Secrets require two things: a sealed mouth and quiet writing, in order to be true to oneself and others. That is why sharing experiences can be better and help others.
I believe that people can change, as long as they want to, set their minds to it and make the effort. Change is always possible, especially when the results in life are not what we want or expect.
Many people say that change is impossible or that at a certain age it is not possible. I believe that it is a lack of effort and willpower. If we do not like things the way they are, we can make them different, at least those things that are within our control. Not doing so is for some reason, comfort or a victim mentality.
I have changed a lot in my life; there is not even a shadow of who I used to be. The reason I did it is because I felt that the old me was not myself, as if the real me was imprisoned inside another me forged by ideas, beliefs, and education.
Perhaps I used to have a victim mentality, it's very possible. I justified everything to everyone, although I did so without any intention. I didn't know any other reality, but I wanted another reality, even though I didn't know how to achieve it. Perhaps the example I can give is that I believed that the bad things that happened to me were because that's how they were meant to be, perhaps fate, family heritage, I believed that I could do nothing else but live that life, those negative thoughts and asking God for help... that was what I had seen in my life and I believed that was how it was.
But they say that he who seeks finds, and I spent many years searching for answers and I found them. At first it is very hard, very hard indeed, it is like being punched in the head. What happened to me is my responsibility, or rather it is my responsibility to change my reality, to change my beliefs, my family mental programmes. That is hard work. They say it is harder to unlearn than to learn something new. Habit becomes easy through repetition, but getting rid of an ingrained habit is the most complicated thing.
Today I know that everything that happens to me now and in the future is created by me, through my thoughts, beliefs and actions. Let's not forget that thoughts are energy and therefore materialise into things. The world moves through action and reaction, cause and effect. I create my reality, no one else but me, and whatever happens, good or bad, is created first in my mind. Changing your mind is the key.
If I chose a bad job, it is my responsibility for focusing on aspects that were probably not the most important. If I do not make a decision in time, that has consequences, such as a failure to achieve goals. I am responsible for this and no one else. If I lose money or am robbed, it is because I did not pay attention. I am responsible. I am the one who chooses the things that happen to me, and therefore no one else but me is responsible.
Before, I was very affected or influenced by what I saw on television, the news, especially the negative news. I chose to watch it and it affected me more and more. I was immersed in a world of negativity, chosen... bad news, political news. If it was true, it would continue to exist, but it was me who allowed it to be in my life.
Today, I don't watch the news, especially political news, and if I hear about it, it doesn't affect me. I don't think about it. I know it exists, but I treat it objectively. If I let it affect me or spend my time talking about it, I would return to that world of negativity, and I am the one who decides what world I want to be in.
It doesn't mean that I don't know what's going on in the world, I do, but I choose not to let things I can't control interfere with my life. Wherever I focus my attention, that's where growth will happen, that's where I give my energy, so I choose to focus on something in my life that I can control and that is positive. The rest is there, and I am aware of the consequences, but I don't let them influence and determine my life. My change in mindset also takes this external aspect into account.
I am the one who chooses how I react and how things affect me. I have learned to control that aspect, at least when it comes to news and the media. For example, instead of watching political news, I prefer to watch videos about crafts or art, tourism, and even cats. I decide where I put my attention; it is my responsibility.
I found it interesting to relate two such good topics from the list of weekend topics that @galenkp always presents to us. Thank you for that.
Thank you all very much for reading today. I wish you a very good weekend. See you soon.
Amonet.
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Your post has just been curated and upvoted by @Ecency , keep up the good work !
we all change overtime i guess , or is it develop ? we learn from our mistakes and dissapointments and chose not to go that road again.
Thank you so much @stresskiller and @ecency 😃
Excellent reflection, although I was captivated by the photo of your cat-loving friends 😊...
Thank you so so much!!🤗
It is nice you took responsibility and changed yourself. It feels good to look back and see where you are now compared to then. At least it does for me. Been working on changing bad habits for a few months now. Gotten into some real bad habits the last 4-5 years. Slowly been breaking them and replacing some with good habits. Like you said. It is about tkaing responsibility.
It's not easy to break bad habits; it takes effort, but it can be done. How wonderful that you're making these changes.
Good morning @avdesing. I start with something secondary and that is with the size of the news... everyone should know that the first thing to do to know how the world works is not to watch the news.
Regarding responsibility, I agree, we are responsible for our decisions, we are also responsible for not learning from the lessons that life provides us.
Thank you for sharing your reflections and learnings.
I wish you a nice weekend.
I have nothing to add, I completely agree on all three points. Thank you very much and have a great Saturday!
I thought I was the one who agreed with you 😀... nothing more to add. Enjoy a beautiful Saturday. 🤗
😆Let us say we agree with what has been said...
Let's put it this way, then. 😀🤗
😆Very good weekend!!
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Good morning, dear friend @avdesing.
What you say is so true; people can change, to the extent that they set their minds to it.
You are an admirable person for the great change you've made in your life. It's wonderful that you learned to know yourself in order to achieve such changes.
Thank you so much for sharing these experiences of change.
Have a wonderful weekend.
People think it's easy, but it's not; it takes time. I've seen people who want it to happen effortlessly, as if by magic, but that doesn't exist. Thank you, Luis!
Hello, how are you, Amonet?
People who think change isn't possible are those who aren't convinced they truly want to change.
I can't imagine a different Amonet. How wonderful that you've found the means for your change and transformation.
Have a beautiful day!
There was a difference, but it was left behind many years ago! Thank you very much, as always!
Those cats are so cute... God, I'm amazed at how clean this place you're sharing is, that's the best part. I can breathe fresh air here.
Thank you!
Difficult topic!
Yes!!! Thank you!🤗
Really, we are truly responsible for what we focus our attention on. I admit that sometimes I focus my attention on tragic news stories, and on those days I sometimes even have trouble sleeping. It scares me to think about what some human beings do, and I get sad, but it's like an addiction—I keep looking for more... Other days, I decide to focus my attention on other things that remind me of the beautiful side of life, and it even changes my mood.
It is a daily task to choose not to watch the news, for example, if it makes us feel bad because we are punishing ourselves. Thank you very much!
In my case, it is perhaps because I sometimes act impulsively and without much thought, and sometimes I slip up and fall. I know that only I have the power to decide much of the information I receive or how I interpret the world, and I must be more careful if it continues to affect me.
The important thing is not to let it affect you, learn to control it so that you feel better.
What a coincidence, I just read your post and said something similar in mine. About attention and energy...😅
That's right, it's hard to realise that we are responsible for everything. And there are other things that, when you discover them, throw you off balance... But here we go. Life is beautiful. We have to keep going.
Yes, many things we discover along the way are difficult, and then we have to get used to them. It's part of the journey, that's how it is! Thank you very much! I'll stop by there haha.
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"Today I know that everything that happens to me now and in the future is created by me, through my thoughts, beliefs and actions". I totally agree with you, Amonet. But sometimes we inherit limiting beliefs that we must transform in order to escape drama and create a better reality for ourselves. 😀
The road is not easy, but it is not impossible. Thank you very much!