It's unbelievable that you say "UnbeLIEVABLE!" but I'll believe it because....just because
I follow it up with, and you?
My favourite follow up π. Sometimes, it's a back and forth, where "How are you" and the answer are mirrored back a few times.
You're right most people don't give a crap and love to grab that opportunity to talk about themselves. There's a casual friend I know that does that. In a social setting of three of us, he talked almost the entire time. The other person and I listened. She didn't want to interrupt him (that whole rudeness thing) and I wanted to see how long he would go like this, just for the fun of it. It was about an hour and a half to two hours, then he realized and guiltily asks and how are you? πππ
Hmm yes people do that sometimes. I wonder if it's for lack of having anyone else to pour it out to. I tend to listen and encourage them to talk. If they're talking about themselves then I don't have to talk about me. Although, I guess there's times I do the opposite; situational I guess.
I think people don't feel seen and heard, so any opportunity.
This is funny. I've had this thought so many times. It is situational too. There's an ebb and flow.
I'm ok to talk about me, but I choose who hears it. I've always found value in listening though, one learns more.
I agree, move value in listening and learning that way. Selecting who hears it, I get you there.
Sometimes I shout things from the rooftops, but not so often these days. No one cares anyway. π
Yes, not so often these days. I've had that thought too, "no one cares anyway". I don't remember when I started to think like that, maybe ten years ago.
Best to simply stay in one's own lane. Those that care, or may care, will be drawn in. No need to advertise too much.