Yes, and even more important that just living I have the most amazing opportunity to thrive in the remainder of my life - thanks you to @quinneaker! Even more important than what I wish for myself is that my children won't have the previously shit example of me and my ex as their ONLY example of what life can be like. Not only are they surrounded by much better people then they have previously encountered, but I know even my own energy is getting better as my dysfunction ebbs and resolves. I of course want great things for me, but knowing the impact this will have on my children's entire life means even more! Thank you for spending the time educating people - especially me - on the better options available. These last few weeks especially I can't tell you how many times my default reaction to something Patrick did was to be irritated or upset and I just thought about what you said and I would repeat to myself, "Be exemplary and be the better example for them." It really helps put things in perspective!
As a side note I'm really not mad at my parents anymore. They made bad choices, and they continue to make different bad choices and because of that they no longer have a daughter. Just because I have come to resolution within myself about who/what they are doesn't mean I would ever want that crazy back in my life lol. I know now that I get to choose who is part of my existence, and I damn sure am not going to waste my time on people who won't appreciate or deserve it! Thank you!