I concur with you on Shapiro and Crowder, calm and cool for the most part is so refreshing. But I too disagree with many of their view points.
A guy with a lot of great content, who for some reason doesn't get the recognition he deserves, is @kalmolinet. He's got a plethora on YT and his elevator pitch is straight up gold. I also like Nuance Bro on YT for his calm demeanor and legitimate logical questions and answers, even if I disagree with him sometimes.
Sometimes it amazes me a bit how people who are generally so logical, clear-headed, and open to conversation can stay so clueless & head-in-the-sand when it comes to such foundational issues as systemic violence & coercion. Ah well, each one is right where they're at.
Kal definitely delivers the message EXTREMELY well, haven't listened to him in quite a while.
You're not alone in this thinking. I think some people hold on to some views so tightly that even if they're generally logical, they just can't muster it up to admit they were wrong. Saying or doing anything to get off topic and avoid the question.
Ya, that attachment, or even identifying with the ideas makes it so much harder to break away from it and be open-minded. I actually love having those conversations with folks myself, I have had a lot of luck with just the right words coming through :-)
Sounds like you may have your own mini elevator pitch. I'd love to hear it!