The problem lies within most of the parents who are just too strict, trying to mold the child into something he/she is not and never will be.
Yes, parents have dreams and expectations, wanting their children to become successful in a certain field or way; of course, they should have dreams, they should also try and pave the path and guide their kids towards success. But the problems starts when the parents start being very, very specific about the path their child should be taking; not giving the kids any options or choices of their own, not asking about their likes and dislikes, not exploring their talents and limits.
Soon enough when the child is under extreme pressure, and is old enough, he/she then heads out in search of acceptance and value, which is something they probably didn't get back at home. That is how I've seen a lot of my friends become detached from their homes and parents; which then leads the parents towards questioning themselves and the route they've taken for their children's upbringing.
That's what I came to realize. Our socio-culture made us believe that it's always the child's fault that he/she chooses to be so. They never see what we are doing wrong as a parent.
There would be differences between boomers and millennials but there must be some basics so we can make our child's life better.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I think it's changing though, the very strict ways of parenting, neglecting a child's wants and thoughts is slowly becoming a thing of the past, but we still have a long way to go.
These "new gens" are a different breed though, they bring in different types of issues to tackle, issues and ways of thinking that we haven't seen before; yet, I believe most of it can be taken care of and understood by modern parents. Time will tell I guess, but in the end, communication and the understanding of both perspectives will always be the key.
Yes, long way to go. When I sit with other parents in my son's school; I still see the "same picture" that used to be in the 90s. Hard to believe, no? But that's what I found.
Many still think that a good grade will make their kids achieve everything. lol
While they forgot as you said, "communication and the understanding of both perspectives will always be the key."
I wish we could be a little more considerate to our child.
This was and still is the most pathetic thing I've heard and seen. Maybe they don't see all the students/people who hold A+ grades, but still can't find a job for first 2 to 3 years when they quite confidently head out of University.
Development of character and such other traits are much more important to be successful in life. If you you're not confident, if you don't put yourself out there, don't make a mark, a difference; then no matter how many certificates you hold, I say you won't make it that far.
Nowadays the most valuable asset is trust, that's how I see and have experienced it at least. Yes, even though I'm not recruiting anyone for a job, but one day I just might. And as they say...
Yet, I still maintain a group, a productive group related to my work and lifestyle. So, whenever I find a bunch of people whom I can trust with my eyes closed, I try my best maintain a good relationship. Because as they say...
I don't care where they're from, how they look or what grades and certificates they hold, and I know many other people who look at it the same way.
That's the right thought. Because at the end of the day, good grades only matter 10-20% if we talk about specific fields. So developing character and confidence is much more important.
I agree.
Glad that we can agree on it, because that itself is a sign of progress I'd say.