When you have lost all control, you are subject to the consequences following every action you take and every word you speak when the anger completely takes over who you are.
Who you once were, before whatever had caused you to hit your boiling point, is no more.
Anger is a very transformative characteristic when you take into consideration the negative energy that fuels that inner fire.
Fire consumes everything in sight, and anger is the same, it aims to express itself through both physical and verbal expression.
However, through the release of this negative energy, we not only damage our peaceful state of mind and body, but everyone we directly or indirectly affect with our choices.
Never make a hasty decision when driven by an irrational emotion.
Uncontrolled anger is the destructive cause of many relationships that couldn't withstand its force.
Sometimes we let the situation and our initial reaction control the outcome rather than taking a logical, moral, patient and methodical approach, which is most beneficial to all people involved.
Here are some helpful tips, suggestions, and ideas to assist you in controlling your anger when you know that you have been pushed to the edge of your limits.
1. Think Before You Speak
It's so easy to express your immediate frustrations and disappointments verbally and in the process destroy someone else's self esteem, an important bridge, or your own reputation.
Self control with calculated risks in mind is the best way to maneuver through life. Always keep your mind and senses sharp to adapt to any drastic changes that life presents you.
2. Consider consequences before acting upon impulse
The first idea that comes to our mind isn't always the best. It doesn't hurt to take a few minutes to calm down and reassess the situation to see what your next move will be.
Depending on the seriousness of the circumstance, you don't want to end up hurting someone physically, damaging private or public property, and being arrested and put into jail for a minor mishap that could have been handled on a more reasonable level.
3. Release your anger with physical fitness
Running, push-ups or any other physical movement that requires mental focus and body coordination is a guaranteed release of pent and stored up energy.
Some people even dance or workout when they are angry and it is only to their benefit as it is an exchange of negativity energy for positive self building, allowing you to express your frustration through something productive for a rewarding outcome.
Imagine how much healthier you would be if you did pull ups, 1 mile runs, and push-ups every time you got angry (and no I'm not referring to roid rage in the slightest)
4. Write A Steemit Post/Write It Down
You don't need to focus on what you are angry about and go on a rant for everyone else to see.
People love to get involved in drama, directly or indirectly, and spread unnecessary gossip which isn't aimed to help you in the long run.
Write about what your passion is. Be creative, and let your mind wander with your imagination. Writing is another way to express your emotions, as long as the writing is also geared towards something positive or as a release.
5. Last but not least, Treat yourself
I will leave this open to interpretation. Fight anger with self appreciation.
You know what makes you happy the most, so whatever it is, go after it.
It could be a nice meal at your favorite restaurant, a trip overseas, a simple movie night, a concert of a favorite artist of yours, hanging out with your best friend who knows how to cheer you up with a good laugh and create fun memories, etc. etc.
We are bound to get angry sooner or later, but it is how we handle ourselves in those moments that will determine the outcome of such situations.
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Yes I can relate to this, sometimes what I do is write an email or on notepad like for a Steemit post and just write what I'm thinking, then I delete the email and don't post what I had on the note pad and it maybe doesn't make me feel good but I do lose some of the anger I'm feeling.
great topic - so relevant! if only everyone would act according to these tips
if only - that would be great..
Nice Post, Love it! Nr.4 is a good point :)
Good post. I think it would be cool, if you gave @rubenalexander credit for the image he created.
I did!
anger is something so nasty and hard to control. great advice, I'll keep them in mind
that's why being distracted and releasing that stored up energy is one of the best ways to deal with it!
I know so many people that have problems with controlling their own temper - afterwards they're always sorry, but whatever you do in the heat of the moment has consequences!!
that's right, and sadly we often don't remember that in those moments.
Great post! One of my coworkers has anger management issues
thank you, yes this has become a pretty common problem sadly.
I think it's extremely important to teach KIDS how to cope with their emotions. this can affect and help them a lot later in life
good point. if you learn this from early on, it will be much easier to apply
a small gesture or a little sentence you say when you're angry can go a looooong way. I've already learned my lesson from this!
that's true, but hard to remember in a moment of rage!
very good advice, I hope lots of people read this.
glad you liked it!
Again... I'll remove the flag when you include a link to the source.
edited now!
Thanks. I removed the flag.
Great blog post. I have found exercise like you are saying is the best method for me to cool down my anger.
yes, I can agree to that as well. And it's not just anger, also frustration or other negative emotions that you can release through physical activity
very good advice the issue is how to implement them in times of great anger congratulations post
thank you, glad you found it helpful.
Yes that's true - I guess it's a long journey and begins with baby steps.
losing control over your temper is one of the worst things to happen, because you have to live with the consequences even when the rage is gone...
that's true.. you should always try to think about the consequences before acting or speaking
You write about the symptoms of anger and how to control them.
Yep, good idea.
Yet you did not mention the important aspect of working with the causes of anger and how to work with being positive.
For suppressed anger can be very dangerous. It can either leak the cold way of revenge or set off some fears and neuroses.
Likewise, ignoring the causes of anger does not get you anywhere.
The is no justified anger. It always relates to some personal deficit. Good to be aware of it. Trying to be authentic does not mean having to act it out.
Being positive then ought to be a matter of conscious choice. Like turning back into the situation (physically or mentally) and trying to figure out, how one could have helped the other person. Good exercise, not always easy though. But its worth it.
Great take, but I go further in saying that anger is usually a symptom for something deeper. It is all well treating the symptoms but they will keep coming until the dis-ease (underlying issues) are treated.
Great post @sirwinchester ! Especially loved the gifs.
A lot of people can relate
Spot on! @sirwinchester upvoted and followed. You talk sense man :D
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