I didn't take my camera to the wedding, because if I did, I knew I would spend the night trying to get decent photos, rather than enjoying myself.
We had ten minutes before the taxi arrived though, so I took the opportunity to very quickly snap a few shots of us dressed up for once, since it is a rare occasion these days. We have also been "lazy" in taking family photos, which I think comes down to how often photos are taken on phones, because it feels like we have taken them, but they aren't good enough quality to use for anything.
My wife wants some photos for our walls and she has in her head we have some, but I know different. What she remembers is the random phone photos, but anything of any quality is years old already, so there is a large gap between drinks.
I quite like this one. I will edit it again in Lightroom desktop (this is done on mobile) and see if it is "wall worthy".
The ones without me in it are better, because let's face it, I am not the most photogenic member of the family and, there is the added challenge of also being the photographer simultaneously, which ends up putting me in an awkward position. Not only that, I have never been a "selfie taker" so I haven't gone through the trial and error of millions of self-absorbed images in order to get the perfect expression and angle.
I wish I had taken the time though, because I really feel that I might not get the time later.
While my wife was crying as the Father-of-the-Bride gave his speech and then hugged his daughter, I had this pang of sadness in my stomach that I won't get that opportunity with Smallsteps. Sure, the future is unknown in these matters, but with all the things going on health-wise, the chances seem to be fading. However, I am sure that if or when that time comes, she will be surrounded by people how love her.
People were pretty impressed at how well behaved she was for the entirety of the day, as she patiently sat through all the formal parts and then, all the informal parts too, even though she was the only child present and had nothing to do.
It seems that this is rare in kids these days and there were comments from a few other parents that they just couldn't trust their children at an event like this. I wonder though, perhaps that is more a reflection on the parents than the children and perhaps, the "lack of trust" is something that is part of the problem. For us at least, we trust Smallsteps will act well and we make sure she has responsibilities (according to her age) that she takes care of. Rarely, does she "fail" but when she does, we talk it through and give her the opportunity to try again with changed behaviors - we don't stop trusting her.
I think that this is partly due to our parenting style, but it is also that since she was born, she has had allergies that she has actually been "managing" herself at times. She knows what she can and can't eat and she doesn't leave it up to others to make sure she is taken care of, she proactively checks. And, since she started talking so early in life, she has also been vocal about it, speaking rather than only crying when something is wrong.
She has her moments still though.
But the good moments far outweigh the bad. And last night I got to dance many, many songs with her, which is always fun, as she takes the dancing so seriously and wants to do it well.
The wedding was nice and relaxed and the young couple (early twenties which is rare here) did a good job of organizing it themselves. It was also nice to see their friends take their roles seriously, as they are the first couple out of the group to get married and as is the tradition, they won't be the last, according to the highly scientific bouquet toss.
Our next wedding to attend is already booked for 2023, when the older sister of yesterday's groom and my wife's goddaughter ties the knot. Hopefully, I will still fit into one of my suits, so I don't have to buy another. Or perhaps, it will be a "tracksuit" themed party - that'd be perfect.
Though, the photos might not be going up on any walls.
Taraz
[ Gen1: Hive ]
Don't be ridiculous!! Never say never ❤️
I noticed quite a few girls in black gowns which seems a little unusual for wedding, is that a Nordic thing?
Ah, black is not that uncommon, but the majority were in very dark blue, which seemed to be a common theme for the wedding, especially for the direct family and those in the wedding party (bridesmaids and groomsmen).
I'm glad you were able to make those memories with Smallsteps :) ... Hopefully you will be able to be there for her big day too - it sounds like you do take care of yourself. But no need for sadness, you are both around right now...
!PIZZA !ALIVE
Around now is the best we can do, with the aim that what we do now will help us be around later too :)
Lovely occasion and lovely outfit as well, small steps will really enjoy every moment there.
She had a lot of fun and was able to stay up very late - which she was pretty happy about.
Nice photos anyway, you look like an old-time Mafia boss.
That is the look I normally go for!!!
You look good in the picture and your family look gorgeous. People don't get married in their 30s anymore as it were before. Most wedding I attend here are couples in their twenties. Things are changing.
I wonder what it means for the length of their marriages later. It was common in the past of course to be married young and have them last, but times were very different, as were the number of options available.
Kids do seem to surprise when they act well, it was commented on on ours at a funeral this week because they were respectful and not mental.
You will have to start practising your trout pout in a mirror and posting selfies to Hive. It is never too late to get on it! :O)
There are a lot of mental kids out there. Hopefully all the funeral concerns went well enough.
I can't even bear to look at myself in the mirror with my normal face.
Yeah, everything went well thankfully.
Same! I take photos of the non normal faces!
Funerals are rarely fun.
True, although the celebrant at my mum's funeral when he saw my kids glum faces encouraged them to get up and dance and celebrate her life with the music that was playing at the start which at first had me staring on in a transfixed kind of horror. As more people came in and saw it everyone started to smile and whilst it was a sad affair I always look back with a bit of fondness that it was not a typical miserable job.
Very beautiful photos my friend. You look good in the photo. One day your daughter will appreciate. I have very few photos of my dad when I was young as I come from a divorced family. Those photos of dad in my childhood are priceless. Thanks!
At least in my family, there weren't many photos by the time I came around - fourth in line - people were bored of photos of kids. Until my sister, the first girl. :D
These days, devaluation of photos due to the sheer number taken has meant that many people don't appreciate how important they can be later.
Add another +2 to your invite and we'll do a best dressed side bet between us.
:D
That'd be awesome!
Weddings there consist of just ceremony and church? No traditional Finnish play, music etc?
Ceremony at the church. Reception and food at some venue. Sometimes some silly games and generally a live band.
Such a tender and loving post and yes, I bet that you will be there to walk smallsteps down the aisle at her wedding ceremony 😊
All of the photos are great! ❤️ Its obviously you had a great time with the event ☺️
I really loved the first photo. She is looking pretty, quite beautiful.
I think kids with allergies become sensible earlier. My son has allergies and he understands his condition quite well. He was a small kid of 4 years when he got to know that candies would hurt him. He lived candies a lot but then he left eating any on his own even if one was just in front of his eyes. Exerting such a control isn't even easy for an adult.
A wedding with tracksuit thee is a hilarious idea. It would make things 3asier for the guests. Lol
I remember back when I attended the wedding of my friend, I also cried when the parents of the bride gave their speech. I can relate to your wife ☺✨
The first shot is nice. I love it.😍
Have a nice day!
You guys look great...especially love the family photo.
What's this talk about you not being around when Smallsteps is ready to tie the knot...wipe those thoughts from your mind look towards it. You'll be around, you're resilient afterall
Great, willing to not bring a camera to enjoy the moment with loved ones at weddings. @tarazkp 👍😁
Lovely occasion, lovely couple and sweet family..
Glad you've took these family photos finally.. It will be remembered forever.
We all have that one not so photogenic family member and I'm one in mine though you guys together look amazing!
This broke my heart, bro you gotta believe & stay positive you'll get that opportunity.. Don't say such thing's
Stay happy & smiling!
Your wife looks so gorgeous dear. I also love her dress
Pretty wife..pretty daughter..beautiful family 😊