Me and my first love in happy days
If you know me at all dear reader, you will not be surprised to learn that I can recall not a singe occasion on which I have been a dickhead. Lest age has dulled my memory, (I am somewhat advanced in years), I have canvassed the opinions of my siblings (2), close friends (5), as well as all of the exes I’m still on speaking terms with (4). They unanimously agreed, after some persuasion, that dickheadedness is entirely foreign to my character. According to them, I have consistently exhibited patience, empathy, courage and wisdom.
One former beau did vaguely recall an occasion when I might have been a bit of a bitch, but since he was unable to provide specifics, his testimony has been formally disqualified.
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I try not to dwell on the past. Regrets are bad for the soul. But if I had to choose the ex I most regret, would it be the one who punched a hole in my kitchen door in anger, earning himself a trip to A&E? The one who asked me if I’d ever considered a makeover? Or the one who stole from me to furnish a love nest with my replacement? Hmm, let me pause for reflection for a moment. Yes, the last one. It's got to be him. The thief, the cheat, the duplicitous bounder who wasted five years of my life.
If I had to do it all again, I’d stick with my first love. We’re still good friends, and he’s still the same solid, loyal, steady soul he always was. A perfect counterbalance to my chaos. Had I stayed with him, I suspect my life would have been less of the crazy rollercoaster ride it's turned out to be.
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Posted in response to galenkp's weekend experience
prompt asking "Which boyfriend (that you're no longer with) do you regret spending time with and why and which do you wish you were with now? and Finish this sentence..."I was a dick head because..." Then explain what you did and why.
The images are mine
You might just be the only person I know who could say you'd never been a dickhead and I would believe you.
Do you wish it had? I love your stories, so I'm glad you've been living a doozy of a life.
Hahaha, thanks for that!
No, I wouldn't have it any other way. I love rollercoasters, but when I moved down here I thought I'd exited the ride stage left. Now, with a war coming and those CBDCs, I'm seriously considering scarpering.
Me too, but all I'm considering is leaving Nazi York State for Tennessee state, where more folks are onto the scams. I'm very happy where I am now, so it's a tough choice. I don't have the stomach to go all the way to Nicaragua.
Neither do I. I'm content where I am and far too ancient to up sticks yet again. It's a tough choice indeed. Martin Armstrong says war in Europe in June 2026. That'll bring capital controls, and moving money will be impossible.
Crypto will come in handy then. I remember that, when I first joined hive, Venezuela had recently gone south, and the only people who could buy anything were those with BTC.
What does Armstrong mean by "war"? Seems like there is war all over the world now, disquised.
He means war and drafts in mainland Europe and the UK, something our generation has never seen. For us, war has always been something happening elsewhere.
Here in the US too. I think that's why we accept our country murdering others (mostly brown) elsewhere as necessary. It's insane.
The charmer.
The beau that never was: the one that asked me on a date, saying, "why not? you're single, you live next door and you're not bad looking."
I think that takes the biscuit! Classic.
How could you possibly decline such an unbelievably practical offer?
The saving on travel costs alone would be significant. Some people really should listen to the words in their head before they allow them to escape from their clumsy mouth.
Always bloody marvellous to cross paths 😎 I hope you are well.
Wow a hole in the kitchen! That's bad
What makeover stands for? I translated and only found like rebuild but doesn't make much sense
Definitely chest the worse
A makeover is getting a professional stylist to completely change your image with the intention of making you more attractive. The cheeky brat. I couldn't have been more attractive!:)
Ah I get it now, like some trash TV programs where they change you all... Yeah definitely that's bad too, cheating way worse tough, I agree
Great shot of you and your mano. Great times ye had together. But given the madness of the band times, I can see how ye would have gone your separate ways. Pretty cool that ye're still friends though
I do my best to remain friends with everyone. Sure ya never know when ya might need a loan!:)
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I was going to question the ticketybooishness of said memory, but decided categorically against it, lest you swear at me and more importantly, I choose to believe that recollection. It's kinda cool you are still on such good terms with your self professed first love, life is short and genuine connections, few.
Oh I don't know what I think about that, I fear that had that been the case, we would have far less crazy, interesting, heartfelt and hilarious anecdotes from our very own deirdy one, I mean, what if you had gone from Of Xerox to becoming a librarian???
As for the others, like the man says, 'regrets I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention'. (Yup, I am hearing Mozz's counterbalance point, even as I type.)
Great to cross paths my deliciously crazy friend. 😎
Strange you mention becoming a librarian. I was offered a librarian's role after leaving college. Have you been spying on me?
why didn'nt you stay with him? Is he with someone now?
We were together 16 years from the time we were 17. We were in a band together and then travelled all over Europe necking Es and raving. Then we grew up and fell apart. Perhaps it had run its course or maybe the relationship couldn't withstand real life. He later got married and had a child.
That's both beautiful and sad, as first loves often are. I have a few of those, but lucky I found the one that satisfied me so I never had to look back - much. Love that photo.
Awww, this made my heart jump! haha.
That's exceedingly gratifying!:)
I reckon that you are a truly persuasive person. 😀 However, maybe everyone you canvassed are dear to you and figure - let sleeping dogs lie since none among us can claim to be dickhead-free all the time.
Wow those past partners - but we will not dwell. Not even on the last one. Your life is certainly very colourful maybe partly because of the rollercoaster ride.
No, no, that's not it at all. I'm simply perfect and they all know it!
Damn. did you date Hulk? or was that kitchen door made out of paper?😛
He has pretty hulkish alright, with a terrible temper. The kitchen door was hollow so his fist went right through it. Give him his due though, he did repair it:)
No dickheadliness? Impressive, but I'm not surprised really, you are a glorious example of excellence after all.
What a good name for a book, should you ever decide to write one.
Naww, so cute. Sometimes it's nice to remember the past and if it includes people like this then all the better.
Just one of the many things upon which we agree!
It is rather, but he became a solicitor, so I'd better not:) Besides, I forgave him a long time ago, and when I met him in the street about 10 years ago and ran towards him with my arms open for a hug, he took to his heels. The ignominy of being so ashamed you can't face someone. I think he has probably suffered enough.
We certainly do agree with a lot don't we.
He went running? Yeah, that's a sure sign of shame and embarrassment and isn't it funny, these people that do dumb things like this...they often suffer worse than the people they did them to; they can also find it difficult to move on from it and carry that weight forever in some way.
He actually ran away. It was almost comical. My brother contacted him on Linkedin to say that we we're back in Dublin, no hard feelings, let's meet up, and he blocked him:)
Well, if I was there I'd have gone after him, tripped him up and headlocked him so you could administer that hug.
My hero!
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Haha, you're funny!
Love can bring out such strong emotions ..and reactions in people. They say we hurt the most the ones we love, and I think this is unfortunately true. Its hard to avoid hurting each other when you get so tied up in each others various layers of crazy. I am sorry about the dickhead lovers you had to experience, especially the cheat who stole from you, it hurts more when they are that close. At least you are still friends with some of your past lovers, this is something I have never quite been able to do. Thank you for sharing. :)
Ah sure it was all a long time ago now. When I think about it these days I can only see the comic side.
Key-side-phrase there :-D Enjoyed the read and chuckled quite a bit, thank you!
Dammit! In the interests of full disclosure I had to mention the persuasion, but I thought I'd gotten away with it:)
Well, reading through the comments, you did get away with it quite nicely :-D
I did rather! I believe the hilarity of my opening lines left most of my audience laughing so much they were incapable of reading on.
It’s gratifying to know that, at the very least, my little witticism didn’t go entirely unnoticed.
Reading through your comments is almost as much fun as the blog itself.
Hahaha. Thanks! I'm lucky most people don't think I'm a screaming narcissist, though I have been called out for arrogance in the comments a couple of times:) Arrogant? Moi?
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It's just like that, sometimes we miss the past a lot, it's a good time and it passes by very quickly in our life, and when there is a problem again, we remember the good times and relax.