With a grain of salt

in #hive3 months ago

People are always pumping out posts about "how to Hive" which is a good thing, as it gives people something to write about. This is especially true when prices are increasing, as there is a new audience trickling in and people like to show off their Hive gumption - the best one I have read of late is this on.

Quoting the rules given in the post by, @nathen007

Are you ready ?

  • Engagement
  • Consistency
  • Integrity

That's it, enjoy!

Pretty simple. Personally, I would have added a thousand more words around it in order to flesh out why these things matter, but you can think about that yourself.

The other thing to think about is who's advice you consider taking, because unfortunately, not all advice is created equal and some of it is terrible. One of the benefits of the internet is that anyone can voice an opinion, but this is also a drawback. Another benefit is we can pick and choose what advice we listen to, but again, this can have drawbacks too.

Imagine going to the doctor with some weird lump and one doctor says, we will have to take biopsy and check to see if it is cancer, if it is we will then have to treat it accordingly with blah, blah... and then going to get a second opinion and the doctor says, "here's a TicTac, it will cure it".

One piece of advice comes with uncertainty and the potential for a lot of risk and even death, the other is literally, very easy to swallow. Who's advice do you take?

Now obviously this is s ridiculous example, but it illustrates something in us that makes us want an easy solution to our problems, whether that be health issues or financial issues. When we can pick and choose our "treatment" from the advice we consume, we are far more likely to choose what is the most comfortable option.

For example, I have mentioned the quoted list above probably hundreds of times (maybe thousands) in different ways on the blockchain, although I would normally use authenticity, instead of integrity. How many do you think follow the advice?

There has been a few. They are generally doing quite well. Those that said,

"Great post! great advice! I will get right on that Taraz!"

Tumbleweeds

Nowhere to be seen.

Let me tell you a story.

A couple days ago at work, there was a guy who had a bad run in with a customer and then as a result, he ended up having a run in with his supervisor because of the way he handled the situation. Even though the customer was well in the wrong, my colleague made the situation worse by laying blame and getting offended by what was being said. Once the guy came out of the office of the supervisor after being reprimanded, he threw the coffee cup he was holding at a glass door and smashed the window.

What do you think about this guy I work with? Would you be happy for him to look after clients in your business? Is he the type of team member you would like to spend your time with?

So, in this fictitious story, regardless of what led to the situation, his behavior is not only inappropriate for any workplace, but it is socially repellant, because of this is the way the person responds to normal workplace conditions, his emotional state can't be trusted.

However, this is much how people respond to things like downvotes on Hive, which are part of the content reward negotiation on the platform, due to the structure of the reward pool and culture of the community. Not everyone likes having downvotes available and most likely, most people do not enjoy getting them - but getting angry over them and posting about how angry and upset you are doesn't make you look like a well-balanced person, it makes you look like a toddler throwing a tantrum.

There is nothing wrong with people acting like toddlers, much of the internet encourages it, but on Hive, it is very likely going to cost you the respect of your peers and f you are looking to earn on Hive, social capital matters. A lack of emotional control will lose you any relationship building capital invested up until that point, but it might attract you some fans. Generally though, those fans are going to be birds of a feather, like-minded and like-resulted.

Sure, your drama might get you a little bit of engagement on a post and might even win you some fans, but it fails in one key area in the 3-step program, consistency. In this case, it isn't the consistency of posting each day or commenting, it is the emotional consistency that builds trust in a relationship. Sure, you can be consistently angry and drama-seeking, but the problem is, that kind of consistency gets tiring very, very fast.

When someone gives you advice that effectively has you throwing public tantrums, first consider what you would think of an adult throwing a tantrum because they didn't get their way, or things weren't as they expected them to be.

How dare you get my soup order wrong, you incompetent ass! I will have your job for this! Don't you know who I am?!

Yeah, a wanker.

People don't like the idea of controlling themselves these days though, they want to do what they want - and when it doesn't lead them to the results they want, it is someone else's fault, or the fault of the system. Self-control on the internet is even less likely, as it is a fantasy world where everything is possible, there is no such thing as reality, people can pick and choose their own alternative fact-filled adventure, always having something or somebody to back them up to support the position.

But, this is the life we have to navigate, where we have to make the decisions on our own activity ourselves and part of that is the advice we choose to take or ignore. It can be a perilous journey, especially in a world driven by the influence of money, because people tend to act differently than they would under normal circumstances, once there is the potential for money on the table. As said, I have written my fair share of "how to" posts on Hive and I have probably earned pretty well on most of them in the recent years,

but I will let you in on a little secret as to why...

  • Engagement
  • Consistency
  • Integrity

It doesn't matter what kind of social environment you are in - building trust matters and if you behavior can't be trusted, why would anything you have to say?

Taraz
[ Gen1: Hive ]

@nathen007, I have added you as a beneficiary on this post.

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This is very true and funny enough consistency and engagement takes time so unfortunately there are no short cuts. Anything worthwhile has to have some commitment in order to it be seen to have value. I am happy Hive is difficult for many to earn as they need to learn the value of what it is to make Hive by working.
We had a similar situation not with a coffee cup but with a phone that got smashed into a thousand pieces because an old lady (customer) said no lol.

I'm happy it's difficult, too.

Also, thinking about your last example, I think that even the amount of rejection that we need to learn to handle is a capital enough to be grateful for all my experience around. Taking No-s better? Cool. Learning to say No? Double cool. Knowing sometimes you need to grind through nine No-s to get one a-Yes? Priceless cool.

Taking No-s better? Cool. Learning to say No? Double cool. Knowing sometimes you need to grind through nine No-s to get one a-Yes? Priceless cool.

You get an upvote.

I am happy Hive is difficult for many to earn as they need to learn the value of what it is to make Hive by working.

Yes - if it was easy, it wouldn't have value. Instagram is easy for users to use - incredibly hard to earn anything significant.

I find it incredible what you have accomplished on here as it is a massive achievement one can be proud of. Every Hive represents some effort and that is the way it should be.

You get an upvote.

Hey, thanks, you get one too, as humble as it is. I got reminded of that "you get a car, and you get a car, and you..." meme. All right, I chose to be a family guy and I got the need to get a car even if that means paying for it for like five years...20 months behind, 40 months to go...too much private info on the blockchain but who cares ;) If it's a good conversation starter.

Like: "At least, in a Mad Max scenario, I am the one with a functioning vehicle, i.e. mobility and those money lenders have an irrelevant sum on papers promised to them." They have chosen to take such risks, they have the interest to keep such kind of economy going, they are ready to take whatever measures they can...Like keeping the illusion of peace and stability alive.

Do people actually seriously pull the "don't you know who I am" thing XD

Funnily, I have seen it here a couple times over the years - but yes, I have seen it IRL too - or close enough to it. People who look down on the people who serve them at restaurants piss me off.

Oh, well then x_x

Ergh, on the restaurant thing that's when you go "oi bitchasspunk make your own food next time".

Perhaps more politely >_>

but getting angry over them and posting about how angry and upset you are doesn't make you look like a well-balanced person, it makes you look like a toddler throwing a tantrum.

Looool

It is the go-to move for many people these days.

Consistency YES! i couldn't agree more!🙌

Some have it, many don't :)

As a kid everything my cousins did to get in trouble, regardless how far apart we were, it was my fault.

Engagement. I'm engaging and I have no idea why your Nathen tribute sparked that memory

Has anything changed in your cousin, or is life still your fault?

It is funny what triggers memories in us and chooses one from a possible selection of thousands. Perhaps it is so that we can go back and reconcile ourselves in that situation, with the tools we now carry. Some still throw tantrums.

Pura says "leave that door open." It's a sore subject dude.

3 Cousins, their mother (my aunt) the only DNA I have left I haven't said a word to since my mother left in 2013. It's really bad, I should stop now.

That is fair - no point dredging - Have a great weekend :)

You too my man!

I just learned about hive. Have been away from steemit for a while since I have been busy.
Has it changed much from what steemit was a few years ago?

Good to see that you're still active. You always have good content :)

Has it changed much from what steemit was a few years ago?

In many ways not, in many ways yes - There are some new communities that are doing well now, like LEO Finance and NFT Showroom for art content -the chain is improving technically and there is a lot of potential for development in the near-term. As far as posting goes - much is the same, post, comment - have fun.

Good to see you back. It has been a while :)

post, comment, have fun , that I still remembered haha.
The whole communities thing is new to me. But a I was making a post just now , I noticed that more has changed, like the Post Summary. How much impact does that have?

don't you know who I am?

Oh for goodness sakes, you all put your pants on the same way.

Engagement
Consistency
Integrity

Truly.

you all put your pants on the same way.

Do you remember those kid rappers Kris Kross? :D

Hi @tarazkp, thank you for your tips. I agree with you. I take my writing seriously, enjoying it at the same time. Positivity is one of my keys. Getting upvotes and comments is highly motivating because I love feedback so as a result I attempt to upvote and comments each day. This is what makes being in the Hive community fun.
Regards
Angie

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