How a careless teenager turned into a (step)mom - Part four - BECOMING A YOUNG MOM

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'HOW A CARELESS TEENAGER TURNED INTO A (STEP)MOM'

(life of a girl who survived domestic violence and stalking, fighting for a better life)

Welcome to the FOURTH day I'm participating in the #monthlyauthorchallenge!
I'm really excited to join the challenge! Why? Because I would love to share some bits of my life with you.
I think it might surprise you and even shock you 😉

DAY 4 BECOMING A YOUNG MOM

Yesterday I told you about finding out I was pregnant and how I told my family.
Today I'll tell you what happened after that..

I had to tell the rest of the world about my pregnancy. Well, I could keep it quiet of course, but that wouldn't work for too long.. 😉 These are the moments you find out how loving AND how stupid people can be..
My family was shocked but they were also excited. 😊
The little baby would be the first grandchild of our parents, and the first great-grandchild of all our grandparents.
My grandpa was very surprised to hear there was a 'tientje'(a ten dollar bill) growing in my belly (when I tried to tell him there was a 'kindje' growing in my belly...) 😂
The news shocked all of them, but they were all being supportive! Thank God! That's SO important! Please, if you know anyone who's pregnant by 'accident', support the woman/girl!!
My family was supportive, some other people weren't...
One guy I knew from church kept asking me 'How could this happen? How could this happen? How could this happen?' After the tenth time that he asked me the same question, I asked him: 'Are you serious? You've got kids of your own... You should know!!'

My boyfriend and I decided to raise this little one TOGETHER in the best way we could. So we decided to get married.
Yes, I got married at the age of 17.. I was young, but I took it very serious. I made a promise to keep. Forever..
6 Months later @mirthe was born. She was the most BEAUTIFUL and CUTE baby I'd ever seen. 😍

mirthe baby.jpg

Everything was ready when she came, which kind of surprised the midwife.. She couldn't believe her eyes when she walked trough our house. She expected a mess I guess, because we were so young.. Those who've seen my post with the picture of the towels can have an idea of what she found and what surprised her 😉
I really hate the stigma around young teen moms. I know there are young moms who can't handle the responsibility, but there also a lot of young moms who CAN!

I didn't love the 'giving birth' part. IT HURTS!! WHY DIDN'T ANYBODY TELL ME?!
'You'll forget the pain'
REALLY?! I STILL remember I felt like I was dying. Actually, if I had the choice between moving forward with the delivery, or die, I would have chosen the second option at that moment I'm afraid.. 😰
BUT, I loved being a mom!! I looked at my baby all day. Day after day. Nothing else mattered.
I didn't even think about putting on some make up (which means that I have no pictures I can share with the world of those first days 😁)

I was a mom. I had this baby to take care of. NOW WHAT??
I'll tell you about it tomorrow.
Stay tuned!

-Thank you for your interest! I would love to hear something from you! Please leave a comment and I'll get back to you 😊 Hope to see you back tomorrow! Love you 😘!-

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@bettyboob I am expecting my first kid this April and I am even more excited to welcome him/her to the wonderful world after reading your story here (Given a birth for the first time) and at the same time, I am feeling worried for my wife as she is going to experience the non manageable pain. but she is willing to face all the pain to hold our soul in our hands.

Yes, you should feel sorry for your wife! haha. And you can NEVER EVER complain about having pain yourself in the future... At least not to her 😉
But, it is worth it. I can tell you that!

Yes!!! @bettyboob I too thought of not letting her know what I am feeling about this particular thing. I am excited to read your posts on #monthlyauthorchallenge as the idea you have chosen to write every day is just unique.

Thanks! I love unique in every way!

Congrats @letyouread, but you should read some of my older posts...birth does NOT have to hurt. I'll even take it one step further: It shouldn't....READ!

Haha that must have been funny seeing the midwifes face :-)

At that time I was actually really offended.. 🤔Looking back at it I can laugh about it 😉

Cant wait for more!

cute baby

Yes I know! 😉 Thnx!

Good. You have decided well. The little baby is so cute.

Thank you! She's just like me.. 😁😉

Ha!

🙈

Yes you are so beautiful and have attraction.

You're making me blush 😳

You welcome