We live in a very busy world. Everyone is on the move and up to one activity or the other. Every corner you turn into, be it a private residence, or a public place or even in the recesses of our minds, there's always a hive of activity going on.
Until you experience a thing, you cannot earnestly desire it's opposite. I am surrounded by so much activity and boisterity that I long for some silence daily.
I just don't mean outward silence but also inner silence. Do you value silence like I do? People often say it's because I am an introvert, that's the reason I love quietness around me. Although I do not fully understand how our temperaments contributes to this, it may be true on some grounds.
Extroverts are such lively people and thrive well in the midst of activities and boisterity. In fact, they enjoy being the life of a party or the center of attraction in a room. It's the opposite for most introverts I know.
I realized that where more than two people occupy a space or room, conversations will fill the air which at some point may inevitably lead to some noise making and in no time discord may arise.
Can two people co-exist in an environment without conflict? The answer is NO because conflict is a part of life, a portrayal of our differences in character and personality.
For a person who values silence more, it would not be easy to thrive in an environment —one riddled by much noise wherein conflicts arises from time to time, and when such conflicts are not well managed and resolved, malicious activities may also flourish in such an environment because of our human desire to want to always win or control certain situations.
When I settle down to work or even write a post, I prefer to do it in silence so my mind and brain can interact fluidly without external or internal distractions. The end result is always satisfying.
Unlike me, there are friends who I know that can read and study in the midst of a crowd. That I cannot do the same, does it mean it's a case of frailty of the mind? Does it mean my friends' minds are stronger and can withstand any distraction? I don't believe so. I think it bores down to our temperament in this aspect.
Another reason I value quietness or silence is that it affords me an opportunity of self-reflection.
When I tune inwards and begin reflecting, though it's an activity that activates my brain, silence helps me have a clear perspective as to what truly matters and what should take priority. This consequently leads to self growth.
Beyond the mental relief that silence gives, it helps our bodies to rest and recharge. Can you sleep in a noisy environment? I cannot but when quietness sets in, my body 'feels' it and immediately conforms. With my brain transmitting the message of silence to my body, it becomes easy to fall asleep and my body gets her needed rest.
In this article, Dr. Sullivan enumerates the benefits of silence thus:
- More profound thoughts.
- Stronger relationships.
- Increased creativity.
- Improved communication skills.
One thing I know is that most inventors whether scientific or technological, acquired their breakthroughs from working in silence.
It's beneficial to set aside a scheduled time every day and spend it in silence. It does not have to be elaborate. A few minutes with a cup of coffee watching the sunrise, quiet moments in the bathtub or in the shower, or before bedtime. Daily quiet times are encouraged and in turn, your body and mind will flourish.
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I can relate
I do like my space and sometimes I do take a step back from everything
Just empty my thoughts and makes space for allowance
I once had a discussion with a friend about our thoughts sometimes belonging to someone else and it is just parked in our head. So, we need to stop every now and then to shake off those that don't really resonate with us...
Ok, I might have deviated a little but just thought that just popped in my head - the question is, is it mine? ;p
I'd always wondered why this happens sometimes but like you rightly said, we do away with those that don't resonate with us!
I don't joke with my space and quiet times! Thanks for your insightful comment and have a good evening. 😊
I relate very much to your post. I recently married an extrovert and I struggle with his constant need for noise. He seems to struggle with silence whereas I thrive in silence. I have just resumed writing after the wedding 7/31. I'm learning how to adapt and carve out time for recharging and reflection. Thank you for sharing. Reblogged.
First, congratulations on your wedding! Hehe, I hear opposite attracts and it seems to be true in your case. There's beauty in silence! So don't lose your quiet times.
I appreciate your visit, kind comment and reblog. Thanks a lot. 😊
My pleasure and thank you 😊
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BEER.Good Writeup,for me I love to dwell in a silent environment.I cannot read where there is noise.Jt always distract my attention.
Me neither! I detest noise when I need to concentrate to read or write. Silence always works best. Thanks a lot for your visit. 🙂
You are welcome dear
You are right dear @kemmyb, we need time to pause, pause for a moment, leaving behind everything around us. It's very necessary for our inner growth.
Just like you, me too falls in the category of introverts. I prefer silence, but i have seen many people who will keep saying anything and anything but they will not stay silent for a minute. Actually they can not stay alone even for a small period of time.
According to my viewpoint if you can not enjoy your me-time, if you can not be with yourself comfortably, it becomes a little tough to make others live comfortable with you. All of the time you will be just trying to force them to be with you or to talk to you. And I think that is not good.
I am a fan of Master Rumi, and He alsontalks a lot about silence in his poetry. Till date all the spiritual Masters, i read or listened, emphasize upon pause, relax, silence, meditate and smile😊
Thank you for your nice post,
Have a good time ahead.😊
May God bless alll
Hehe, I know what you mean as I have people like this around me and I often ask them that don't they get tired of talking? It's part of their personality and we have to accept them like that. Importantly, we should create some time to relax in silence and appreciate the world around us.
Thanks dear for your insightful comment. 😊
I am rather introverted, too, like you! We are quite alike in that regard and I can't tolerate too much noise and chaos, or else I have to retreat from it. Some silence every day is necessary! 💜
Agreed. Retreating is a tactful way to withdraw from amidst friends or family so they don't feel offended.
Thanks a lot for support and comment. 😊
I think we all need a little peace and quiet ❤️ ... Nobody can be social all the time.
Well-said, thank you. I'm a typical introvert and I agree with you 100%. I too have some friends who can study and make decisions in the midst of a crowd. I do like being in a crowed but I need silence to think, rethink, read, form my opinion, etc. It's good to know that the silence will even improve your communication skills, as referred by Dr. Sullivan. Thank you for sharing!