggy bank with one-peso coins.
Thank you for your company until the end, I send you a friend's hug.
Text translated with Google Translate.
Photo taken with my Xiaomi Redmi phone.
I have one advice for you: master the art of the boredom state. In Pakistan, women are often experts in this. Imagine it's a winter night and you have to wash dishes with your hands in cold weather or wash clothes. Even with warm water, it's not easy. The art is about getting the job done when you don't feel like doing it.
Another main point of the boredom state is that, at some point, it becomes a passive task while you are actively thinking about something else.
Now imagine you have an office job. You’re stuck on a problem, and then later you’re washing dishes in that extreme boredom state, and suddenly, tada, you find the solution to the problem you were struggling with in the office for days.
One exercise to practice this is to take part in boring conversations. You often don’t feel like doing something but still do it to make others feel happy. Do you know that when we are helping others, we are actually helping ourselves? It took me a while to reach these conclusions.
I also watch YouTube boring videos where one person is just talking about a real-life event from their life. Nothing fancy, no fancy lights, no fancy editing.
Hopefully this helps you overcome your life challenges.
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STOPWell, sometimes it's difficult to control our emotions when it comes to spending. It's good to be strong-willed and focused. This would help us achieve our saving goals.
El auto control es necesario en todos los aspectos de la vida, y poder ponerlo en práctica en tiempos dificiles da muestra de tu carácter, no debemos dejar que las emociones nos dominen, todo acto debe ser pensado y reflexionado para evitar consecuencias negativas, buen tema. Saludos
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