Last night @tarazkp mentioned in a post that people normally reflect on their lives after a health scare.I can't speak for others, but I certainly did. It is one of those things that you don't see coming and it knocks you. I am sure it would be just as easy to fall into a depression or something similar after a big "event'. I find it humorous how doctors call it an "event" as it covers a broad spectrum.
I took it as a positive though as I saw it as a second chance, a second bite at the cherry. I was very lucky and was blind sided by a blood clot that hit my lung and is known as a pulmonary embolism. What was lucky is it took a chunk out on impact and I was still none the wiser. Other symptoms lead me to the hospital and it wasn't pleasant.I am the last one to ever get treatment for something as I brush health issues off which is not always good.
First of all it is being told what is wrong with you when you know something has happened ,but not sure exactly what has happened. They give you all the medical jargon and then it hits home what has played out. I knew I was one of the lucky ones and what goes through your mind is what if there are more? You initially start to worry but you keep it to yourself. You are in hospital so surely you are safe now, maybe anyway.
I was in there for just on a week having the various blood thinning injections and numerous scans. It was probably the most time I have spent analyzing my life. What I have done, what I have achieved and what I wanted to achieve. You dissect everything and I think that is normal after such a health scare.
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I sat on my hospital bed and went right back to school days up until present life. It is amazing what you can remember and the thought process was not jumbled up either. i could think clearly and it was probably the most important thing I have ever done. I realized what I needed to do and how to achieve these goals. It was as clear as day and the changes that i needed to make in my life now. I needed to fix me by putting myself first for once.
I changed and became a different person after this experience as I was basically resetting myself. What I had done up until now didn't seem to matter as it was all about the future and making the most of it. I can't make sense of it as I really haven't given it much thought since those days in hospital.
It is no fluke that I have started a new business and it is doing well as I had already processed what needed to happen. Nothing is as clear as how i am living my life now. Up until the health scare I was a happy go lucky sort of person and went with the flow. That person has now gone and I take things more seriously and make my own decisions. I know @soyrosa is a psychologist and it would be interesting to know if this is common in people or not. I feel as though I have taken back control of my life these days and leave nothing to chance.
I feel more alive than ever and am fully aware of so many things around me today. I just wish it wasn't a health scare that changed me and I could have seen these things before. This would never have happened though as i wasn't aware of the opportunities I had wasted. I had been a fool and relied on many other people up until now. That part changed immediately and I distanced myself from everyone to change what needed to change.
These are some thoughts that I have been thinking about since last night and it is something I wanted to share. I think it explains why I have so much drive and energy and nothing gets me down.No more health scares though as they are not a fun "event".
I believe in general scarcity is what forces us to make the right choices. Scarcity in money, health, years to live... As long as things are without limit or there's abundance we don't need to think. Only when we realize there's an end to something we start to 'spend deliberately' (exceptions are always there ;-))
I have many anecdotes of how people start to live their lives differently once they had a big health scare - so yes, your story definitely seems normal. It can have great outcomes in some, and worse outcomes in others. Some see their 'limitations' as an 'excuse' to start doing all the stuff that they feel they sort of 'deserve' like partying hard, spending hard, eating unhealthy, having superficial relationships because 'now' is more important than 'later'.
This distinction in how people are able to make choices in life is for a bigger part (not 100%, but still) 'nature', you're more or less born with the traits that will define if you can plan for the future or not. A health scare can then trigger/enhance these 'born with' traits - which is why even though health scares definitely are often triggers for changes in your life it still has a different outcome for you than for someone else.
It definitely sounds like it worked out very well for you - it sounds like you had some lingering 'good traits' that were in a sense given a small kick so they could come out and have an influence on your life's decisions :-)
Thanks for sharing this story!
That sounds about right and how I have thought it through. Thanks for that as it hasn't bugged me, but was curious if it was fairly common or not. I have changed in ways I think were there already like you said.
Oddly enough, bereavements of close family can havea very similar effect.
That would also make perfect sense. I haven't really had that though so haven't put that one to the test.
I’m looking forward my first health scare to see what it churns out
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I hope you don't have one as it is not fun. You will be amazed what you learn about yourself though.
Hey, @cryptoandcoffee.
It sounds like this health scare was a while back, so I'm glad to hear that you're alive and kicking and getting things done. :)
It is unfortunate that we as individuals, families, societies, seem to do the same thing. It takes a scare, or something worse, before we actually start doing the things that will actually make us happier, healthier, more financially well off—whatever it is we need and thought we had time to accomplish, or possibly what we thought we were already doing.
I don't know that I'm particularly waiting for mine to happen—it just kind of happens. Things you know you should do go by the wayside longer and longer while you compensate with the things you probably shouldn't do. I can't say I'm happy go lucky, but I can't really say at this stage in my life there is a coherent plan outside of STEEM (and it's more of a longshot than anything, at least seemingly for now).
Thanks for sharing this. It does give one pause. My parents health isn't the greatest, particularly the last couple of years, and my wife keeps coming back from the doctor with some other ailment. Maybe the problem is going to the doctor? :) Okay, just kidding.
It happened around 3 years ago and I still have scares every now and then. I think you are right that it is sad to have some thing happen before we wake up. The trick is to stay healthy obviously and try and see what makes you tick without a wake up call. Wishing you and your family many healthy and happy years.
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Thank you. Well picked up as that is what I meant.
Very true. My health scare a little over a year ago also made me think about a lot of things. I am glad to hear that you took control and didn't let it bring you down though!
I was very positive and didn't get down at all. I could see why others could take it the other way though as maybe they were feeling sorry for themselves instead of asking the why me questions.
I was kind of the same way. I had one evening where I broke down crying after I was diagnosed, but after that, I was pretty much just my normal self making plans and knowing I could handle whatever came next.
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