Yo le llamo PRIMER DESPECHO DEL INFANTE, el cual es causado por la teta, cuando a la madre le toca cumplir con algunos compromisos laborales y es que no todas tenían el mismo privilegio que yo viví, así que cuando llega un pequeño bebé, con esta situación a la Escuela, me dedico mucho a el, para ayudarlo a sobrellevar este difícil tiempo, y es que algunas madres laboralmente activas y más en Venezuela que no se pueden dar el lujo de dedicarse de manera exclusiva al bebé, porque les toca inventar mil maneras más para solucionar el tema económico, más por el niño que por nuestro éxito laboral, así es que surge este post.
Se lo dedico a esa mujeres exitosas, trabajadoras y madres que deben encontrar un equilibrio entre el trabajo, el hogar y el bebé, por tanto debe pensar muy bien dónde dejar a su bebé para que cubran sus necesidades fundamentales, pero más aún las afectivas, mientras mami está en el trabajo, es por ellos que hoy les presento a Alex.
Este bebé, ya es alumno formal del Mundo de los Niños, a sus cuatro meses, ya está escolarizado, también hicimos el mismo trabajo con su hermano mayor Matías, el cual aún está en la escuela, y gran parte de los niños en su familia , y es que debemos buscar un lugar donde sintamos que nos atiendan con mucho AMOR a los más pequeños de la casa, por el gran valor que tienen.
Pero el tema con Alex, es que tiene cuatro meses, y trajo dos pequeños detalles: 1.- Le gusta dormir en Chinchorro y 2.- Está enamorado de la tetica de su mamá, razones por las cuales un despecho es inminente, la ventaja es que los padres nos conocen, saben nuestra manera de trabajar y la dedicación que le damos a nuestros niños, y que nosotros también estamos claro que ellos nos traen a su bebé, porque sus compromisos laborales no pueden ponerse a un lado.
A medio día la mamá de Alex, logra escaparse para amamantar a su hijo, y lo digo no porque ella desconozca que las leyes están en su favor, sino porque cumple funciones importantes de Alta Gerencia, la cual requiere que ella trabaje arduamente, sabemos que no es fácil para ninguno pero es necesario comprender que debemos buscar el mejor lugar para entregar nuestros niños por más de ocho horas seguidas.
Debido a que al bebé le afecta tanto esa falta de la teta, la leche y el olor de su madre, decidí bajar a la casa de mi mamá para acostar Alex en un hamaca, a falta de Chinchorro, allí con unas cuantas minutos cae rendido, pero les cuento que cuando llega la hora de la comida y no se presenta esa tetica de mamá, se estremece la escuela con el llanto determinante de un primer despecho, y es que sabemos que no es fácil, pero con el tiempo nuestro Alex se acostumbra, con el apoyo de todos en el plantel, sin ánimos de suplir el rol importante de la madre, pero si de participar activamente en su educación y contribuir en el proceso de superación del destete.
Todos sabemos lo importante de la leche materna, en el desarrollo y crecimiento, proporcionando grandes beneficios, pero cuando uno como madre es trabajadora activa y exitosa, debes preparar a tu hijo para una separación, inquietud que le exprese a la madre, porque no alterno la teta con el tetero de leche materna y ella expreso que l tira leche es una forma de tortura que no tolero en su vida.
Yo por mi parte si lo usé porque producía mucha leche, lo suficiente para compartir con niños en la sala de hospitalización, una señora del banco de leche se encargaba de buscarla, allí la analizaban, y pasaba por un proceso antes de darla a esos pequeños e indefensos niños, que tanto lo necesitan.
Pero Alex, a sus cuatro meses jamás había agarrado una manila, así que nos tocar probar hasta con cucharilla para darle la leche, luego le hicimos cremitas, en fin le tocó fuerte el despecho, pero mientras pasamos está etapa, lo hemos llenado de amor, paciencia y muchísima comprensión, porque sabemos que un despecho siempre es difícil, pero ya pronto esta historia pasará a formar parte del pasado e iniciaremos otra, porque así es la vida.
Está separación de Alex y su madre fue algo drástica y necesaria por sus funciones en el ámbito laboral, las cuales considero no deben frustrarse por el hecho de ser madre o de amamantar, sino que debes buscar un lugar adecuado para considerar dejar a tu hijo mientras inicia su primer contacto escolar, además de tomar algunas estrategias previas para que no le afecte tanto esta separación, pero aunque no se preparo por anticipación, igual estamos aquí para apoyar a esta familia en el proceso que le permita afrontar ese primer despecho, ya que la teta fue su primer contacto con la madre, le proporciona una sensación de paz, lo alimenta, lo consiente, y ver qué de un momento a otro este lazo sagrado se rompe, debemos tratar de cubrir con amor todas estos sentimientos, para que este tiempo lo ayude a fortalecerse ante esta situación de despecho.
Sabemos que todas las experiencias como madres son diferentes, lo importante es que encontré dónde compartirlo, estoy muy feliz de haber encontrado una comunidad hecha a mi medida, como lo es #motherhood.
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I had the privilege of having time to breastfeed my daughter, but all the circumstances worked in my favor, and my mother has had a nursery for more than thirty years, the The school is upstairs from her house, so since she was twelve days old, the teachers took my daughter to share with her in the classroom, they said she had to get used to it, so that it wouldn't affect her when I had to work, and that time is necessary so that they do not suffer with that first spite.
I call it the INFANT'S FIRST REGRET, which is caused by the breast, when the mother has to fulfill some work commitments and not all of them have the same privilege that I experienced, so when a little baby arrives, with this situation to the School, I dedicate myself a lot to it, to help cope with this difficult time, and it is that some working mothers and more in Venezuela who cannot afford to dedicate themselves exclusively to the baby, because they have to invent a thousand more ways to solve the economic issue, more for the child than for our job success, so this post arises.
I dedicate it to those successful women, workers and mothers who must find a balance between work, home and the baby, therefore they must think carefully about where to leave their baby so that their fundamental needs are met, but even more so their affective ones. while mommy's at work, it's because of them that I'm introducing you to Alex today.
We did the same job with his older brother Matías, who is still in school, and a large part of the children in his family, and that is that we must look for a place where we feel that the little ones in the house are attended to with a lot of LOVE. because of their great value.
But the issue with Alex is that he is four months old, and he brought two small details: 1.- He likes to sleep in a Chinchorro and 2.- He is in love with his mother's tetica, reasons why a spite is imminent, the advantage it is that the parents know us, they know our way of working and the dedication that we give to our children, and that we are also clear that they bring us their baby, because their work commitments cannot be put aside.
At noon Alex's mother manages to escape to breastfeed her son, and I say this not because she does not know that the laws are in her favor, but because she fulfills important functions of Senior Management, which requires her to work hard, we know that It is not easy for anyone, but it is necessary to understand that we must look for the best place to deliver our children for more than eight hours in a row.
Because the baby is so affected by the lack of the breast, the milk and the smell of his mother, I decided to go down to my mother's house to put Alex to bed in a hammock, in the absence of a Chinchorro, there after a few minutes he falls asleep , but I'll tell you that when it's time for lunch and that mom's tit doesn't show up, the school shakes with the decisive cry of a first spite, and we know that it's not easy, but over time our Alex will It is customary, with the support of everyone on the campus, without the intention of supplying the important role of the mother, but rather of actively participating in their education and contributing to the process of overcoming weaning.
We all know the importance of breast milk, in development and growth, providing great benefits, but when one as a mother is an active and successful worker, you must prepare your child for a separation, concern that he expresses to the mother, because I do not alternate the tit with the bottle of breast milk and she expressed that he spills milk is a form of torture that he will not tolerate in his life.
For my part, I did use it because it produced a lot of milk, enough to share with children in the hospitalization room, a lady from the milk bank was in charge of looking for it, they analyzed it there, and it went through a process before giving it to those little ones and defenseless children, who need it so much.
But Alex, at four months old, had never picked up a manila, so we had to try even with a spoon to give him the milk, then we made him creams, in the end he felt resentment, but while we went through this stage, we have filled him with love , patience and a lot of understanding, because we know that spite is always difficult, but soon this story will become part of the past and we will start another one, because that is life.
This separation from Alex and his mother was somewhat drastic and necessary due to his duties in the workplace, which I believe should not be frustrated by the fact of being a mother or breastfeeding, but rather you should find a suitable place to consider leaving your son while begins his first school contact, in addition to taking some previous strategies so that this separation does not affect him so much, but although he did not prepare in advance, we are still here to support this family in the process that allows him to face that first spite, since the tit was his first contact with the mother, it gives him a sense of peace, feeds him, pampers him, and seeing that from one moment to another this sacred bond is broken, we must try to cover all these feelings with love, so that this time helps him to strengthen himself in the face of this situation of spite.
We know that all experiences as mothers are different, the important thing is that I found a place to share it, I am very happy to have found a community tailored to my needs, such as #motherhood.
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